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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Original Post - Nov 24, 2014 - 11:45am PT
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Hey ST, not sure who cares, but I'm popping the question to my lady over the holidays. I'm going to do it at the Maine Museum of Art.
ST has been a wonderful place for me for the last ten years, life sucked for a bit, and there were people from this forum who checked in with me to make sure that all was well. The kindness of strangers that I have received through this forum is phenomenal, you all are so freaking badass.
Rock on, Supertopo, let's climb together sometime. My door is always open.
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guyman
Social climber
Moorpark, CA.
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:47am PT
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Good luck to you....
always a good day when a STer has a smile.
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BurnRockBurn
climber
South of Black Rock City (CC,NV)
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:52am PT
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Congrats and good luck
Shawn
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the Fet
climber
Tu-Tok-A-Nu-La
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:54am PT
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Congratulations on finding the right one and being ready to make that step.
Do it as romantically as you can.
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Ricky D
Trad climber
Sierra Westside
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:58am PT
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Just not in the dinosaur exhibit please!
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apogee
climber
Technically expert, safe belayer, can lead if easy
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:06pm PT
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Congratulations & best of luck to you, Brandon.
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madbolter1
Big Wall climber
Denver, CO
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:12pm PT
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Awesome!
My one bit of, I hope, helpful advice is this:
From the wedding onward you will frequently be asked as a couple (and she will be asked alone) two questions:
1) How did you two meet?
2) How did he propose? (More often directly to her.)
Number 1 is pretty easy, but you are right now planning how the answer to number 2 will go for the rest of your time together. And from a woman's perspective, it matters!
It honors her (as you certainly know), AND it sets you up to honor her in perpetuity to provide a really special answer to number 2. The pressure is on, man. lol
So, anything you can do to step outside the typical "kneel with the ring" bit will honor her during the proposal and for all time thereafter. The more she (and everybody that asks afterward) can see that you went beyond the norm and really put your thinking cap on, the better.
Actually, I'd get a kick out of hearing what you end up doing. These proposals have the potential to bring out the best in us, and the stories touch that oft-minimized romantic side that we all share.
ALL the best to you!
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micronut
Trad climber
Fresno/Clovis, ca
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:15pm PT
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Hey man, don't even try to say too much. You're gonna be a blabbering mess anyway and it all comes out as gibberish.
I do however, recommend getting on one knee. And ASKING her. Don't say...."Let's get married.." It should always be "will you marry me."
I'm kinda old fashioned, but all girls deep inside want the chivalry of the knight kneeling down and asking for her hand in marriage. All the other antics, be they extreme or simple, can be worked around, but stick to the kneel and ask if nothing else.
Again, congrats on a new chapter. hopefully you "marry up" like I did.
Scott
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:17pm PT
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Congrats Brandon!!! I take it she doesn't snoop around ST.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:28pm PT
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marriage rules!
my two cents.
it's a personal growth catalyst at times
and in others it's
a soft, feathery bivy
beneath stars,
a sunrise, and a sunset all at once.
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MisterE
Gym climber
Bishop, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:31pm PT
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Happy for you Brandon! Congratulations!
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John M
climber
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:34pm PT
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It should always be "will you marry me."
what Micronut said. And to me..the proposal is about keeping it simple. Its a deep personal commitment, and deserves a certain solemnness.
I wish you the best Brandon. You seem like a good person. And damn dude.. the jumps you have pulled off. And the skiing.. dang.. proud ballsy stuff. Keep your head up. Women/people respond to a belief in oneself. Not false hubris, but belief based on knowing oneself. You come across as a good solid person with courage and good character. Keep that up and people will continue to respond well to you. And hopefully, if she is the right one, this lady will too.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Sport climber
moving thru
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:39pm PT
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+ a bunch for the kneeling and asking! Simple can be beautiful, to much has the potential to take from the incredible moment of the love of two people and the commitment of life together.
Brandon, + a bunch for what you said about ST. Nearly 7 years now around the campfire. lynnie
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:48pm PT
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Good luck!
You deserve it!
