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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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You and I have talked about this before, Lynne. When you meet someone for the first and they have alittle too much knowledge and preconceptions that have gone eerily awry? Should you be yourself? Or their construct of who they think of you as, just to be polite?
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
New York, NY
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Two things:
1) My family and clients have NO idea as to my username. I have separate family/work and Happie email accounts. I saw the need for this separation the moment I found rock climbing websites. When I finally told them I went to Joshua Tree for vacations, every time we have ever spoken since, they ask "have you been to Joshua Tree?" And not in a good way, fro a trip to Jtree means I WASN'T visiting them....
2) If you think it is just family/coworkers who lurk, think again. SO many people "know" me that on a weekend at the cliffs, a person standing nearby whom I get into conversation with is sure to mention *something* I wrote about online. And often it is not the *Big* threads, but some small obscure comment.... Sometimes when I ask what their username is they say they never post, or even don't want to divulge it.
I don't mind the climbers too much because - after all - I am aware that I put it out there. Those who don't want people making the connection do what I do with family - they simply do not tell people their username! It actually is a pretty good solution, if that's the way you want it.
It has actually gotten to the point where I have had a few people in the subway ask me about the Gunks. People I have NOT met out climbing.....
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SoffCookay
climber
CA
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Perhaps there should be a thread calling on lurkers to come out and introduce themselves.
I am a lurker; not because I am "spying" on anyone, but rather I am a climber, I learn a lot from reading the posts here, I enjoy the trip reports, and I think the ST community is great - you all take care of each other.
I do understand about needing privacy, Lynne (I have enjoyed reading your posts, by the way!), and I, too, have learned not to post on the Internet using my real name. Someone is going to Google your name sooner or later and see everything you've ever done online, not to mention pictures if you've posted them as well.
Lurkers come on out and say hello :)
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TYeary
climber
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Lynne, you could never dissapear. Your star would shine through your disguise and be just as bright!Your Spirit is truley, one of the most beautiful, in this Taco garden.
Tony
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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Topic Author's Reply - Aug 8, 2009 - 01:56pm PT
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Boy you Gals and Guys are nice !!! I have indeed made some real and incredible friends on ST. Thanks for the encouragement.
Now I'm off to the beach to seek anonymity while surfing and kayaking. Peace, Lynne
And, Caylor, with God's help we will arrange a nice toast to JB in C4....Sunday 9/20 in the evening.
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SoffCookay
climber
CA
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Just a thought, Lynne, you might want to consider creating a Facebook or Myspace page. You can keep your family up to date on what's going on with your life, post pictures, send messages, etc. and vice versa. There are privacy controls on there so only the family/friends you choose can access your page. I have a Facebook page just for this reason and my family & friends enjoy reading about my adventures (or mis-adventures more often than not...).
They may enjoy that better than following you around on here.
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The Wretch
Trad climber
Forest Knolls, CA
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I am not exactly a lurker. I have posted before and
once divulged my real identity and dropped some names
of climbing partners. I guess I did the latter out of
insecurity and wanting to establish some creds. But I
seldom post because I don't have that much to say. No
need to clog the band width with trivia. Which I suppose
THIS is!
Also, even climbing outside I tend to be rather passive,
not particularly caring what we climb as long as we climb,
or even just hiking if the mood is bad.
I must say I knew Bruce Bendner and climbed with him a
few times but never knew he was Brutus. Sad that I learned
to appreciate him more after I learned more about him here
after his death.
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Anastasia
climber
hanging from a crimp and crying for my mama.
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Ahhh... Usually lurkers are pretty cool. Yes, I do know of a few silly goats that keep track of me just to create gossip but... That's life!
There will always be someone trying to make themselves look good by bringing you or another person down.
Just keep in mind a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt;
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Plus, you don't need to justify yourself to "anyone." Trying to correct someone that believes in gossip, or what they make up in their heads is like you are admitting to it. If you want to deal with them correctly, Laugh when you hear it, (it is pretty funny how hard they work on b.s.) ignore them and get busy having fun, climbing, living well!
If my life's tragedies and health issues have taught me anything... It's that life is too short for silly stuff. Stick to what matters and let the rest be for your entertainment.
Hugs,
AF
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jstan
climber
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Using your real name is not a problem as long as you post only things that no one reads.
