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Fritz
Trad climber
Choss Creek, ID
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:26pm PT
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Brandon! Big Congrats & Thanks for sharing the news.
I was 38 when Heidi & I got married. We both had prior relationships, so we skipped a few steps along the way, like asking her father's permission.
One other non-traditonal thing we did, was to let her pick her own ring.
Emeralds are nice!
If you can avoid the jewelery stores and find an artisan that actually makes rings, that's the ticket.
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rlf
Trad climber
Josh, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:36pm PT
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Good for you! Best of luck with your new life!!!!!!
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mouse from merced
Trad climber
The finger of fate, my friends, is fickle.
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:43pm PT
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No warm-ups. Just blurt it out or commit a speech to memory.
It will always be your shared memory.
And what a venue!
No fancy wait staff interrupting...
Congratulations, you silly!
Thx for letting us know, too.
Life decisions are so much fun.
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clinker
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, California
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:44pm PT
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Brave of you Brandon. Best wishes.
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Leggs
Sport climber
Made in California
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:03pm PT
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Congrats, Brandon!
(And holy sh#t, I almost blew it by posting on your FB. DOH!)
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NutAgain!
Trad climber
South Pasadena, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:09pm PT
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Congrats for finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with!
+1 to the down on one knee, and asking nicely. Also think about the time and the place if there is something special that symbolizes the life you want to build together.
I'm not much for a big prepared speech- just open your heart and live in the moment, express what you are feeling and what you want for your life together, and don't let pre-staged words keep you too caught up in your intellect. But different strokes for different folks, whatever works for you. Good luck!
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Kalimon
Social climber
Ridgway, CO
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:15pm PT
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Follow your heart and everything else will follow . . . Best to you Brandon, you have a good heart.
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nita
Social climber
chica de chico, I don't claim to be a daisy.
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:30pm PT
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Brandon,....Congratulation!!
Really happy for you .......
Saludos...Best wishes..
edit..... Weege...Nice visuals for the post below......vvv
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:52pm PT
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i haven't read all the advice here
but i recommend asking her father for his daughter's hand.
it was important to me so i did it
one day up in weed.
ol Richard was down in the lower pasture tending
his retired race horse and i ran down the
drive with a full wheel barrow
and as i helped dick with the chores,
i told him eye to eye that
i wanted to marry his daughter
and then i promised him that i would take good care of her.
he shook his head, aye,
and then gave me
the ol' cowboy handshake and crooked smile
and we went into the tack barn
where of course he had stashed a bottle of beam
and we toasted.
a few years later he died and i built him
a coffin....
and i can't tell you how many times
i've replayed that scene in my mind
when i was keen to duck out
and be a bitch...
that conversation and that cheers in the tack shop
and the handshake and the cowboy smile...
all of it,
has helped keep me accountable.
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The Lisa
Trad climber
Da Bronx, NY
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Nov 24, 2014 - 08:11pm PT
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Congratulations, Brandon! Here's to a happy life together.
I am not into diamonds myself but since I am a skier and a climber I always think something Black Diamond would be perfect ;)
There are black diamond gems which are beautiful and more affordable than the white kind.
Also consider a jade ring on a pendant, or create a custom design with a local jeweller.
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Phil_B
Social climber
CHC, en zed
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Nov 24, 2014 - 10:20pm PT
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I proposed to Cleo on a kayak trip we took on the Rogue River in Oregon. On the last night of the trip, there's a dress up dinner.
I pretended I couldn't find some bit of clothing and asked Val to help me find it. While she was rooting around in my dry bag, I got out the ring and surprised her on bended knee.
Here we are right after I popped the question and put the ring on her finger
Chose a ring that had a slightly recessed stone so that it couldn't get knocked out easily. Turns out that was a good thing, as she flipped her kayak the next day and dragged that hand along the bottom of the river for about 20 yards!
Good luck Brandon!
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madbolter1
Big Wall climber
Denver, CO
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Nov 24, 2014 - 10:25pm PT
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VERY cool, Phil! That's the sort of story that warms my heart. Thanks for sharing it.
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madbolter1
Big Wall climber
Denver, CO
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:26pm PT
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This sounds to me like status-seeking, proposing in a manner that will be see as "special & beyond the norm" by society. I'd expect the ring in this situation to be "extraordinary" as well.
Yikes! I never would have imagined it as such! Ever!
I guess that this goes to show the truth of the line: "The biggest problem with communication is the mistaken belief that it is happening at all."
I'd like my wife to be one who answers 2) with "Why the f*#k does that matter to you? He loves me and wants to spend his life with me."
Good luck with that.
All of the women my wife and I know would not answer that way. I guess a very different crowd from the one you know.
I can only speak to the sparkle in my wife's eyes when she is prompted to tell the story, and I am very glad that I made her proposal something that has given her special joy down through the many years.
Honestly, I'm amazed that it could be cast as a "status" issue necessarily coupled with a huge, status-symbol ring (which, btw, it was not).
Not my point AT ALL to Brandon! It's not very hard to "go beyond the norm," and I just know that he'll enjoy that special sparkle his choices now will give to his wife over many years. That sparkle is what I wish for him and his future wife!
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apogee
climber
Technically expert, safe belayer, can lead if easy
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:30pm PT
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weege, that's a great story.
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neebee
Social climber
calif/texas
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:37pm PT
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hey there say, brandon_ ... wow, congratulations...
such a wonderful thing to do...
may each day, be a good and blessed day of sharing and learning, in the 'new married ' ways... :) and, may it also be more of the same good things, that LEAD this far... :)
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tinker b
climber
the commonwealth
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Nov 25, 2014 - 12:31am PT
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for jewlry i would recommend checking out www.mostlysweet.com i can not make the link thing work, so you will have to type it in, sorry.
she does custom jewelry, it is worth contacting her for special requests.
i think the proposal doesn't need a whole story line, but someplace beautiful at a beautiful time.
congrats
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clinker
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, California
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Nov 25, 2014 - 05:37am PT
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Weege, you old traditional, son of a gun. Nicely done.
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Captain...or Skully
climber
in the oil patch...Fricken Bakken, that's where
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Nov 25, 2014 - 12:31pm PT
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Dude.....yer gonna....well, you know.;-)
Woohoo!
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Andy Middleton
Trad climber
Cow Hampshire
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Nov 25, 2014 - 01:09pm PT
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Brandon, do yourself a favor: After you propose, take your fiance'e across the street to the Eastland hotel and head up to the lounge they have on the top floor. The view of the harbor and Casco bay are stunning.
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