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Michelle

Social climber
1187 Hunterwasser
May 11, 2014 - 02:55pm PT
I'm not having fun with this. I was making a real effort and life showed up. Back to the beginning I guess.
John M

climber
May 11, 2014 - 04:03pm PT
It happens Michelle. It took me at least 4 times to make quitting stick. I say at least 4 times because those years are a bit of a blur to me and I just don't remember all the times I went back. its probably more then 4, :-) but I did it and now don't have any issues with alcohol. which is a relief.



Just get back on the horse and start over. Thats all you have ever had to do. Decide who you want to be in each and every moment and remind yourself why. I would also say don't waste a lot of energy beating yourself up. You can't change the past. You can only choose what you will do today. Today is a new day and it sure is a pretty one.
Norwegian

Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
May 11, 2014 - 05:46pm PT
i used to cast a valiant stare
that gleamed my soul's conviction.

i did.
i could answer to anyone.

somewhere, though,
that substance eroded
and now i can only author a shifty glance,
as my mounting failures cast a dark shadow
upon my distant successes and
not much longer can i lean on
that which i used to be.

the present beckons the warrior,
but i've only to offer a coward.
bvb

Social climber
flagstaff arizona
May 11, 2014 - 08:06pm PT
Coming up on 4 months. It's been not too bad so far, for a 56 year old retired gentleman living in a halfway house with a bunch of neurotic 20 year olds. It was this or die. Feels awesome.
Reeotch

climber
4 Corners Area
May 11, 2014 - 08:36pm PT
Good to hear from you, bvb. Sounds entertaining
Jim Clipper

climber
from: forests to tree farms
May 11, 2014 - 10:22pm PT
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J9AexiRyPc0

bvb!
Michelle

Social climber
1187 Hunterwasser
May 12, 2014 - 12:03am PT
What up bob? We should go bowling.
bvb

Social climber
flagstaff arizona
May 12, 2014 - 04:50pm PT
Yeah Michelle, bowling pairs great with ginger ale, right?!
Jaybro

Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
May 12, 2014 - 05:23pm PT
Lemon lime seltzer water, don't go anywhere without it. Grapefruit flavor is better bit you can't get it (Safeway) in Utah.....
Hankster

Social climber
Golden, CO
Topic Author's Reply - May 12, 2014 - 05:37pm PT
I'm a full on sparkling/fizzy water fan! Pellegrinos, La Croix, Perrier all that.... if the 35 year old Hank could actually read what the 45 year old Hank just wrote.. sparkling waters. HAH!
Michelle

Social climber
1187 Hunterwasser
May 12, 2014 - 05:43pm PT
I'm all about Pelligrino!
bvb

Social climber
flagstaff arizona
May 12, 2014 - 11:06pm PT
Straight up artesian from that spring beneath lower cathedral. Hell yeah.
Jebus H Bomz

climber
Peavine Basecamp
May 12, 2014 - 11:37pm PT
Lemon lime Perrier.
Dr.Sprock

Boulder climber
I'm James Brown, Bi-atch!
May 13, 2014 - 12:23am PT
AA coffee and crappy furniture,

remember to work the steps, just getting sober will make your life worse than when you were drinking,

lost an AA friend to a pine tree and rope yesterday, please reach out before you do that,


good stuff from Bob D

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wvP5E_-Ju9s&list=PLuSJRom1_4kDm2Rga13qROhKyYEvuEmSo
tradmanclimbs

Ice climber
Pomfert VT
May 13, 2014 - 06:20am PT
Fck that doom sh#t. Life sober is a hell of a lot better than life wallowing in the sh#t. Seltzer water all the way. Its fizy and hits the spot with no sugar:) I used to do the ginger ale thing at partys and gigs and would feel like crap the next day.
Jebus H Bomz

climber
Peavine Basecamp
May 13, 2014 - 09:19am PT
Sorry about your friend, Dr. Sprock, that is a shame.

I will still take my non AA sobriety and run though!

Working a profession where I see where we drunks end up doesn't hurt my commitment. Ugly, ugly, ugly.
Michelle

Social climber
1187 Hunterwasser
May 13, 2014 - 10:46am PT
I'm sorry for your loss. I understand that you're passionate about AA and the steps.

happiegrrrl

Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
May 13, 2014 - 05:53pm PT
If I am at a bar(yes, I do occasionally go, though I sure didn't in the early years) I will order a cranberry and orange juice, or cranberry with seltzer. Or seltzer with lime. I'd have plain water if it didn't seem cheap.

For house parties, I stock a variety of juices with seltzer, and will brew as much coffee as anyone cares to caffeinate with. For those who drink alcohol, they are welcome to bring whatever they want, but I make sure they know there won't be any if they don't BYO.
tradmanclimbs

Ice climber
Pomfert VT
May 13, 2014 - 08:11pm PT
Being in a construction crew A few times one of the guys has asked me to buy beer when I am going to the store. Does not work for me. Did it once or twice and have decided that it is not my place for many reasons.
Jebus H Bomz

climber
Peavine Basecamp
May 21, 2014 - 08:02pm PT
It's more than a year and a half for me now. Nothing is taken for granted though, I do not take Hank's original post lightly! You can go back at any moment. I will be extra careful around that two year mark, you betcha.

Life is not easy by any means (when is it ever?), but I do think of the things I have learned here to cope. I believe it was Vegasclimber who said that there's nothing a drink won't make worse, and that kind of thinking has kept me straight.

My life is so much better than when I started this journey. It is largely a non-issue amongst everybody I know and I don't get all preachy (I hope) or judgmental about others' decisions. I did have a traumatic impetus to start my sobriety when I had a climbing accident while drunk. The sad part is that others online who have gleaned that from my posts have tried using my drunken climbing accident as a club against me. Either through mutual friends or what I posted, at least three users here have decided that my sobriety is good cannon fodder. Farouk, Ron Anderson, Caughtinside, I feel for you guys and sincerely hope you grow out of your small-mindedness.

My biggest relief is that I didn't physically harm anybody else in the making of my sobriety. I could have killed or hurt my climbing partner. Buzzed, driving to the crag, I could have hurt somebody. That would be truly unforgivable to me. For the small price of a broken back I was able to rehab, I am so thankful I have had the opportunity to change my life and make a difference through my career in the lives of others.

I am thankful my baby boy won't have to ever see his dad make a drunken fool of himself. I am glad my wife won't have to wonder who it is she married.

I had so much fun being drunk. And I did such stupid things. Once the rationales stop working and the party turns sour, maybe sobriety will seem like a path to anybody pondering it. I don't know how that works, I almost feel sorry for those who really need to get sober but aren't as big a bonehead as me to really screw things up and get the big flashing neon sign: You're an alcoholic! You're an alcoholic!

You can't turn your head from that sign in a hospital bed. At least, I couldn't.

It is a courageous act to admit our own weakness and decide to do something about it, so I applaud all here who have and do trod that road. I don't need this thread as much as I used to and I appreciate the quiet determination that courses through the posts of the old timers to this lifestyle, but I hope anybody out there who needs help reaches out and grabs for it because you and your life are worth that struggle.

I don't think any of this makes me a better person, it doesn't, but I know I am leading a better life than I was before.
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