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wilbeer
Mountain climber
Terence Wilson greeneck alleghenys,ny,
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:54pm PT
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Congrats ,Brandon.
All the best to you and yours.
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Jingy
climber
Somewhere out there
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:01pm PT
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Goof luck and congrats...
go in with no expectation and no ego and watch as your wildest dreams come true.
Cheers
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SC seagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, or In What Time Zone Am I?
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:09pm PT
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yeah Brandon!
So many cakes, so many ideas!
What a wonderful adventure....so so so many happy returns for you.
Susan
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Nov 24, 2014 - 01:10pm PT
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Man, what a trip it is being in the right state of mind to take this step. Sobriety has been my thing for the last six months, and it's that presence of mind that helped me realize this is the right move.
Thanks for all your kind words and encouragement, life is truly spectacular sometimes.
By the way, when the wedding happens, you all should be there.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Nov 24, 2014 - 01:18pm PT
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PS, any gem dealers out there? I'm not going with diamonds, non-traditional is our thing.
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Fat Dad
Trad climber
Los Angeles, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:22pm PT
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First of all, congrats. I hope it's the start of a wonderful journey together. Second, thanks for sharing with us.
Third, did you ask her folks first? This is clearly a matter of preference. I did the romantic get down on one knee and ask her to marry me. However, when I told my folks (who are pretty nonjudgmental), the first thing they asked was whether I asked her parents for permission. When I said that I didn't, they kind of got ass face. YMMV.
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JEleazarian
Trad climber
Fresno CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:22pm PT
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This is great news, brandon. There's been a lot of good advice given, so all I can say is that it can be, indeed, as good as the optimists claim. I even enjoyed our wedding itself, but that's because I simply yielded to my fiancee's wishes. I thereby already learned the four most important words for a married man: "Yes, dear," and "I'm sorry." We passed our 31-year mark last week, and I love her even more now than I did then.
I hope you and she have the most blessed time together.
John
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RyanD
climber
Squamish
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:24pm PT
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Nice Brandon!
I'm happy to hear you say what a good place you are in. Very cool.
Congrats and best of luck to you both man!
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Nov 24, 2014 - 01:37pm PT
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For what it's worth, this is my idea. I'm thirty five, not getting any younger, and my lady is everything I desire in a woman. She may be a city girl, but she loves the country life.
I actually created a monster, as she only wants to wear Pattagucci and carhartt these days. She doesn't climb, but she's cool with me taking off for the weekend to climb, hike, whatever. It's all so very healthy and mutually appreciative.
I haven't asked her dad. I should, but he's not very present in her life.
It seems that sometimes the best partnerships are formed between people with vastly different interests. YMMV.
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Norton
Social climber
quitcherbellyachin
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:38pm PT
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I'm kinda old fashioned, but all girls deep inside want the chivalry of the knight kneeling down and asking for her hand in marriage. All the other antics, be they extreme or simple, can be worked around, but stick to the kneel and ask if nothing else.
yes to micronut's good advice
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SC seagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, or In What Time Zone Am I?
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:40pm PT
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I'm thirty five, not getting any younger
ahhh.....don't go there with this crowd! You are plenty young. I didn't have my son until I was 41...and even then I wasn't sure I was ready.
Sounds like you two are a good match!
Susan
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micronut
Trad climber
Fresno/Clovis, ca
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:45pm PT
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Brandon my wife is not a climber either. Nearly 20 years, and she still supports my thirst for adventure. There was a time I envisioned that I would marry an outdoorsy "climber chick" . type. But there are more important things than your hobbies. Climbing is my passion and in my blood forever, but my real passion should be her and my pursuits should always follow meeting her needs first.
If she ever needs me, and I have the biggest baddest raddest trip planned, I'll cancel it in a heartbeat.
Marriage is not a 50/50 thing. That is a recipe for disaster that breeds ticky tack selfishness.
Somebody wise once told me give 90 and expect 10. It has worked for us for years.
