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TWP

Trad climber
Mancos, CO
Mar 23, 2013 - 04:21pm PT
Unsure how to respond in part because of the ambiguity of the post. Is it Happy Anniversary???? Or just anniversary. You don't say you are happy and the triple ??? punctuation suggest maybe not. I don't find any reason to be happy about the anniversary of my divorce. Personally, I need to forgive myself - instead of being mad at MYSELF - for the decision to marry the female in question in the first place. Jim Donini counseled me to forgive myself with the observation we all make decisions in life with the information we have at the time. In fact, we make the best decisions we could possibly make at the time. Regret, self-recrimination over the decision is monday morning quarterbacking yourself. Instead, realize you had your reasons for every decision you ever made. Let it go; you made a few mistakes; you hit a few home run. F*#king up is the price of living. Let it go. Be nice to yourself; forgive yourself for being an idiot. That too is the price of living. And it beats the alternative - never living.
hossjulia

Trad climber
Where the Hoback and the mighty Snake River meet
Mar 23, 2013 - 10:34pm PT
Did you wind up celebrating?

I'll have a shot of Jameson for ya.

(Sorry)
kennyt

climber
Woodfords,California
Mar 23, 2013 - 10:49pm PT
Pbhf!
what does this mean?
LilaBiene

Trad climber
Mar 23, 2013 - 10:51pm PT
Look forward!!!

After I got divorced I made a list of all of the things I had wanted to do, but for one reason or another, the marriage had gotten in the way (okay, I let the marriage get in the way -- lesson learned!).

Then I started knocking them out. I was (and still am, in this regard) a very happy camper. Made sure the next time around I married someone that didn't fence me in (it took a LOT of persuasion on his end -- lol). That "NO FENCE" was and is part of the original stipulation. :D

So have at it! Go forth and live damn happily!!!!!
MisterE

Social climber
Mar 23, 2013 - 10:53pm PT
Reflect on the important things you learned and move forward.
apogee

climber
Technically expert, safe belayer, can lead if easy
Mar 23, 2013 - 10:56pm PT
(Lurking)
philo

Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
Topic Author's Reply - Mar 23, 2013 - 11:10pm PT
Don't be sorry Hossjulia, it was a good thing.
But a second marriage is not in the cards for me.
MisterE

Social climber
Mar 23, 2013 - 11:13pm PT
I am wondering why you would post this seemingly very-personal thread on a public forum.
philo

Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
Topic Author's Reply - Mar 23, 2013 - 11:16pm PT
Because it was a light hearted poke at life's ups and downs. It wasn't a poor me thing. So why not?
We did a good job of raising great kids. We moved apart and on. If anything it was my affirmation that you can pull through adversity and look forward.
SteveW

Trad climber
The state of confusion
Mar 23, 2013 - 11:22pm PT

No wining, Philo. . .

hee hee hee. . .
Anastasia

climber
Home
Mar 23, 2013 - 11:24pm PT
Amen Philo... I think that's the best idea ever and the one you are already applying. Personally if Bill and I divorced... I would get rid of all the stuff and live in a house with minimal stuff... Since Bill is a pack rat on the verge of hoarding... It will be a nice break from our present collection. Then again since we are not getting a divorce... I am trying to learn how to handle this in a good way.
ydpl8s

Trad climber
Santa Monica, California
Mar 25, 2013 - 11:38am PT
Have a dream about "Christine" :-)
philo

Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
Topic Author's Reply - Mar 25, 2013 - 11:58am PT
Oh I did, I did! :)
Captain...or Skully

climber
Mar 25, 2013 - 12:00pm PT
I'd just relax. And breathe.
Then go look for some cool rocks.
Brandon-

climber
The Granite State.
Mar 25, 2013 - 12:05pm PT
Yeah, we all love cool rocks. Go find some!
philo

Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
Topic Author's Reply - Mar 25, 2013 - 12:17pm PT
Credit: philo
My very first 5.12 FA from the pre-cam dark ages of 1977.
Captain...or Skully

climber
Mar 25, 2013 - 12:29pm PT
Very cool!
ydpl8s

Trad climber
Santa Monica, California
Mar 25, 2013 - 12:43pm PT
^^^That's Christine's Dream 5.12 - Taylor Canyon, Gunnison, FA - Philo

EB's, Whillans and nuts, no less
neebee

Social climber
calif/texas
Mar 25, 2013 - 02:29pm PT
hey there say, philo....

i'd say:

there is reasons, beyond us, why our trail changes... and even more so, if it changes after what we THOUGHT was the long-haul 'for always' trail...

so thus:
do something that makes the new you trail, what it is appearing to be, and do something that helps enhance this new growth, etc... something that will
be part of its new solid foundation, that you can one day look back on, as a great memory marker...


say--as i am AFTER THE FACT now:
hope you did so... if now, you STILL can... anniversaries are really good for the whole year, :)
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