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Rhodo-Router
Gym climber
sawatch choss
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Nov 14, 2018 - 06:09pm PT
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Moab needs competent tradesfolk. I could probably get you hired in no time but housing is tighter.
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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Nov 14, 2018 - 06:14pm PT
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Brandon’s a made man in gud standing here. He knows he can call in a favor or two.
Wish I could help. Come to think of it, have you ever been sailing?
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JLP
Social climber
The internet
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Nov 14, 2018 - 06:55pm PT
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I’m committed, dude. I’ve heard these same words before from more than one man - fast forward a few years and they’re all much happier - in a different relationship. It’s a lot harder to be the second one to see it.
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Delhi Dog
climber
Good Question...
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Nov 14, 2018 - 08:17pm PT
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Yeah, well I don't think his asking anyone for marriage advice here.
And, yes Brandon though I don't know you other than through the taco you seem like a good man and your responses here has shown that. As mooseman said you do have some folks in your corner around here. Count me as one of them.
Lots of solid advice from folks. I'll just add a good luck and hang in there.
Cheers,
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rick sumner
Trad climber
reno, nevada/ wasilla alaska
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Nov 14, 2018 - 09:47pm PT
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Are you specialized or well versed from framing to finish? Doing a bit of building in the country outside Reno. My lead guy needs another hand and I have a bit more restoration to do on my own place from this years wildfire. Duration-through March, place to stay yes. Drop me an email if you haven't already found work.
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Aeriq
Social climber
Location: It's a MisterE
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Nov 14, 2018 - 09:53pm PT
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There are climbing carpenters? Whoah! JK/LOL
Best of luck, Brandon. I got a few projects locally in Bishop that I can't get to, but the season for the stuff I know of is closing.
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Ghost
climber
A long way from where I started
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Nov 14, 2018 - 09:54pm PT
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The most common complaint uttered by people in Seattle is not about rain, the useless Seahawks, or anything about Donald Trump. No, by far the worst thing about living in Seattle now is the complete impossibility of finding anyone to do any sort of residential construction.
Anyone who can figure out which part of the hammer should hit the nail is working overtime.
Lots of downsides, of course, but construction workers are in demand.
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Aeriq
Social climber
Location: It's a MisterE
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Nov 14, 2018 - 10:22pm PT
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OK, I just went and checked.
It is for sure not the handle part.
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ruppell
climber
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Nov 14, 2018 - 10:33pm PT
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I live in Bishop and work year round as a carpenter. There is no closed season as long as you are well rounded.
Rick,
That's a great offer man. I'd take you up on it in a heartbeat if I where in Brandons shoes.
I place to stay and work. Reno's 1 hour to Donner, 2 hours to the Leap, 3.5 hours to Bishop, and 5 hours to the Valley.
Brandon,
Load up your tools and your rig and get moving. From your posts it seems like you have a pretty good skill set and frame through finish guys are in very high demand out here. Finding work will not be a problem.
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Delhi Dog
climber
Good Question...
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Nov 15, 2018 - 02:04am PT
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Lots of solid advice from folks
Thanks, and you're welcome.
:-)
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Nov 15, 2018 - 08:19am PT
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I’ve received a few good offers already, which seems incredible. Yes, I’m a frame to finish guy, fairly well versed in carpentry, but I’m no rock star. Right now the issue is whether or not I should be three thousand miles from my wife while we have some space. I could allow her to find her own place, and see her weekly, or I could let her have the house and spend months away from her in a place that makes me feel more whole. It’s a big decision to make, and I’m not taking it lightly. Rick, I’m the type to put politics aside. Our nation is better than that I hope, and I know that I am. Hope that makes sense, I’m trying to make sense of the whole situation myself. Thanks for all the kind words everyone, they’re super appreciated.
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rick sumner
Trad climber
reno, nevada/ wasilla alaska
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Nov 15, 2018 - 08:29am PT
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Brandon, my wife and I have been together for 36 years, through thick and tin, for better or worse. We could have given up and gone our separate ways numerous times, but something deeper kept us together to work things out. It sounds like you are rightly reluctant to cut the cord. Work it out man, you both have to give and take. Separate not, unless you want to end it.
