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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Original Post - Nov 24, 2014 - 11:45am PT
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Hey ST, not sure who cares, but I'm popping the question to my lady over the holidays. I'm going to do it at the Maine Museum of Art.
ST has been a wonderful place for me for the last ten years, life sucked for a bit, and there were people from this forum who checked in with me to make sure that all was well. The kindness of strangers that I have received through this forum is phenomenal, you all are so freaking badass.
Rock on, Supertopo, let's climb together sometime. My door is always open.
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guyman
Social climber
Moorpark, CA.
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:47am PT
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Good luck to you....
always a good day when a STer has a smile.
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BurnRockBurn
climber
South of Black Rock City (CC,NV)
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:52am PT
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Congrats and good luck
Shawn
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the Fet
climber
Tu-Tok-A-Nu-La
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:54am PT
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Congratulations on finding the right one and being ready to make that step.
Do it as romantically as you can.
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Ricky D
Trad climber
Sierra Westside
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Nov 24, 2014 - 11:58am PT
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Just not in the dinosaur exhibit please!
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apogee
climber
Technically expert, safe belayer, can lead if easy
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:06pm PT
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Congratulations & best of luck to you, Brandon.
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madbolter1
Big Wall climber
Denver, CO
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:12pm PT
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Awesome!
My one bit of, I hope, helpful advice is this:
From the wedding onward you will frequently be asked as a couple (and she will be asked alone) two questions:
1) How did you two meet?
2) How did he propose? (More often directly to her.)
Number 1 is pretty easy, but you are right now planning how the answer to number 2 will go for the rest of your time together. And from a woman's perspective, it matters!
It honors her (as you certainly know), AND it sets you up to honor her in perpetuity to provide a really special answer to number 2. The pressure is on, man. lol
So, anything you can do to step outside the typical "kneel with the ring" bit will honor her during the proposal and for all time thereafter. The more she (and everybody that asks afterward) can see that you went beyond the norm and really put your thinking cap on, the better.
Actually, I'd get a kick out of hearing what you end up doing. These proposals have the potential to bring out the best in us, and the stories touch that oft-minimized romantic side that we all share.
ALL the best to you!
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micronut
Trad climber
Fresno/Clovis, ca
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:15pm PT
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Hey man, don't even try to say too much. You're gonna be a blabbering mess anyway and it all comes out as gibberish.
I do however, recommend getting on one knee. And ASKING her. Don't say...."Let's get married.." It should always be "will you marry me."
I'm kinda old fashioned, but all girls deep inside want the chivalry of the knight kneeling down and asking for her hand in marriage. All the other antics, be they extreme or simple, can be worked around, but stick to the kneel and ask if nothing else.
Again, congrats on a new chapter. hopefully you "marry up" like I did.
Scott
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:17pm PT
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Congrats Brandon!!! I take it she doesn't snoop around ST.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:28pm PT
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marriage rules!
my two cents.
it's a personal growth catalyst at times
and in others it's
a soft, feathery bivy
beneath stars,
a sunrise, and a sunset all at once.
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MisterE
Gym climber
Bishop, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:31pm PT
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Happy for you Brandon! Congratulations!
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John M
climber
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:34pm PT
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It should always be "will you marry me."
what Micronut said. And to me..the proposal is about keeping it simple. Its a deep personal commitment, and deserves a certain solemnness.
I wish you the best Brandon. You seem like a good person. And damn dude.. the jumps you have pulled off. And the skiing.. dang.. proud ballsy stuff. Keep your head up. Women/people respond to a belief in oneself. Not false hubris, but belief based on knowing oneself. You come across as a good solid person with courage and good character. Keep that up and people will continue to respond well to you. And hopefully, if she is the right one, this lady will too.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Sport climber
moving thru
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:39pm PT
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+ a bunch for the kneeling and asking! Simple can be beautiful, to much has the potential to take from the incredible moment of the love of two people and the commitment of life together.
Brandon, + a bunch for what you said about ST. Nearly 7 years now around the campfire. lynnie
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:48pm PT
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Good luck!
You deserve it!
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wilbeer
Mountain climber
Terence Wilson greeneck alleghenys,ny,
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Nov 24, 2014 - 12:54pm PT
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Congrats ,Brandon.
All the best to you and yours.
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Jingy
climber
Somewhere out there
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:01pm PT
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Goof luck and congrats...
go in with no expectation and no ego and watch as your wildest dreams come true.
Cheers
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SC seagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, or In What Time Zone Am I?
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:09pm PT
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yeah Brandon!
So many cakes, so many ideas!
What a wonderful adventure....so so so many happy returns for you.
Susan
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Nov 24, 2014 - 01:10pm PT
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Man, what a trip it is being in the right state of mind to take this step. Sobriety has been my thing for the last six months, and it's that presence of mind that helped me realize this is the right move.
Thanks for all your kind words and encouragement, life is truly spectacular sometimes.
By the way, when the wedding happens, you all should be there.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Nov 24, 2014 - 01:18pm PT
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PS, any gem dealers out there? I'm not going with diamonds, non-traditional is our thing.
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Fat Dad
Trad climber
Los Angeles, CA
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Nov 24, 2014 - 01:22pm PT
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First of all, congrats. I hope it's the start of a wonderful journey together. Second, thanks for sharing with us.
Third, did you ask her folks first? This is clearly a matter of preference. I did the romantic get down on one knee and ask her to marry me. However, when I told my folks (who are pretty nonjudgmental), the first thing they asked was whether I asked her parents for permission. When I said that I didn't, they kind of got ass face. YMMV.
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