Scott
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Fat Dad
Trad climber
Los Angeles, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:57pm PT
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My wife does (or did) climb. We met thru a mutual climbing friend. However, apart from getting out with her before having kids, that hasn't really made a difference in my climbing. In fact, I think it's probably had an adverse impact. Since she gave it up (more or less) when we had kids she kind of expected me to. As long as your spouse understands your need to get out, and you work to accomodate it, you'll be fine.
Is this the latina you posted about a while back?
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madbolter1
Big Wall climber
Denver, CO
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Nov 24, 2014 - 02:02pm PT
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I'm not suggesting a dog and pony show. But if you do anything to add specialness to the "kneel and ask" routine, it will count.
The "kneel and ask" is critical. Absolutely! But after 20 years, my wife still gets great warmth and joy by describing the "antics" I added to the bare "kneel and ask." Yes, don't go nuts, but I highly recommend surrounding "kneel and ask" in as special of a context as your mutual personalities make appropriate.
Dave is also so right: "Don't go into debt."
My wife was a kindergarten teacher. I was supposedly in Santa Barbara, hours north, at the point I arranged the proposal. Instead I took the day off and enlisted the help of fellow teachers and her students. Bit by bit over the course of the day, people brought her things. First a vase, then rose by rose a bouquet. Each item was coupled with a loving note that included a clue. By the time the bouquet was assembled the clues explained when and where to meet (at what was for us a special place). When we met I did the "kneel and ask" (having already asked her parents permission).
I'm not saying dog and pony show. But the subtle details of context add lasting value. And you don't need to spend tons of money to gain the most lasting value.
I wish you a special proposal and a lifetime of happiness!
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John M
climber
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Nov 24, 2014 - 02:11pm PT
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My wife was a kindergarten teacher. I was supposedly in Santa Barbara, hours north, at the point I arranged the proposal. Instead I took the day off and enlisted the help of fellow teachers and her students. Bit by bit over the course of the day, people brought her things. First a vase, then rose by rose a bouquet. Each item was coupled with a loving note that included a clue. By the time the bouquet was assembled the clues explained when and where to meet (at what was for us a special place). When we met I did the "kneel and ask" (having already asked her parents permission).
nicely done.. must have made her feel extra special.
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phylp
Trad climber
Upland, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 02:16pm PT
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Brandon, I am THRILLED to hear this news. So cool that you choose to share it with us.
Xoxo Phyl
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Vitaliy M.
Mountain climber
San Francisco
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Nov 24, 2014 - 02:21pm PT
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Good luck man! Incredibly big step in life. I am attending 2 weddings this December. Holiday season is rough for us single people. Might have to get an OKcupid account...or a cat.
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dirt claud
Social climber
san diego,ca
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Nov 24, 2014 - 02:26pm PT
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Here is a good one talking about the whole ring thing.
[Click to View YouTube Video]
Congratulations, all the best to the two of you, may your lives be full of happiness and laughter.
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pocoloco1
Social climber
The Chihuahua Desert
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Nov 24, 2014 - 02:58pm PT
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Congratulations! Many years of happiness and laughter comming your way.
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Crimpergirl
Sport climber
Boulder, Colorado!
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Nov 24, 2014 - 03:22pm PT
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Make it special. Only you two know what that special is. Congratulations.
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zBrown
Ice climber
Brujò de la Playa
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Nov 24, 2014 - 03:28pm PT
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I take it then, that she does not read the ST?
Best wishes for a happy life together.
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The Larry
climber
Moab, UT
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Nov 24, 2014 - 03:33pm PT
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Yeah man! Congrats!
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Karen
Trad climber
So Cal urban sprawl Hell
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Nov 24, 2014 - 03:36pm PT
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The whole proposing thing is totally cool.
Best wishes to the both of you:) !!!!!!!!!!!!
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drljefe
climber
El Presidio San Augustin del Tucson
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:16pm PT
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Stoked for you Brandon, congrats!
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:23pm PT
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Moose is right Brandon. A climber trained in the art of dirtbaging could stretch the average money spent on a wedding to a year of honeymooning in the south seas.
