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philo
Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
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Topic Author's Original Post - Mar 23, 2013 - 12:04pm PT
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One year ago today my Divorce decree was finalized.
Any suggestions on how to celebrate such a momentous occasion?
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kennyt
climber
Woodfords,California
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Mar 23, 2013 - 12:05pm PT
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Go doink yer ex wifes best friend!
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10b4me
Ice climber
Happy Boulders
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Mar 23, 2013 - 12:06pm PT
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Find another wife?
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Leggs
Sport climber
Home away from Home
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Mar 23, 2013 - 12:08pm PT
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Find a another wife? Pbhf!
Reflect on the decision made, the differences in your life ...
and then go do Jeremy's mom? :)
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philo
Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
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Topic Author's Reply - Mar 23, 2013 - 12:16pm PT
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Lol lol lol! :)
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10b4me
Ice climber
Happy Boulders
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Mar 23, 2013 - 12:32pm PT
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Leggs!!
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Leggs
Sport climber
Home away from Home
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Mar 23, 2013 - 12:32pm PT
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Yeeesssss????
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10b4me
Ice climber
Happy Boulders
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Mar 23, 2013 - 12:42pm PT
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^^^^^hahahaha
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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Mar 23, 2013 - 12:58pm PT
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Clearly a party is in order!
On 12/28/12 I had my 13(?)th!
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philo
Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
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Topic Author's Reply - Mar 23, 2013 - 01:02pm PT
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So what wine goes with freedom?
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Mar 23, 2013 - 01:11pm PT
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Leave the toilet seat up before you go get a beer at Hooters.
And, congrats. Sometimes a divorce is simply the best decision to make. My folks finalized their divorce last year after thirty something years of marriage. It was a good thing.
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RyanD
climber
Squamish
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Mar 23, 2013 - 02:59pm PT
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Porno? Oh, wait. That's for married dudes.
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philo
Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
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Topic Author's Reply - Mar 23, 2013 - 03:00pm PT
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"Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose".
That song seems stuck in my head today.
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Mar 23, 2013 - 03:04pm PT
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Spend at least $500 on a present for your ex. Tell her it's your first step in admitting that you were solely responsible for the breakup and that you only wish that you had been a better husband.
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philo
Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
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Topic Author's Reply - Mar 23, 2013 - 03:23pm PT
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^^^ If that were even vaguely true I would consider it.
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Mar 23, 2013 - 03:35pm PT
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Pulling your leg......go out and treat yourself!!
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Anastasia
climber
Home
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Mar 23, 2013 - 04:09pm PT
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Go buy a power tool or a cam. Something that you would always enjoy and... Buy something that would have annoyed your exwife... Plus, go have a bro night out. It could be moutaineering, shooting guns, blowing something up, drinking while attending a game, or... Heck, go to strip club if it floats your boat. Or even better, go out with a woman that is 100% better than your ex. Enjoy yourself man, life is short.
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TWP
Trad climber
Mancos, CO
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Mar 23, 2013 - 04:21pm PT
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Unsure how to respond in part because of the ambiguity of the post. Is it Happy Anniversary???? Or just anniversary. You don't say you are happy and the triple ??? punctuation suggest maybe not. I don't find any reason to be happy about the anniversary of my divorce. Personally, I need to forgive myself - instead of being mad at MYSELF - for the decision to marry the female in question in the first place. Jim Donini counseled me to forgive myself with the observation we all make decisions in life with the information we have at the time. In fact, we make the best decisions we could possibly make at the time. Regret, self-recrimination over the decision is monday morning quarterbacking yourself. Instead, realize you had your reasons for every decision you ever made. Let it go; you made a few mistakes; you hit a few home run. F*#king up is the price of living. Let it go. Be nice to yourself; forgive yourself for being an idiot. That too is the price of living. And it beats the alternative - never living.
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hossjulia
Trad climber
Where the Hoback and the mighty Snake River meet
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Mar 23, 2013 - 10:34pm PT
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Did you wind up celebrating?
