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Daphne

Trad climber

Mill Valley, CA

Jun 28, 2010 - 02:17am PT

Ana, I am praying for peace for you and your family. I remember all the posts you have made about staying close to home to be near your family instead of going off climbing. And Im thinking of a post you made once about how we need to attend to our family because they are the ones here for us during times of challenge. You made so many right choices in the past, to be there for your mom and to share the time that you did have. You clearly have your heart and your mind in exactly the right alignment. Sending a big hug, Daphne

Watusi

Social climber

Newport, OR

Jun 28, 2010 - 04:09am PT

God Bless you:)

neebee

Social climber

calif/texas

Jun 28, 2010 - 04:22am PT

hey there say, anastasia... hugs to you, tonight... i will post a pic, later, the kids are here and i have to get up early... computer takes way too long with pics...

love and god bless...

survival

Big Wall climber

A Token of My Extreme

Jun 28, 2010 - 11:19am PT

Anastasia,

I feel for you. I have been facing some issues and thoughts of mortality myself.

I have been graced with another round with my mom, and I'm glad that I've grown to appreciate her so much more in the last 20 years.

Indeed, she is not the same woman she used to be in some ways, but she's here.

I hope your situation will be eased by the love of many.
Bruce

Edit: That's a wonderful smile in that picture above!

Gary

climber

Desolation Basin, Calif.

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:10pm PT

Anastasia, your Mom looked like a good woman. RIP

Seamstress

Trad climber

Yacolt, WA

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:13pm PT

Ana,

WHen my grandfather passed, I was working with my father, He told me that you are not truly an adult until your parents are gone. That is so true for so many, as that bond between a parent and a child, mother to daughter is so strong.

WHen you are overwhelmed, please let others help you. You have provided support to others, so take the support others can offer you.

Peace.

bluering

Trad climber

Santa Clara, Ca.

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:18pm PT

God bless her, Ana. Sorry to hear this.

Tony Bird

climber

Northridge, CA

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:20pm PT

is that your dad in the photo, ana?

Toker Villain

Big Wall climber

Toquerville, Utah

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:57pm PT

Just saw this A, so sorry.

I just visited the spot in Central Park where my mom's ashes are 9 days ago.
It is bittersweet. She had quite a life.

The best you can do is to live a life that honors her.

Anastasia

climber

hanging from a crimp and crying for my mama.

Topic Author's Reply - Jun 28, 2010 - 04:00pm PT

Thanks everyone... I keep trying to write this when I'm able to be less emotional but... I am realizing that being Greek, less emotional isn't going to happen.

Thanks "everyone" for being there every time my emotions are out of control. You have blessed my life and helped make me a better person. Thanks to you who have sent letters, gave phone calls and posted. Your words are holding me up so I can be useful to my Dad. That's huge... He doesn't need to be facing this alone. Heck, no one needs to face things like this alone.

Beyond that;
I just need to share this one thought... All that I have learned from loss, including losing Steve, Mike, John, my aunt and grandmother etc... All I have learned from losing my mom is this.
All the little conflicts that seam so important are actually worth nothing. Most what we sometimes think is valuable is rubbish. The only things worth this life is doing good and sharing love. Plus one fact I know is that people dying never complain about what they have done, they complain about what they didn't get to do... So, don't waste time or your heart. Share it and live large.
Love greatly because it's the greatest thing you can do.

Yes, I am glad I spent most of my weekends at my parents. I actually wish I had spent more time and I do feel guilty that I didn't go with my mom during the last procedure, etc. Then again, there is never enough time and we always see things more clearly when the moment to take action is gone.

I miss her horribly. She was a great person who grew up in a war zone in WW II. She was brave enough to be working on moving to Canada alone when... Well, my Dad found her and changed all that. She faced her illness with strength, raised us well and... My brother and I will always miss her.

As my father, well, as he just told me... He had the best wife and what she gave him is all he will ever need to keep him happy for another fifty years. I think that statement sums her up pretty well.

Sending Love,
Anastasia

P.S. I will call and write back as soon that a few things settle. I get a bit worked so the way I deal with it is I pinpoint my focus. If I lose focus,"wham," I become useless. Right now it's all about what my Dad needs from me and everyone, everything else is a bit fuzzy. Not that anyone is less important. I am just not good at handling a whole lot.

AFS

TrundleBum

Trad climber

Las Vegas

Jun 29, 2010 - 05:29am PT

No matter how much you have to care for them when the get elderly...

It still feels like you've been taken off belay mid pitch.

Love and compassion to you and your family Anastasia.

TB.

Jan

Mountain climber

Okinawa, Japan

Jun 29, 2010 - 06:04am PT

Please tell your father that all your friends on ST are thinking about him and sending good energy his way too. You were really lucky to have such a wonderful family and thanks for reminding us of what's important.

charley

Trad climber

nw pa.

Jun 29, 2010 - 02:52pm PT

My condolences and prayers for you and your family.

Karl Baba

Trad climber

Yosemite, Ca

Jun 29, 2010 - 03:06pm PT

All the little conflicts that seam so important are actually worth nothing. Most what we sometimes think is valuable is rubbish. The only things worth this life is doing good and sharing love. Plus one fact I know is that people dying never complain about what they have done, they complain about what they didn't get to do... So, don't waste time or your heart. Share it and live large.
Love greatly because it's the greatest thing you can do.

Wise and Beautiful. Thanks for sharing that.

Peace

karl

Mtnmun

Trad climber

Top of the Mountain Mun

Jun 29, 2010 - 04:17pm PT

My best to your Family Anastasia.

JEleazarian

Trad climber

Fresno CA

Jun 29, 2010 - 04:31pm PT

Please accept my family's and my thoughts and prayers, Anastasia. Being Greek and being Armenian apparently gives us something in common; we Armenians are emotional, too.

My father passed away 33 years ago. He and I shared our Christian faith, so I know where he is, but I still miss him. We'll be thinking of you as you deal with your loss, and are very grateful for your sharing and allowing us to mourn with you.

John

Chief

climber

Jun 29, 2010 - 04:49pm PT

Watched mom slip away two years ago after a brief illness.
Seeing her face the end the way she did was a life affirming experience.
Losing a parent is a big corner to turn in life.
Condolences and best wishes.

couchmaster

climber

pdx

Jun 30, 2010 - 12:06am PT

Include me with the well wishers Ana. I hope the good memories burn brightly and sustain you through the sadness of losing someone so close and important to you.