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nah000
climber
no/w/here
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:26pm PT
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awesome...
you can add another stranger who's excited for you both.
best of luck!
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Fritz
Trad climber
Choss Creek, ID
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:26pm PT
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Brandon! Big Congrats & Thanks for sharing the news.
I was 38 when Heidi & I got married. We both had prior relationships, so we skipped a few steps along the way, like asking her father's permission.
One other non-traditonal thing we did, was to let her pick her own ring.
Emeralds are nice!
If you can avoid the jewelery stores and find an artisan that actually makes rings, that's the ticket.
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rlf
Trad climber
Josh, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:36pm PT
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Good for you! Best of luck with your new life!!!!!!
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mouse from merced
Trad climber
The finger of fate, my friends, is fickle.
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:43pm PT
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No warm-ups. Just blurt it out or commit a speech to memory.
It will always be your shared memory.
And what a venue!
No fancy wait staff interrupting...
Congratulations, you silly!
Thx for letting us know, too.
Life decisions are so much fun.
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clinker
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, California
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Nov 24, 2014 - 05:44pm PT
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Brave of you Brandon. Best wishes.
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Leggs
Sport climber
Made in California
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:03pm PT
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Congrats, Brandon!
(And holy sh#t, I almost blew it by posting on your FB. DOH!)
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NutAgain!
Trad climber
South Pasadena, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:09pm PT
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Congrats for finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with!
+1 to the down on one knee, and asking nicely. Also think about the time and the place if there is something special that symbolizes the life you want to build together.
I'm not much for a big prepared speech- just open your heart and live in the moment, express what you are feeling and what you want for your life together, and don't let pre-staged words keep you too caught up in your intellect. But different strokes for different folks, whatever works for you. Good luck!
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Kalimon
Social climber
Ridgway, CO
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:15pm PT
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Follow your heart and everything else will follow . . . Best to you Brandon, you have a good heart.
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nita
Social climber
chica de chico, I don't claim to be a daisy.
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:30pm PT
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Brandon,....Congratulation!!
Really happy for you .......
Saludos...Best wishes..
edit..... Weege...Nice visuals for the post below......vvv
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Nov 24, 2014 - 07:52pm PT
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i haven't read all the advice here
but i recommend asking her father for his daughter's hand.
it was important to me so i did it
one day up in weed.
ol Richard was down in the lower pasture tending
his retired race horse and i ran down the
drive with a full wheel barrow
and as i helped dick with the chores,
i told him eye to eye that
i wanted to marry his daughter
and then i promised him that i would take good care of her.
he shook his head, aye,
and then gave me
the ol' cowboy handshake and crooked smile
and we went into the tack barn
where of course he had stashed a bottle of beam
and we toasted.
a few years later he died and i built him
a coffin....
and i can't tell you how many times
i've replayed that scene in my mind
when i was keen to duck out
and be a bitch...
that conversation and that cheers in the tack shop
and the handshake and the cowboy smile...
all of it,
has helped keep me accountable.
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The Lisa
Trad climber
Da Bronx, NY
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Nov 24, 2014 - 08:11pm PT
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Congratulations, Brandon! Here's to a happy life together.
I am not into diamonds myself but since I am a skier and a climber I always think something Black Diamond would be perfect ;)
There are black diamond gems which are beautiful and more affordable than the white kind.
Also consider a jade ring on a pendant, or create a custom design with a local jeweller.
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Phil_B
Social climber
CHC, en zed
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Nov 24, 2014 - 10:20pm PT
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I proposed to Cleo on a kayak trip we took on the Rogue River in Oregon. On the last night of the trip, there's a dress up dinner.
I pretended I couldn't find some bit of clothing and asked Val to help me find it. While she was rooting around in my dry bag, I got out the ring and surprised her on bended knee.
Here we are right after I popped the question and put the ring on her finger
Chose a ring that had a slightly recessed stone so that it couldn't get knocked out easily. Turns out that was a good thing, as she flipped her kayak the next day and dragged that hand along the bottom of the river for about 20 yards!
Good luck Brandon!