I'll have a shot of Jameson for ya.
(Sorry)
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kennyt
climber
Woodfords,California
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Mar 23, 2013 - 10:49pm PT
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Pbhf! what does this mean?
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LilaBiene
Trad climber
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Mar 23, 2013 - 10:51pm PT
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Look forward!!!
After I got divorced I made a list of all of the things I had wanted to do, but for one reason or another, the marriage had gotten in the way (okay, I let the marriage get in the way -- lesson learned!).
Then I started knocking them out. I was (and still am, in this regard) a very happy camper. Made sure the next time around I married someone that didn't fence me in (it took a LOT of persuasion on his end -- lol). That "NO FENCE" was and is part of the original stipulation. :D
So have at it! Go forth and live damn happily!!!!!
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MisterE
Social climber
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Mar 23, 2013 - 10:53pm PT
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Reflect on the important things you learned and move forward.
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apogee
climber
Technically expert, safe belayer, can lead if easy
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Mar 23, 2013 - 10:56pm PT
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(Lurking)
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philo
Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
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Topic Author's Reply - Mar 23, 2013 - 11:10pm PT
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Don't be sorry Hossjulia, it was a good thing.
But a second marriage is not in the cards for me.
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MisterE
Social climber
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Mar 23, 2013 - 11:13pm PT
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I am wondering why you would post this seemingly very-personal thread on a public forum.
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philo
Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
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Topic Author's Reply - Mar 23, 2013 - 11:16pm PT
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Because it was a light hearted poke at life's ups and downs. It wasn't a poor me thing. So why not?
We did a good job of raising great kids. We moved apart and on. If anything it was my affirmation that you can pull through adversity and look forward.
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SteveW
Trad climber
The state of confusion
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Mar 23, 2013 - 11:22pm PT
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No wining, Philo. . .
hee hee hee. . .
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Anastasia
climber
Home
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Mar 23, 2013 - 11:24pm PT
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Amen Philo... I think that's the best idea ever and the one you are already applying. Personally if Bill and I divorced... I would get rid of all the stuff and live in a house with minimal stuff... Since Bill is a pack rat on the verge of hoarding... It will be a nice break from our present collection. Then again since we are not getting a divorce... I am trying to learn how to handle this in a good way.
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ydpl8s
Trad climber
Santa Monica, California
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Mar 25, 2013 - 11:38am PT
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Have a dream about "Christine" :-)
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philo
Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
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Topic Author's Reply - Mar 25, 2013 - 11:58am PT
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Oh I did, I did! :)
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Captain...or Skully
climber
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Mar 25, 2013 - 12:00pm PT
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I'd just relax. And breathe.
Then go look for some cool rocks.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Mar 25, 2013 - 12:05pm PT
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Yeah, we all love cool rocks. Go find some!
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philo
Trad climber
Is that light the end of the tunnel or a train?
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Topic Author's Reply - Mar 25, 2013 - 12:17pm PT
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My very first 5.12 FA from the pre-cam dark ages of 1977.
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ydpl8s
Trad climber
Santa Monica, California
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Mar 25, 2013 - 12:43pm PT
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^^^That's Christine's Dream 5.12 - Taylor Canyon, Gunnison, FA - Philo
EB's, Whillans and nuts, no less
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neebee
Social climber
calif/texas
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Mar 25, 2013 - 02:29pm PT
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hey there say, philo....
i'd say:
there is reasons, beyond us, why our trail changes... and even more so, if it changes after what we THOUGHT was the long-haul 'for always' trail...
so thus:
do something that makes the new you trail, what it is appearing to be, and do something that helps enhance this new growth, etc... something that will
be part of its new solid foundation, that you can one day look back on, as a great memory marker...
say--as i am AFTER THE FACT now:
hope you did so... if now, you STILL can... anniversaries are really good for the whole year, :)
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