Why I've quit participating on S-T. Probably others, too.

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nutjob

Sport climber
Almost to Hollywood, Baby!
Feb 5, 2013 - 06:33pm PT
Personal integrity and honor matter to me.

I think how people conduct themselves on Supertopo is an honest reflection of their needs and wants, who they really are, stripped of the fears associated with an in-person confrontation. In other words, people present themselves how they want to be in the world, without regard for the fear of getting an @ss-beating for saying or being offensive to others. Actually, this is more true of anonymous folks than widely known real name posters.

While this is generally a bad thing according to my value system, there are some good and therapeutic things about it. It's a good halfway house of sorts for folks learning to deal with confrontation in a healthy way. Some people practice "being a dick" here so they can get more comfortable with confrontations in real life. Being able to cope with a confrontation is a first step to being able to have rational thoughts and be considerate amidst a confrontation. It's a way of letting out emotional angst without hurting the "real" people around you in "real" life. I think I did that for a short bit around 2005.

Maybe this gets close to the differential resentment that Supertopo seems to bear for negative participants who are climbers vs. non-climbers.

We don't want to be the cesspool outlet of negative emotions for others who have nothing invested in us or what we care about. But real people sometimes express unpleasant negative stuff, and if it balances over time with the good stuff, we're more tolerant.


So the instinct to "protect the tribe" and shun negative non-climbers is not really an expression of parochialism, but more a community taking a stand against net negative folks who come with a calculated lack of investment to make a safe haven for dumping sh!t.

I would hope that a forum of basket-weavers would be resentful if I joined just because I don't really give a damn about basket weaving and it was a safe place for me to treat people poorly, spoiling relationships that I don't care about.
bluering

Trad climber
Santa Clara, CA
Feb 5, 2013 - 06:38pm PT
Hey Nutjob, stop trying to sound "smart", and just say something like, "some people can be as#@&%es".....

Uses fewer words, and I believe, gets the same point across.

Flu sucks....
nutjob

Sport climber
Almost to Hollywood, Baby!
Feb 5, 2013 - 06:40pm PT
Flu probably blows more than sucks!

Maybe I have a problem with people in real life being patient enough to cope with my long-winded diatribes, but THERE IS NOTHING YOU ALL CAN DO TO STOP ME FROM WRITING IT HERE. Mua ha ha ha.
bluering

Trad climber
Santa Clara, CA
Feb 5, 2013 - 07:02pm PT
Good point, Nutjob. I just thought you coulda been less wordy and made the same point.

Hehe...
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