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madbolter1
Big Wall climber
Denver, CO
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Nov 24, 2014 - 10:25pm PT
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VERY cool, Phil! That's the sort of story that warms my heart. Thanks for sharing it.
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madbolter1
Big Wall climber
Denver, CO
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:26pm PT
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This sounds to me like status-seeking, proposing in a manner that will be see as "special & beyond the norm" by society. I'd expect the ring in this situation to be "extraordinary" as well.
Yikes! I never would have imagined it as such! Ever!
I guess that this goes to show the truth of the line: "The biggest problem with communication is the mistaken belief that it is happening at all."
I'd like my wife to be one who answers 2) with "Why the f*#k does that matter to you? He loves me and wants to spend his life with me."
Good luck with that.
All of the women my wife and I know would not answer that way. I guess a very different crowd from the one you know.
I can only speak to the sparkle in my wife's eyes when she is prompted to tell the story, and I am very glad that I made her proposal something that has given her special joy down through the many years.
Honestly, I'm amazed that it could be cast as a "status" issue necessarily coupled with a huge, status-symbol ring (which, btw, it was not).
Not my point AT ALL to Brandon! It's not very hard to "go beyond the norm," and I just know that he'll enjoy that special sparkle his choices now will give to his wife over many years. That sparkle is what I wish for him and his future wife!
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apogee
climber
Technically expert, safe belayer, can lead if easy
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:30pm PT
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weege, that's a great story.
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neebee
Social climber
calif/texas
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:37pm PT
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hey there say, brandon_ ... wow, congratulations...
such a wonderful thing to do...
may each day, be a good and blessed day of sharing and learning, in the 'new married ' ways... :) and, may it also be more of the same good things, that LEAD this far... :)
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tinker b
climber
the commonwealth
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Nov 25, 2014 - 12:31am PT
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for jewlry i would recommend checking out www.mostlysweet.com i can not make the link thing work, so you will have to type it in, sorry.
she does custom jewelry, it is worth contacting her for special requests.
i think the proposal doesn't need a whole story line, but someplace beautiful at a beautiful time.
congrats
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clinker
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, California
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Nov 25, 2014 - 05:37am PT
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Weege, you old traditional, son of a gun. Nicely done.
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Captain...or Skully
climber
in the oil patch...Fricken Bakken, that's where
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Nov 25, 2014 - 12:31pm PT
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Dude.....yer gonna....well, you know.;-)
Woohoo!
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Andy Middleton
Trad climber
Cow Hampshire
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Nov 25, 2014 - 01:09pm PT
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Brandon, do yourself a favor: After you propose, take your fiance'e across the street to the Eastland hotel and head up to the lounge they have on the top floor. The view of the harbor and Casco bay are stunning.
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mike m
Trad climber
black hills
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Nov 25, 2014 - 01:41pm PT
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Congrats.
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Barbarian
climber
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Nov 25, 2014 - 01:45pm PT
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First... Congrats to the two of you! I can tell you that marrying my best friend was the single best thing I have done in my life (28 years married and hoping for another 28).
From a father's perspective - when my future son-in-law called me, told me of his intentions, and asked for my blessing, I knew that she had found a keeper. You said they aren't that close, so only you can decide if you want to take that step.
I wish the two of you all the happiness you can take, and just a bit more for good measure.
Peace!
Barbarian
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Nov 25, 2014 - 01:52pm PT
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Hey all, back from work and it's rad to hear so many congratulations. I haven't popped the question yet, but thanks anyhow. I'm positive that it'll be an emphatic yes.
My co-worker Taury (who introduced us) and I are going out ring shopping next week. She and her husband have five dollar titanium rings, so we are on the same page there.
Anyway, happy thanksgiving!
Edit; one other cool thing is that Tami's crowing is for good reason. Last winter, I asked her to make a piece of art for me to give to my lady. It's beautiful, and hangs on our wall. Tami has known that there's something special happening for a while now.
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wivanoff
Trad climber
CT
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Nov 25, 2014 - 04:12pm PT
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Hey, congratulations dude. Let us know all the gory details after the w/e.
