Michelle
Trad climber
Toshi's Station, picking up power converters.
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Jan 23, 2013 - 06:51pm PT
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I'm really struggling today. I'm acting like a crazy bitch, letting people hurt me when otherwise I wouldn't I'm confused. not to mention lashing out at people that don't need it. wtf. thats all I got right now.
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bvb
Social climber
flagstaff arizona
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Jan 23, 2013 - 07:01pm PT
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If you need to yell at someone Michelle, I'm here for you! jk. I know how you feel, wait a bit it'll pass. How about a bubble bath, some chocolate cake, and a good movie?
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hippielogger
climber
Townsend,Mt
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Jan 23, 2013 - 07:05pm PT
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Yeah not letting people get to you can be a struggle. I've been struggling with that myself lately and I've been sober years. Just remember that it will pass and clarity is within your grasp.
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Michelle
Trad climber
Toshi's Station, picking up power converters.
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Jan 23, 2013 - 07:12pm PT
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thanks bob. I may hit you up on that. I don't want overly vent about crap here though. it doesn't help I was not successful staying sober. I'll just keep on trying.
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Jan 23, 2013 - 07:15pm PT
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Yup - keep trying. That is the key.
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Someone posted this on their FB page. Cute and funny, and so glad I don't come up with cute and funny things to deflect the fact that I am/was a lush.
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Off White
climber
Tenino, WA
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I can imagine that sometimes Supertopo is not conducive to staying sober.
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Or it can show you how wonderful it is to BE sober, knowing full well that there are plenty out there still sick and suffering.
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dirtbag
climber
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Well, no progress with my sweetie and our relationship is deteriorating. She claims to have quite drinking but I dunno, quitting, assuming she has actually done that, is as I have learned only the first layer of a very complicated onion. And still, she defects anger at me over things that frankly, I did not do wrong. I guess the term is "dry drunk"? (again, assuming she is dry) It beats talking about her issues, I suppose.
Alanon helps.
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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God,
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference
I don't need a drink. I don't even WANT a drink. I am SO grateful beyond GRATEFUL that my mind is no longer clouded by the smoke and mirrors of drugs and booze. That I can see clearly now, the rain is gone.....
When I am feeling sick and tired of the baloney that is in my life at a moment in time, I sigh and, remembering that old bath oil commercial, say "Calgon - take me away!"
But just for today, it's a little different....
Al-Anon...take me away!
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dirtbag
climber
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Feb 17, 2013 - 10:21pm PT
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Feeling a bit mopey.
I silently said the serenity prayer before a counseling session with her on Friday.
She said sorry to me then ended it.
The prayer helped me.
I think of the things we could have had together. I thought we could have had it all.
In truth, it could never have been. The disease made sure it could never be.
I need to accept that, let go, and move on.
Alcoholism can be cruel.
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McHale's Navy
Trad climber
Panorama City, California & living in Seattle
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Feb 17, 2013 - 10:30pm PT
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I thought about having a beer earlier and then forgot about it. I enjoyed the thought though.
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Plaidman
Trad climber
South Slope of Mt. Tabor, Portland, Oregon, USA
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Feb 17, 2013 - 10:54pm PT
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Still in the life. Living is so good. I was with my dad today. He has 9 more years than I sober. We are better for having quit before it took us out. Today was a gift to be there for him when he needed me. He is almost 80 and moving once again. New house for him and so I wanted to be there to make sure the transition went smooth.
Living sober is more a habit now. Thankful for every day. Even to feel pain is OK. It all passes. Even the good stuff. I am able to live in the ebb and flow of life.
For anyone struggling... Hang in there... It gets different... then it gets better ... Then we are able to put life into perspective ... It's all a gift ... share the good and the bad and forget about the labels. What I used to think was bad and what I thought was good has morphed over the years. I am in a good space now.... that could change. Just grateful RIGHT NOW!
