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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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Tyrus your dad was indeed, a great man. I first met him decades ago, and and have interacted with him at odd times ever since. I was lucky enough to climb with him last spring, as funny and genuine a person as they come, entirely aside from being the great climber that he was.
We're all there for you, sending the most sincere vibes.
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holiday wally
Social climber
chamonix mammoth lakes
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i want to listen to music. sax. i want to break things.
i am in france and will have my mom stop by if you are in mammoth. and i will get in touch when i figure out how.
TB....................................too early for the great man. i have lost one of my best friends. i will never forget him.
JB. JB. JB.
Lot's of love.
nathan wallace
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Lennox
climber
just southwest of the center of the universe
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I am stunned; numb.
I started climbing 25 years ago. I have lost so many acquaintances, close friends and partners over the years. Some ran in pain and indignation towards their deaths, some were struck down inexplicably while at peace with themselves and the world, and some perished while risking all to run towards transcendent moments of joy.
From my earliest days of climbing, your father was a hero and inspiration to me. I met him a few times in Yosemite and the Eastside, but it was reading his posts here on ST that helped me to know a little something of the real John Bachar, and I respect and admire him more than ever.
Scott Lennox
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Loomis
climber
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Tyrus, I am so sorry for your loss, your dad inspired me more than words can ever convey, Peace, Scott
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TB
climber
Mammoth Lakes, CA
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Topic Author's Reply - Jul 6, 2009 - 04:40am PT
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i miss him :(
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holiday wally
Social climber
chamonix mammoth lakes
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can you say f*#k on the internet.
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Daphne
Trad climber
Mill Valley, CA
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Tyrus, Sending you light for the dark days ahead. You aren't alone. We will be here for you.
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immanti
climber
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Hey Tyrus. I'm still in shock and probably shouldn't post right now... but there's no way I can sleep either.
John was a gift to this world, not just as a climber but as a person. He was a deeply honest, generous and sensitive man. I was honored to be his partner but I was blessed to be his friend.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, Paola, Val and your family, big hugs to you all. We'll talk again soon.
Dario
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aldude
climber
Monument Manor
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Tyrus .... can't sleep either. We've lost a Titan - super sad.
I'm here for you dude...K?
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Social climber
valley center, ca
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immanti, well said , 100% agree. lrl
sleep, guess not......
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divad
Trad climber
wmass
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My condolences to you TB. This was terrible news to wake up to.
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pip the dog
Mountain climber
planet dogboy
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Tyrus,
the man who raised me (my grandfather) died 22 years ago. he was a remarkable soul, like your dad.
and he is still with me, many times, every day. i hear his voice (not literally, but quite clearly in my soul). i hear his wisdom. he remains as much a part of me now as he was back when i could sit with him, laugh with him, talk with him. there is so much of him in me that i can and do still turn to him when i need advice i can trust. i spent so much time with him, and he gave me so much, that he remains a huge part of me.
your loss is a terrible and tragic one. my heart and thoughts are with you. things won't be the same. you have lost the immediacy of those who are with us. jeff (among many others) gave you great advice. reach out to those who love you and love your dad. think of how your dad reached out so many times to those dealing with the worst life throws at us. think of how he also connected with those he trusted when life threw him truly rough sh!t.
follow your dad in this. for it is great advice, from a great man. words are easy to give. but doing the actual work of following up and reaching out isn't easy. but your dad was there for people in need, he did the work behind his words for so many people. and he also did the work to connect with those dear to him when he was in need. you know this, you witnessed it. it works. i urge you to do the same.
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i am absolutely certain that your dad will be with you for the rest of your days. it takes time to hear the voice and sense the presence of those dearest to us after they are no longer physicallly with us. but with those we truly love, it does come -- always. and when it does it grows forever stronger.
much of the work of getting there you must do yourself -- but you never, _ever_, have to do that work alone. i am certain your dad would tell you that, for that is what he did for so many.
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you are much in my thoughts. i wish you peace and solace. it will come. may it come soon.
^,,^ (michael)
PM me if i can be if any help. i'll send my cell number, you can call me anytime 24/7. someday perhaps i can tell you the "Pride Of Sweden/Lippy The Insane Aussie/Oopsie The Truck Rolled Off the Cliff/The French Hairdoos In Lycra Insist They Saw The Flying Dog" story that your dad witnessed (Lippy and I were caught in it) -- and then, in a heartbeat, he came up with a punchline so perfect that everyone who's ever heard the tale since collapses with laughter. the genius was in his punchline. in a heartbeat he saw the common thread that ran throughout that seemingly random circus . magic stuff, from a magic man.
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kev
climber
CA
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Tyrus,
I'm so sorry for your loss. Although I can't imagine how hard this is for you, I want to give you my condolences. This suck for the climbing community, but it has to be unimaginable worse for you. I wish I could say more. If there's anything any of us can do don't hesitate to email me or others here. I met JB once on the east side and he was just a chill, great person. Again I wish I could say more - this is so sad.
kev
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tarek
climber
berkeley
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Tyrus,
As you know, for a good many years your dad defined the limits of what the mind could do with a rock climb. His expansion of what was mentally possible in climbing inspired thousands upon thousands of people (climbers) in many challenging aspects of their lives far from the cliffs.
These many thousands are going to be out there mourning your dad with you.
Condolences,
Tarek
RIP JB
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TB
climber
Mammoth Lakes, CA
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Topic Author's Reply - Jul 6, 2009 - 07:07am PT
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I just can't rest
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cowpoke
climber
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TB,
I'm so sorry. I am one of the very, very many who count your father as a hero. I'm praying that you find some bit of peace through this forum and those reaching out to you.
Eric Dearing
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Michael Kennedy
Social climber
Carbondale, Colorado
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Tyrus,
I've known your dad for many years. Although we never spent a lot of time together I've always had the greatest respect for John, not only as a climber but as the really wonderful person he was. Even in my best days I could never come within miles of matching him as a climber but that didn't matter.
One thing we did have in common was fatherhood. He always spoke so highly of you and was eager to share his experiences and insights with a fellow dad. That to me was such a special dimension of our friendship.
Like so many others, I'm really at a loss for words. Just know that many of us have been touched and inspired by your dad and are sending all the love and support in the world your way.
Michael Kennedy
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holiday wally
Social climber
chamonix mammoth lakes
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Yo TB,
almost 2:00 in the afternoon here.
have gone from the funk to speed metal.
get some sleep.
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Marci Reardon
Trad climber
California
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I am so sorry for your loss Tyrus. My thoughts are with you.
Marci
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