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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Original Post - Oct 13, 2013 - 10:11pm PT
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20 year marriage coming to an end. Wife is bent on getting the divorce after 2.5 year separation.
Met a beautiful woman who's 26 and I'm 51. I really like her, and she is adventurous and willing to go for it. She is a natural climber. She floats up trees and rocks, and she likes the beach. We are both Messianic believers. She loves and serves HaShem. Did I say she was beatiful and in great shape?
When the divorce goes through, I'll be free to marry again since I didn't ask for it and I'm letting my wife go as she wants. See 1 Corinthians 7: The Pauline Privilege. I can only marry another believer. No more non-believers or woman riding on the fence.
There are sparks when our eyes meet and we talk. I've had the pleasure of doing some fun activities in group settings with her, surfing and climbing.
What do you think about the age gap? I would be willing to have more children with her.
Very interesting ...
18/May - Dec Marriages in Hollywood:
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ncrockclimber
climber
The Desert Oven
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Oct 13, 2013 - 10:25pm PT
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Part of me says "Go for it!" You should grab happiness where you can and forget about social convention. The more cynical side of me says think 20 years down the road. She is 46 and you are 71. Depending on how you age and your health, there could be a HUGE difference in your physical capabilities, level of energy, etc...
My parents next door neighbors are 22 or 23 years apart and have been together for over 30 years. They have a great relationship. My accountant just split with his significant other after 8 years. They were 18 years apart and he said that their age difference was a huge issues.
Whatever you decide, I hope that you find much happiness in your relationship.
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 13, 2013 - 10:31pm PT
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I hope I age like Donini. ;-)
I'm gonna try and stay active as long as I can: climb, ski, paraglide, SCUBA, SUP, etc. etc.
Thanks for the encouragement!
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 13, 2013 - 10:34pm PT
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One thing going for me is that her parents have a large age gap, about 20 years, and her father is older than my father. Her parents are very much in love.
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plasticmullet
climber
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Oct 13, 2013 - 10:48pm PT
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This thread is worthless without pics.
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BLUEBLOCR
Social climber
joshua tree
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:08pm PT
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I wouldn't be ask'in the world. I'd be asking God.
It is between you three..
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FRUMY
Trad climber
Bishop,CA
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:13pm PT
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My father's first two marriages were to women older than him. The marriages lasted 14 years & 5 years his last has been to a woman 20 years younger than him - It's last so far about 35 years.
Personally although I get along with women of all ages I always end up with one my age, we just have more history to share.
The difference in age when you are 70 won't matter if you have always treated her well.
Best to both of you.
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Sport climber
moving thru
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:21pm PT
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Klimmer, I'm just wondering why you throw the Bible in on this forum and this thread. I'm very sure few care.
This relationship is between you and your Creator. If you have to ask us what we think you are already in trouble. Jess sayin', Lynne.
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 13, 2013 - 11:22pm PT
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It's something to talk about.
What do people really think about age differences? It's an interesting question and obviously everyone has an opinion. Lol.
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Sierra Ledge Rat
Mountain climber
Old and Broken Down in Appalachia
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:28pm PT
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Screw the hell out of her while you can, but don't get married.
The age difference may seem wonderful now, but in 20 years it will be hell for her. If you care about her, don't put her through something like that.
Bang her until she dumps you, then move on.
(Hey - you asked....)
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LilaBiene
Trad climber
Technically...the spawning grounds of Yosemite
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:30pm PT
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Klimmer, when my husband and I first met, I spent more time evading him than allowing his light to shine on me. I didn't know our age difference, but guessed it was outside of the "norm".
When we got engaged, my father (know for his tact), said something like "aren't uou afraid when you get oldet that he'll want a younger woman?"
my response was that was possible in any relationship. Any relationship worth its salt involves risk. So why miss out on a great relationship NOW, if no one knows what the future will bring anyway?
If you are lucky enough to find someone who meets you with her heart open, and you are compatable souls, hold on and be grateful for each day. Damn the torpedoes!!! And best of luck to you.
P.S. sorry 4 typos - can't stand new phone.
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 13, 2013 - 11:34pm PT
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SLR,
Pagan advice. Can't do that.
I want to marry someday again not hurt her.
If I really care about her I will and can wait to be with her.
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pud
climber
Sportbikeville & Yucca brevifolia
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:36pm PT
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I hope you're asking here on ST strictly for the entertainment value Klimmer.
Who really cares what others think? Go with your gut.
Have a great time and let it flow man...
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Sierra Ledge Rat
Mountain climber
Old and Broken Down in Appalachia
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:39pm PT
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Then I repeat:
The age difference may seem wonderful now, but in 20 years it will be hell for her. If you care about her, don't put her through something like that.
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Peter Haan
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, CA
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:43pm PT
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Love is where you find it, certainly. Most don't actually find it, so to be truthful.... If you have found it, this is wonderful. But usually we are deluded, at least near term.
ee cummings said, "Unless you are in love, nothing seems to make any sense".
So love is very important and the point of many life pursuits. I think that regarding large differences in age, there is a wagonload of banal prejudices usually pointed at the May-December couple by many. Much like towards gay couples, interracial couples, even cross-cultural couples. You are going to have to be not only the judge of your situation but also the bearer of its cross as well, if you choose to consider the opinions of many.
But in all things, keep smart, no matter what.
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Wade Icey
Trad climber
www.alohashirtrescue.com
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:46pm PT
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 13, 2013 - 11:46pm PT
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Pud,
Yes and no.
It's entertaining to know what others think and it in turn does make me think.
Abraham had a whole new family after his first wife Sarah died. He married another woman of childbirth age, and he did so after the age of 100!!
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Sport climber
moving thru
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Oct 13, 2013 - 11:51pm PT
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Klimmer, let's be realistic. I read and believe the Bible, but Dude, this is not the Old Testament. We live in 2013. How many people do you know that are 100 and how many are super funtional?
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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Topic Author's Reply - Oct 14, 2013 - 12:03am PT
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That was just an extreme example, to make a point.
We are talking 25 years (only) in this situation. Seems outside the USA it's far more common for May-December marriages.
Did I say she was born in Brazil to Missionary parents? She is fully of European decent. I love her Brazilian accent when she drops her guard. She came to the USA at the age of 9. She can sound just like any SoCal girl, but sometimes she drifts to her native accent. Love it.
She's fluent in Portuguese and of course English :-)
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