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Anastasia

climber

hanging from a crimp and crying for my mama.

Topic Author's Original Post - Jun 26, 2010 - 01:57am PT

Hey folks,
My mom is leaving us. She's being given Morphin to ease her way. Hug your family for what we have won't always be there. Except for one part, the love always stays with you.

Mark Rodell

Trad climber

Bangkok

Jun 26, 2010 - 02:29am PT

Tough news A, Parents passing is a gate we often must pass through. Each passing unique, perhaps prep for when we too exit. Best to you from Thailand.

nita

Social climber

chica from chico, I don't claim to be a daisy

Jun 26, 2010 - 02:39am PT

Anastasia,

Sincere condolences to you and your family..

Sending you a hug.. take care of yourself..

Peace..

xoxo
nita..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRcVo93boSQ

HighDesertDJ

Trad climber

Arid-zona

Jun 26, 2010 - 02:53am PT

Sorry gal. My thoughts are with you.

Karen

Trad climber

So Cal urban sprawl Hell

Jun 26, 2010 - 02:55am PT

The bonds with our Moms are special, I send a big hug your way Anna, Bless you.

Ed Hartouni

Trad climber

Livermore, CA

Jun 26, 2010 - 03:44am PT

very sorry to hear this Anastasia
my hopes and wishes to you and your family to find the best possible way through this time

Karl Baba

Trad climber

Yosemite, Ca

Jun 26, 2010 - 04:04am PT

Wishing your Mom Blessings on her journey

Hoping your relish the Love that's even present in grief

Peace

Karl

Jaybro

Social climber

Wolf City, Wyoming

Jun 26, 2010 - 04:22am PT

Sincere strong vibes, Anastasia.

neebee

Social climber

calif/texas

Jun 26, 2010 - 05:05am PT

hey there dear anastasia... say... i am very sorry i did not see this sooner, to be here to help you with the others here...

hope you still see this...
am praying for you all at this very sad and hard time...

god bless... there are many folks here if you need to email
or call folks, at any time...

:(

jstan

climber

Jun 26, 2010 - 05:23am PT

This is the hardest experience of all.

Just know that when she looks at you

she is satisfied.

Dirka

Trad climber

Jun 26, 2010 - 06:51am PT

Blessings to your family.

Patrick Sawyer

climber

Originally California now Ireland

Jun 26, 2010 - 07:13am PT

Anastasia, there is not much more that I can add that already been said. I know what it is like, having lost my mother in 2007, let us hope that her passing is peaceful. Love...

MisterE

Social climber

Bouncy Tiggerville

Jun 26, 2010 - 08:08am PT

So sorry Ana - our thoughts are with you today

Blessings to you and your family.

With love,

Erik

Paulina

Trad climber

Jun 26, 2010 - 08:13am PT

Dear Anastasia,
I'm so sorry for your loss.

Crimpergirl

Sport climber

Boulder, Colorado!

Jun 26, 2010 - 08:27am PT

Sad. I hope her pain is eased. I wish we could ease yours too. :(

Bill Mc Kirgan

Trad climber

Cedar Rapids, Iowa

Jun 26, 2010 - 08:31am PT

Anastasia,

I'm keeping you and your mom in my prayers for comfort. I hope that your remaining time with her is beautiful.

Warmest regards,
Bill McKirgan

Captain...or Skully

Big Wall climber

Transporter Room 2

Jun 26, 2010 - 08:42am PT

Hugs & love, Ana.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MCBYpv8MmtY

Maysho

climber

Soda Springs, CA

Jun 26, 2010 - 10:01am PT

Anastasia,

So sorry for your loss.
Hoping for peace and much love for you and your family during this time...

Peter

SteveW

Trad climber

The state of confusion

Jun 26, 2010 - 10:05am PT

Anastasia
My sincere condolences to you and your family.

mooser

Trad climber

seattle

Jun 26, 2010 - 10:11am PT

Though I don't know you, Anastasia, I join the previous posters in passing on my very best hopes that your remaining time with your mom is rich. My prayers for her peaceful passing, and for your strength as you share these final moments with her.

Brokedownclimber

Trad climber

Douglas, WY

Jun 26, 2010 - 10:16am PT

Anastasia-

My most sincere condolences to you and your loved one--

go-B

climber

In God We Trust

Jun 26, 2010 - 10:43am PT

Anastasia,

Thanks for sharing with us and hugs for you!

I've lost both my folks and a brother, my wife lost her dad and her mom is ill with cancer this last year, and her brother lost his wife to cancer this last year also! Our son only 35 has pneumonia, gall stones, and heart failure, and might be off of work for a year?