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bluering
Trad climber
Santa Clara, Ca.
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Wretch...
Also, even climbing outside I tend to be rather passive,
not particularly caring what we climb as long as we climb,
or even just hiking if the mood is bad.
I must say I knew Bruce Bendner and climbed with him a
few times but never knew he was Brutus. Sad that I learned
to appreciate him more after I learned more about him here
after his death.
Thanks for that!.
You should post more, we're kinda like a big 'campfire' here, everyone's welcome, everyone can chime in when they want, or just sit back and listen to it all.
Don't be shy!
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Ricky D
Trad climber
Sierra Westside
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Forget Facebook or MySpace.
Lynne my dear - you are WAY beyond those plebian sites.
You my love - you need your own TV REALITY SHOW!!!111
I'm serious here - it could be this generation's version of I Love Lucy!
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bluering
Trad climber
Santa Clara, Ca.
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Jim, as long as people know you, I think it's not important to post your real name.
The problems come from the real posers.....
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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Topic Author's Reply - Aug 9, 2009 - 01:05am PT
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Great to get out of "Dodge". The ocean was too blown out for boards and my kinda kayak so went across the street to the bay. Sweet. Not a great pic, hazy day, but Coronado Bridge in background.
Hope all you Lurkers got out and played today :D
Headed home ..... got a good work out physically and peace mentally.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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Topic Author's Reply - Aug 9, 2009 - 01:21am PT
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Caylors probably counting my posts here but oh well.
Wanted also to respond to my amigas and amigos. You are a gift not to just me but everyone around you.
Jstan, Dude, that is funny and a merry heart doeth good like medicine. Grazi !
Jim B. ..... I won't change, I like my real name. It represents my honor and integrity and lynne with all her flaws and shortcomings. Hey, it's me World.
Jaybro, I'd forgotten about that important discussion. Thanks for reminding. Please send me life stuff anytime. I like it, weigh it, and need it. Peace, Dude
Hugs to Bluey.
Ricky D. Believe it or not I have a brain. And I'm blonde not red. :D But I'd love to do a "sensitive" reality show. bwahahaha
Ana, friend......Always mi amiga. You are So Right On. Thanks. We need to talk more often.
And finally semi lurkers and lurkers....it is great to hear from you. Seriously. Maybe more of you could say howdy here on this Thread. Peace, Lynne
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Captain...or Skully
Social climber
Boise....
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Excuse me, did you say something?
I was busy lurking & didn't get that.......Haha.
Cheers, Lynne.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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Topic Author's Reply - Aug 9, 2009 - 01:26am PT
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Hugs Skully, hope yo had a great day too. Peace and Smiles !!!
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Jan
Mountain climber
Okinawa, Japan
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Hi Lynn-
Thanks for your many contributions to ST. I especially enjoyed the one getting ready for camping at the Facelift. Getting a cot that was too big for your tent is the sort of thing I would do too. I laughed and laughed through the whole thread! And I learned a lot in the process and downloaded all the good advice that you got from others. Thanks for not being afraid to ask. Meanwhile, I go with the person who said that even if you wrote under a handle, we'd be able to figure out that it was you.
As for family lurking and maybe not approving, I have lots of experience with that too. I am especially amazed when younger family members are more socially conservative and less adventurous than I am. I figure it's our job to show the way. If they can't follow, it's their loss. Keep on being yourself!
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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Topic Author's Reply - Aug 9, 2009 - 08:42am PT
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Jan, thank you So much :D You made my day ....specially with your last comments. There are some pretty funny and amazing Threads on the Taco. I don't have television. Don't need it with this wild and crazy place and a good imagination. Peace and Good Life to You, Lynne
ps, are you really in Japan ? Did you post once before ?
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Jan
Mountain climber
Okinawa, Japan
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Lynne- I do live in Japan. Been here for 25 years since I have a great job teaching Anthropology and Asian Studies. I've been posting for about 8 months now.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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Topic Author's Reply - Aug 9, 2009 - 03:24pm PT
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Very cool to meet you, Jan. Do you climb ? Do you ever get to the States ? Peace, lynne
Edit: you just brought back a hilarious memory for me. I jess remembering the first Thread I put on ST. My heart was beating so hard I thought I was gonna faint. heheheh, now this place is like my second home. Life, crazy, but good, especially when you can laugh and have joy.
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