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Feb 18, 2013 - 07:11am PT
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Dirtbag - I am so very sorry to read of your pain. F*#king alcohol.... While for sure it doesn't ruin the lives of everyone who touches it, the ruin it causes in enough lives is more than devastating.
I have "thought" about having a drink a few times in the past week. Not serious really, but there had been several events which were triggering emotional points.
I don't think about having one(that would be ONE bottle of wine, ONE HALF dozen beers or harder drinks on the ONE day which would be but the first in many, of course), but it always sends a chill when it does happen. It is such a fine spider web line which divides my life between sober and over....because I do know that if I pick up, the game is over. When I accepted sobriety I made a deal, and it was a 'til death do us part' commitment.
But looking at those things which caused me so much pain today is so miniscule. I wish I could mean that in an "oh, yeah, I realized they were meaningless" way, but that is not the case. Those things were very real and damaging to my emotional well-being. It's just that in comparison to what is going on now, they were just sort of the early sprinklings on a"when it rains, it pours" segment of my life.
I am very frightened right now, because the deal I had with my apartment in NYC is going to end, and my intentions are to turn the place back over to the landlord. The sublettor who has been there for 2.5 years has given notice, and I just don't have the stomach to go again with a new person, because it is not a legal sublet.
Sure - if I didn't care about the lives of others, I could easily rent to somebody....
I am glad I care about the lives of others, even those of whom are just shadows in the imagination. Those shadows DO represent real people. Sobriety has given me that ability to make the connection between my actions and those of people whom I would meet in the future.
God, grant me the serenity....
Today I am going climbing and will try to keep my mind off this problem. It won't hurt to "do nothing" about this problem today.
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SCseagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz
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Feb 18, 2013 - 09:39am PT
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Man you guys are tough! I am IMPRESSED!
All those "couldas, wouldas, and shouldas" can be awful downers.
Stay strong,
Susan
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Feb 22, 2013 - 08:54pm PT
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Having a very tough time with the worst fears for my future I have ever encountered going on.
I don't WANT a drink, but I do really wish there was some way to avoid dealing with my life right now.
The other day I was at the Valerjo in JT and happened to see the wine bottles. First, it was a little six-pack of single drink ones and I thought "Isn't that cute. I wonder who buys that sort of thing."
Then I noticed the bigger bottles and was looking at the labels. I remembered that, because I was clueless about wine, I used to choose a bottle based on the label(hey, I never got a bad bottle!). THis was all as I waited for someone, and I really felt like I was just passing the time, looking at scenery as I might do in any circumstance while I waited.
Then, I heard a little voice inside say "Buy one." It was almost more like a command.
Luckily, I do seem to have gotten some kind of stubborn version of sobriety that knows the truth. That to "buy one" really means, one today, and then tomorrow, and then again, and again and again. But I cannot guarantee that stubborness is something I can count on.
I know drunkeness will not help. Even as I think things can't really get worse than they are right now(though of course they could), to slip back into drinking might enable me to avoid taking responsibility for events I must manage in the next few weeks, but at what cost?
I am so scared, and so tired.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
the tip of god's middle finger
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Feb 22, 2013 - 09:03pm PT
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ahh happy,
lay down and let it run you over.
then get up and shake it off,
and go for a hike.
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Gilroy
Social climber
Bolderado
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Feb 22, 2013 - 09:16pm PT
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what weeg said.
when you return from the beleaguered distance
pray the van starts
look off toward the gem of tomorrow
and breath deep of that strong woman stuff
get on with it
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Michelle
Social climber
Toshi's Station, picking up power converters.
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Feb 22, 2013 - 09:18pm PT
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Ya, I just don't want to stop right now.
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SCseagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz
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Feb 22, 2013 - 09:22pm PT
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Oh Happie, hang in there, Teddie needs you straight and sober.....
Hugs
And Michele, a little cryptic there, but, be as tough as you can....the morning will be soon. Greet it with resolve...
Susan
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