I hope your mom had a good and long life and she has lots of love, but I know the best is yet to come!
Prayers and God bless!
go-b

Your right, she is right there when you think on her!

phylp

Trad climber

Millbrae, CA

Jun 26, 2010 - 10:53am PT

I've been through this with my Mom and others and know the mixed emotions you are feeling. Wanting to see their suffering finally over, but also feeling the huge grief at knowing they will not be physicaly there with you any longer. Deepest sympathies. Phyl

Fish Finder

Social climber

THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART

Jun 26, 2010 - 11:56am PT

"climber
hanging from a crimp and crying for my mama."

Hi Ana.

Family Matters.

Thinking of you .

Best,Gregg

quietpartner

Trad climber

Moantannah

Jun 26, 2010 - 12:14pm PT

Anastasia

Your kind and warm heart has always impressed me in your posts. I wish you and your family the best in loving your mom as she moves to the next phase in life.

Tony Bird

climber

Northridge, CA

Jun 26, 2010 - 02:02pm PT

have been through this process, and i know it isn't easy. just remember, it isn't over when it's over.

dirtbag

climber

Jun 26, 2010 - 02:09pm PT

I hope things go as well as they can.

Ghost

climber

A long way from where I started

Jun 26, 2010 - 02:26pm PT

Except for one part, the love always stays with you.

So true Ana. And when it is our own time to go, we pass it on to those we leave behind, as your mother is now doing for you.

Best wishes in these difficult days.

Roman

Trad climber

Bostonia

Jun 26, 2010 - 02:58pm PT

love and prayers to and for your family

Anastasia

climber

hanging from a crimp and crying for my mama.

Topic Author's Reply - Jun 26, 2010 - 03:31pm PT

She passed peacefully with all of us around at 11:54 am.
Thanks everyone. All I ask is to not waste time.

noshoesnoshirt

climber

Arkansas, I suppose

Jun 26, 2010 - 03:53pm PT

Anastasia,

My mom passed about a year ago. I'm sure you've spent your last bit of time letting her know you love her.

My thoughts go out to you.
No matter how dark it seems there's always a dawn.

Scout 2

Trad climber

Placerville

Jun 26, 2010 - 04:08pm PT

Big Hug's ana.... Its all you can ask is to go peacefully. Lifes too short..
You got that right!

Doug

TripL7

Trad climber

san diego

Jun 26, 2010 - 04:18pm PT

May Peace be with you Ana!

John~

Edge

Trad climber

New Durham, NH

Jun 26, 2010 - 04:22pm PT

Anastasia,

I do not know you or your mom, and yet I can honestly say that I am a better person for having shared an existence with the two of you. We are the product of our surroundings...

I wish you both peace and tranquil transitions.

Loran

nature

climber

Tucson, AZ

Jun 26, 2010 - 04:23pm PT

My deepest condolences offered to you and your family, Ana.

You are very brave.
~doug

SteveW

Trad climber

The state of confusion

Jun 26, 2010 - 06:16pm PT

Again, Anastasia, my condolences to you and your family.
I know how hard it was when I lost my mother.
My heart's with you.

bestill

Trad climber

s. ca.

Jun 26, 2010 - 06:27pm PT

my condolences to you and your family,may god bless.

10b4me

Boulder climber

Hell A

Jun 26, 2010 - 06:30pm PT

I am very sorry Anastasia. Please accept my condolences

TYeary

Social climber

State of decay

Jun 26, 2010 - 06:33pm PT

Anastasia,
You are in my thoughts. My sincerest well wishes are spinning into space for you and your family. You were there for me when I needed support and reassurence. I'm there for you. Peace to all.
Tony

Footloose

Trad climber

Lake Tahoe

Jun 26, 2010 - 06:56pm PT

Anastasia,
I'm so sorry. Wishing you
peace and lots of love during
this time.

Carolyn C

Trad climber

the long, long trailer

Jun 26, 2010 - 08:14pm PT

I am so sorry. Wishing you peace.

divad

Trad climber

wmass

Jun 26, 2010 - 09:15pm PT

Peace to you and your family at this time.

Bob D'A

Trad climber

Boulder, CO

Jun 26, 2010 - 09:29pm PT

Anastasia...beautiful memories to you and your family. Hope that your mother passing is peaceful, beautiful and calm.

Jingy

Social climber

Nowhere

Jun 26, 2010 - 09:33pm PT

Ana,

Please accept my condolences.

Jan

Mountain climber

Okinawa, Japan

Jun 26, 2010 - 09:58pm PT

So sorry for your loss.

Hopefully you can take comfort that she isn't suffering anymore.
May the profound rituals of Orthodoxy also give you comfort at this time.

JayMark

Social climber

Oxnard, CA

Jun 26, 2010 - 10:08pm PT

My sincerest condolences to you and yours Anastasia. A very big hug.

the Fet

climber

Tu-Tok-A-Nu-La

Jun 26, 2010 - 10:31pm PT

My sincere condolences.