Me and Donna: 38 years down. Forever to go.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Dec 26, 2014 - 05:38am PT
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Well, she said yes!
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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Dec 26, 2014 - 05:50am PT
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Yeha!
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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Dec 26, 2014 - 05:56am PT
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Awesome! Too late now!
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Crimpergirl
Sport climber
Boulder, Colorado!
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Dec 26, 2014 - 06:58am PT
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So happy for you Brandon!
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Dec 26, 2014 - 07:08am PT
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when mine said yes
reality committed suicide.
it bled out at our feet.
first we splashed in the
blood puddle like kids,
then the puddle froze
so we skated on it;
i wore a cap
and she a scarf.
we picked up reality's
limp and still warm corpse
and took it to a taxidermist
who stuffed it full of
our hopes and dreams
and it became our marriage.
now though,
all those hopes and dreams
are leaking out of It's
arsehole which i guess
the taxidermist forgot
to plug.
and once again,
my marriage
is a limp and rotting
corpse that used to stand
up proud and call
itself reality.
and my dreams and hopes
and her's too,
are a puddle
and we are no longer kids
so we don't splash,
we instead mop up the mess
and dump it
down life's drain.
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this just in
climber
Justin Ross from North Fork
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Dec 26, 2014 - 07:52am PT
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Congrats Brandon. I held back initially, cause it wasn't official, but a big sh#t yeah now!
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nita
Social climber
chica de chico, I don't claim to be a daisy.
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Dec 26, 2014 - 09:10am PT
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Well, she said yes!
Hoot!... Brandon,.........Congratulation!
Cheers..
Saludos
nita..(-;
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looks easy from here
climber
Ben Lomond, CA
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Dec 26, 2014 - 09:18am PT
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Awesome! Congratulations to both of you.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Dec 26, 2014 - 09:32am PT
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wow timid
we won't quit
until the whole world hates me.
only then can i rest.
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bluering
Trad climber
Santa Clara, CA
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Dec 26, 2014 - 09:40am PT
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Hey Brandon, I wish you and your wife nothing but the best.
Marriage is a beautiful thing. There will be lots of joy (especially when you have kids), but there will be some pain. Be prepared for this and deal with it. You two need to work with each through each problem.
Don't let anger get the best of you, you both have made a commitment to each other. Remember that.
Sleep it off and kiss her in the morning. "tomorrow brings a new day".
Also, when she gets 'pissy', and it's not your fault...see above.
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Fritz
Trad climber
Choss Creek, ID
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Dec 26, 2014 - 01:02pm PT
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Brandon! Glad to hear the great news! My best wishes to the both of you!
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Ghost
climber
A long way from where I started
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Dec 26, 2014 - 01:05pm PT
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Congratulations Brandon.
Of course, once the honeymoon is over, your marriage will no doubt have it's ups and downs. But if you're ever in doubt, you can cheer yourself up with the knowledge that with most marriages, the first fifty years are the hard ones. After that things will get better.
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neebee
Social climber
calif/texas
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Dec 26, 2014 - 03:53pm PT
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hey there say, brandon! wow, so wonderful to hear that...
hee hee, i will need her name now, so i don't just send christmas cards to brandon, as the 'unmarried version', :))
(this year, though, still, let her know, that card was for BOTH of you,either way) :)
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MisterE
Gym climber
Bishop, CA
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Dec 26, 2014 - 04:11pm PT
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Congrats Brandon!
We met at a Todd Gordon slideshow, which I would never have attended if Blitzo didn't want to heckle Todd and convinced me to tag along with him.
I, also, asked her father for her hand in marriage when they were down in LA visiting, we were out in the garage. I had asked him to help me for a minute...
His response: "You don't need my permission - she can make her own decisions."
I shook his hand and said "Thank you, Sir."
I looked for the perfect ring for a few months after saving up, with no luck in the "ring stores"
I finally found a simple-but-elegant Tiffany ring at a pawn-shop 4 blocks away from where we lived in LA that fit her perfectly...she is a stained glass artist specializing in restoring Tiffany lamps. I just knew this was the one - affordable Tiffany rings are pretty rare. What are the chances?