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Jim Clipper
climber
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Nov 15, 2018 - 08:48am PT
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fwiw: there may be some middle ground. If you can fly out, you may not have to spend months away. Seems like many construction jobs don't necessarily last for months. (tools may be an issue). Things are often temporary, mountains seem to have the ability to refresh our perspective too. Best wishes.
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Jim Clipper
climber
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Nov 15, 2018 - 09:17am PT
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Cosmic, remember who loves ya'
Just teasing. I gotta go.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Topic Author's Reply - Nov 15, 2018 - 09:39am PT
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One month seems a little more reasonable. The thought of being away from my wife for six months seems unsustainable. I would miss her way too much. She is my everything, and I need to redefine that. I’m the most important person in my life.
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NutAgain!
Trad climber
South Pasadena, CA
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Nov 15, 2018 - 11:36am PT
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Good luck sorting it all out. Everyone who would give you advice (myself included) is bringing in their own experiences and circumstances, and only you can know the details for your own path forward.
If you intend to have children, you should know that whatever exists between you and your significant other, good or bad, will be amplified and perhaps new aspects of each other's personalities will come out that can change the dynamics of the relationship. Look carefully at their relationship with their own parents and family of origin for some clues on what that might look like.
In my case, I needed certain things to change in the marriage, and I made it clear by saying that I'd rather be alone than stay with these things. She felt threatened by that and didn't change at all; I moved out but still came over every day to give the kids (2 and 4 yrs old at that point) baths and dinner and read bedtime stories. Then I'd leave after they went to sleep. That period was the nicest their mother had been to me for years. But whenever I brought up talking about the things that needed changing, she said "we can't fix anything until you come back." So after a year of not cultivating any support structure for myself, I caved in and came back. In a separate bedroom in the same house, and wife's bedroom (our old bedroom) was locked. And every day, one of our friends was always around until she went to her room and locked the door and night. I hung in there for about a year more trying, but all the problems from before were still there and more with no hope of changing, so I finally left for real, fully unburdened in my heart. I found out years later that she had been having an affair with that friend, and I still don't really know why she wanted me to come back. I'm still unhappy about the overall situation that created for our kids, but for myself it has ultimately worked out better. I've been with another woman for 10 years and the difference in my daily happiness is night and day. If my first marriage had not been so difficult, I might have lived my life without learning to face my childhood demons and reaching a much better level of emotional maturity and stability. We're all still works in progress though.
The point is... I guess there is no point :) Except to follow your own heart and what you think is right, and when you are ready your life will unfold in the way that you have created space for it to unfold.
Good luck on the work front, and use this time to reconnect with whatever parts of yourself that you like and that you let go of while trying to make the marriage work.
And if you end up in Reno, that leaves a lot of potential winter ski/climb adventures as a midpoint between Reno and Los Angeles, and I want to try and get out more than in years past.
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cleo
Social climber
wherever you go, there you are
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Nov 15, 2018 - 03:49pm PT
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We have some projects that maybe would be a good fit and a spare bedroom in Sacramento, if you get bored of all that clean mountain air in Tahoe. (we're only 2 hours away from SLT).
Bonus: I'm a Vermonter!
(Projects: Window(s) replacement, Possible knock out a wall, Deck fixes, etc.)
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Flip Flop
climber
Earth Planet, Universe
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Nov 15, 2018 - 04:01pm PT
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Do you ski?
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wilbeer
Mountain climber
Terence Wilson greeneck alleghenys,ny,
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Nov 15, 2018 - 04:16pm PT
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Yes I do.
Lol.
Damn,look at ST shine ,man.
I am a carpenter myself and there is some good stuff out there you all are offering.
Just saying , I could just see me working with Rick Sumner,probably be a lot of fun!
Brandon ,it will work out.
As Dan Mcdevitt once told me”Keep looking up”, climbing related.
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Roots
Mountain climber
Redmond, Oregon
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Nov 15, 2018 - 04:27pm PT
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Brandon I got a divorce once. Hell of an ordeal being separated and not wanting to be. Tried to make it work a little down the line and I am so happy it DID NOT. We did not belong together.
Take a break from it all and go somewhere else for 6 months. It'll do you both some good.
If you or her get overwhelmed with missing one another, it's easy to travel back for a short reunion.
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