Best wishes,
Steve

JOEY.F

Social climber

sebastopol

Jun 26, 2010 - 10:39pm PT

Anastasia,
Condolences, and good vibes your way.
Joe.

Flanders!

Trad climber

June Lake, CA

Jun 26, 2010 - 11:59pm PT

hey my friend; thinking of you and your Mom ! It's never easy to left go of what we have here
in our hand, our present, but that door you are dealing with now comes to all of us. Expected or unexpected it comes, and it hurts. I have a close friend, Lynnie's friend too, who says to bring
ALL of your cares to HIM, ALL of your hurts, questions, wonderings.........and He will do more than we can ask, think, or even imagine.

praying that you have the peace that passes all understanding as you go thru this time.

Your friend,

Doug

Double D

climber

Jun 27, 2010 - 12:16am PT

My condolances to you and your family. Life is precious.

CynthiaL

Social climber

Joshua Tree

Jun 27, 2010 - 12:23am PT

Anastasia,
We only met briefly once at Gordo's for the Tarbuster fundraiser.

My prayers go out to you and your family during this time of profound loss.

My own mother is 81 and I do not take a single day for granted that I have to spend with her!

God bless!
Cynthia

drljefe

climber

Old Pueblo, AZ

Jun 27, 2010 - 12:27am PT

peace to you

Fletcher

Trad climber

Looking for love in all the right places...

Jun 27, 2010 - 03:03am PT

All of you are in our prayers, Anastasia. Peace, light and love.

Eric

justthemaid

climber

Jim Henson's Basement

Jun 27, 2010 - 10:24am PT

I'm very sorry to hear that you are going through this difficult time.

Big hugs for you.

Todd Gordon

Trad climber

Joshua Tree, Cal

Jun 27, 2010 - 10:37am PT

Rest in peace, Mom...and comfort to the rest of the family......so sorry to hear this....

Anastasia

climber

hanging from a crimp and crying for my mama.

Topic Author's Reply - Jun 27, 2010 - 06:25pm PT

Setting up the funeral is a bit of work. I hope most of you have discussed with your people about what you personally want and wrote it down. It will be very helpful to those who you will one day leave behind. If I didn't have my father and Bill... I would be so over my head right now. Luckily I am surrounded by the most effective staff in the world. Our church community is impressing the heck out of me.
AFS

nutjob

Trad climber

Berkeley, CA

Jun 27, 2010 - 11:08pm PT

Hang in there Anastasia. It's painful, but without it we would not appreciate the remarkable adventure we are all living here on Earth, and how special are the connections we have with other souls. I'm glad to see happiness lighting up her face in your last picture!

LuckyPink

climber

the last bivy

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:41am PT

My heart goes out to you Anastasia, my mom passed on memorial day. Her love for you is still here. Maureen

murcy

climber

sanfrancisco

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:50am PT

Respect to your mom. :(

em kn0t

Trad climber

isle of wyde

Jun 28, 2010 - 01:43am PT

Wishing for you the light of love in your mother's eyes to shine through this dark time.
And keep loving all that links us together, seeing the beauty in each day.
Namaste,
em

Daphne

Trad climber

Mill Valley, CA

Jun 28, 2010 - 02:17am PT

Ana, I am praying for peace for you and your family. I remember all the posts you have made about staying close to home to be near your family instead of going off climbing. And Im thinking of a post you made once about how we need to attend to our family because they are the ones here for us during times of challenge. You made so many right choices in the past, to be there for your mom and to share the time that you did have. You clearly have your heart and your mind in exactly the right alignment. Sending a big hug, Daphne

Watusi

Social climber

Newport, OR

Jun 28, 2010 - 04:09am PT

God Bless you:)

neebee

Social climber

calif/texas

Jun 28, 2010 - 04:22am PT

hey there say, anastasia... hugs to you, tonight... i will post a pic, later, the kids are here and i have to get up early... computer takes way too long with pics...

love and god bless...

survival

Big Wall climber

A Token of My Extreme

Jun 28, 2010 - 11:19am PT

Anastasia,

I feel for you. I have been facing some issues and thoughts of mortality myself.

I have been graced with another round with my mom, and I'm glad that I've grown to appreciate her so much more in the last 20 years.

Indeed, she is not the same woman she used to be in some ways, but she's here.

I hope your situation will be eased by the love of many.
Bruce

Edit: That's a wonderful smile in that picture above!

Gary

climber

Desolation Basin, Calif.

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:10pm PT

Anastasia, your Mom looked like a good woman. RIP

Seamstress

Trad climber

Yacolt, WA

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:13pm PT

Ana,

WHen my grandfather passed, I was working with my father, He told me that you are not truly an adult until your parents are gone. That is so true for so many, as that bond between a parent and a child, mother to daughter is so strong.