A few months later I asked her to marry me at a gathering of friends at Cochise Stronghold.
Ours was the first ever Facelift wedding - Doug Robinson married us!
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phylp
Trad climber
Upland, CA
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Dec 26, 2014 - 04:18pm PT
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FANTASTIC! Congratulations to you both!
Phyl
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Flip Flop
Trad climber
Truckee, CA
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Dec 26, 2014 - 04:21pm PT
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A good house is like a good woman. They both deserve good shoes and a good hat.
Happy home making.
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Daphne
Trad climber
Northern California
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Dec 26, 2014 - 08:32pm PT
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Yay! Congratulations! Here's a bit of relationship advice from one of the wisest couple's counselors on the planet:
"Love is a constant process of tuning in, connecting, missing and misreading cues, disconnecting, repairing, finding deeper connection. It is a dance of meeting and parting and finding each other again. Minute to minute and day to day."
Dr. Sue Johnson
May you and your love dance this dance continually.
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SC seagoat
Trad climber
In What Time Zone Am I?
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Dec 27, 2014 - 12:02pm PT
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Merry Christmas and obviously you are going to have a very Happy New Year!
This is wonderful news! Have a blast!
Susan
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johntp
Trad climber
socal
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Dec 27, 2014 - 01:16pm PT
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Doug Robinson married us!
I was not aware DR was an ordained minister. Are you sure your marriage is legit? Glad to see he dressed up.
Congrats Brandon and wishing you and yours the best.
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divad
Trad climber
wmass
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Dec 27, 2014 - 02:17pm PT
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Well played,
Cheers!!
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Lollie
Social climber
I'm Lolli.
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Dec 28, 2014 - 11:38am PT
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Congratulations Brandon. May the two of you get a great life together!
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guyman
Social climber
Moorpark, CA.
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Dec 28, 2014 - 11:49am PT
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Brandon.... have a great wedding, life, future etc.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Dec 29, 2014 - 09:30am PT
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Well, shoot.
Thanks all, your sentiments are very much appreciated.
When my lady and I got together, marriage was not what I was thinking about. I had met a woman who liked hiking with me, loved my dogs, was passionate about art, etc. I was just stoked to be dating a woman who seemed so cool.
Now, a short year and a half later, we are going to tie the knot.
Sometimes you just know that it's right.
I'd like to give a huge shout out to Tami, who created beautiful art for me to give to Llama as a Christmas gift last year. It involved crows, hence the caw cawing whenever this topic came up. She knew what I knew.
Thanks so much Tami, and the whole ST crew, you all are amazing.
I'm getting married! It's pretty incredible!
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fear
Ice climber
hartford, ct
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Dec 29, 2014 - 10:00am PT
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Nothing changed for me upon getting married. Not a thing.
The first kid is the event horizon......
Good luck, and buckle up.
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Lollie
Social climber
I'm Lolli.
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Dec 31, 2014 - 01:12pm PT
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Great news Brandon! Rainbowshine, unicornpoo and pixiedust all over you!
I was gonna blabber on about why asking her father is so wrong, but I'll skip that. :-)
May the sun shine upon your life.
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Prod
Trad climber
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Dec 31, 2014 - 02:32pm PT
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Well, she said yes!
Sweet!!!!
Prod.
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LearningTrad
Trad climber
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Dec 31, 2014 - 07:02pm PT
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Very nicely written, Tami.
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Phil_B
Social climber
CHC, en zed
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Yay!
Congratulations and best wishes on a happy future together.
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nah000
climber
no/w/here
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Tami, if you get bored with the climbing toons, maybe you can switch to relationship advice toons... ha!
probably a bigger market, and i for one would buy...
i especially liked this line:
Life is hard ; when you're stupid about life, it's even harder.
cheers to both you and Brandon-
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phylp
Trad climber
Upland, CA
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talk it out. Don't pout it out. Respond, don't react.
Wise words, Tami.
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