WHen you are overwhelmed, please let others help you. You have provided support to others, so take the support others can offer you.

Peace.

bluering

Trad climber

Santa Clara, Ca.

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:18pm PT

God bless her, Ana. Sorry to hear this.

Tony Bird

climber

Northridge, CA

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:20pm PT

is that your dad in the photo, ana?

Toker Villain

Big Wall climber

Toquerville, Utah

Jun 28, 2010 - 12:57pm PT

Just saw this A, so sorry.

I just visited the spot in Central Park where my mom's ashes are 9 days ago.
It is bittersweet. She had quite a life.

The best you can do is to live a life that honors her.

Anastasia

climber

hanging from a crimp and crying for my mama.

Topic Author's Reply - Jun 28, 2010 - 04:00pm PT

Thanks everyone... I keep trying to write this when I'm able to be less emotional but... I am realizing that being Greek, less emotional isn't going to happen.

Thanks "everyone" for being there every time my emotions are out of control. You have blessed my life and helped make me a better person. Thanks to you who have sent letters, gave phone calls and posted. Your words are holding me up so I can be useful to my Dad. That's huge... He doesn't need to be facing this alone. Heck, no one needs to face things like this alone.

Beyond that;
I just need to share this one thought... All that I have learned from loss, including losing Steve, Mike, John, my aunt and grandmother etc... All I have learned from losing my mom is this.
All the little conflicts that seam so important are actually worth nothing. Most what we sometimes think is valuable is rubbish. The only things worth this life is doing good and sharing love. Plus one fact I know is that people dying never complain about what they have done, they complain about what they didn't get to do... So, don't waste time or your heart. Share it and live large.
Love greatly because it's the greatest thing you can do.

Yes, I am glad I spent most of my weekends at my parents. I actually wish I had spent more time and I do feel guilty that I didn't go with my mom during the last procedure, etc. Then again, there is never enough time and we always see things more clearly when the moment to take action is gone.

I miss her horribly. She was a great person who grew up in a war zone in WW II. She was brave enough to be working on moving to Canada alone when... Well, my Dad found her and changed all that. She faced her illness with strength, raised us well and... My brother and I will always miss her.

As my father, well, as he just told me... He had the best wife and what she gave him is all he will ever need to keep him happy for another fifty years. I think that statement sums her up pretty well.

Sending Love,
Anastasia

P.S. I will call and write back as soon that a few things settle. I get a bit worked so the way I deal with it is I pinpoint my focus. If I lose focus,"wham," I become useless. Right now it's all about what my Dad needs from me and everyone, everything else is a bit fuzzy. Not that anyone is less important. I am just not good at handling a whole lot.

AFS

TrundleBum

Trad climber

Las Vegas

Jun 29, 2010 - 05:29am PT

No matter how much you have to care for them when the get elderly...

It still feels like you've been taken off belay mid pitch.

Love and compassion to you and your family Anastasia.

TB.

Jan

Mountain climber

Okinawa, Japan

Jun 29, 2010 - 06:04am PT

Please tell your father that all your friends on ST are thinking about him and sending good energy his way too. You were really lucky to have such a wonderful family and thanks for reminding us of what's important.

charley

Trad climber

nw pa.

Jun 29, 2010 - 02:52pm PT

My condolences and prayers for you and your family.

Karl Baba

Trad climber

Yosemite, Ca

Jun 29, 2010 - 03:06pm PT

All the little conflicts that seam so important are actually worth nothing. Most what we sometimes think is valuable is rubbish. The only things worth this life is doing good and sharing love. Plus one fact I know is that people dying never complain about what they have done, they complain about what they didn't get to do... So, don't waste time or your heart. Share it and live large.
Love greatly because it's the greatest thing you can do.

Wise and Beautiful. Thanks for sharing that.

Peace

karl

Mtnmun

Trad climber

Top of the Mountain Mun

Jun 29, 2010 - 04:17pm PT

My best to your Family Anastasia.

JEleazarian

Trad climber

Fresno CA

Jun 29, 2010 - 04:31pm PT

Please accept my family's and my thoughts and prayers, Anastasia. Being Greek and being Armenian apparently gives us something in common; we Armenians are emotional, too.

My father passed away 33 years ago. He and I shared our Christian faith, so I know where he is, but I still miss him. We'll be thinking of you as you deal with your loss, and are very grateful for your sharing and allowing us to mourn with you.

John

Chief

climber

Jun 29, 2010 - 04:49pm PT

Watched mom slip away two years ago after a brief illness.
Seeing her face the end the way she did was a life affirming experience.
Losing a parent is a big corner to turn in life.
Condolences and best wishes.

couchmaster

climber

pdx

Jun 30, 2010 - 12:06am PT

Include me with the well wishers Ana. I hope the good memories burn brightly and sustain you through the sadness of losing someone so close and important to you.