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snakefoot
climber
Nor Cal
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Feb 16, 2019 - 09:39am PT
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Ouch! that hurts. The greatest failures give us opportunity to grow. good luck
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Feb 16, 2019 - 10:07am PT
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Also, if anyone has insight into day labor from NH to Cali, I’m all ears. Probably going to take 80. Have experience in carpentry, but am a good general laborer as well. Got to pay for gas and food after all.
I’m not one of those people who has good credit and can put it all on plastic. I prefer to live within my means, even if it means beeing a dirty f*#king hippie with no means.
So, any work on the I-80 corridor would be f*#king dope. Give me a shout!
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Fritz
Social climber
Choss Creek, ID
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Feb 16, 2019 - 10:09am PT
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Brandon! Sorry to read about your breakup. Please appreciate that many folks go through the divorce & starting over trauma.
I sold my share of my 2 money-losing Idaho outdoor stores to my partner, for my share of the net worth of the merchandise & store fixtures, less bills, when I was 34, & started a new, but similar career as an independend wholesale outdoor gear & clothing sales-rep. That went poorly for the first two years, & due to that stress & other compatability problems, my wife & I got divorced when I was 36.
I ended up with a heavily-mortgaged house in SLC, but I was living near Sun Valley, Idaho at the time. I had $2,000 a month income coming for another 3 years from my ex-business partner, plus my anemic sales-rep commission. It still sounds like a lot of money, but I was constantly traveling a 4-state territory & incurring lots of travel expenses.
I moved into a condo in Ketchum, Idaho, worked Dec. & Jan. in a local outdoor shop & kept my sales rep career, until I finally achieved "break-even" in commission vs expenses, at age 39, which was also when I met Heidi & soon remarried.
I remember my stress-levels being very-high for those years.
Best wishes for an easier transition for you.
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Jan
Mountain climber
Colorado & Nepal
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Feb 16, 2019 - 10:13am PT
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You mentioned family in Colorado. Our economy is booming and has a terrible labor shortage, especially in construction. Just turn left off I-80 when you get to Wyoming.
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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Feb 16, 2019 - 10:17am PT
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^^^ But good luck with housing in CO.
Good luck anyway.
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capseeboy
Social climber
portland, oregon
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Feb 16, 2019 - 10:30am PT
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That's a hell of a hit. It's tough being accused of something your not. People have different perceptions of realities w/o there ever being a chance of resolution. Unfortunately, that is just the way it is, sounds trite/cliche but it's happened to me too. Take care of yourself.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Feb 16, 2019 - 10:38am PT
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Just thinking about how it all went down last night makes me cry relentlessly. I’m pissed off as well.
If anyone wants to shoot the breeze, you can reach me at 603-456-2949.
What the f*#k? If you’re poor, life can be so super shitty sometimes.
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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Feb 16, 2019 - 10:55am PT
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Oh yeah!.....
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limpingcrab
Trad climber
the middle of CA
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Feb 16, 2019 - 11:08am PT
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Check craigslist a few cities ahead of you decide to travel, people post help wanted stuff on there when they need a floor laid in a bathroom or a fence fixed or whatever, I used that in college and in between full time jobs.
Hopefully a lot of time to think helps you sort things out and not focus on regret.
All the best, if you make it to central CA and need a layover spot for a shower and a bed while you plan what’s next please let me know.
daniel
jeffcoach
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Gmail
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mouse from merced
Trad climber
The finger of fate, my friends, is fickle.
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Feb 16, 2019 - 11:12am PT
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And yet, ironically, "At either end of the social spectrum there lies a leisure class," or so said Eric Beck.
"Plan better next time," Bridwell might say.
Best wishes for future happiness, brother Brandon.
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Treezypoof
Trad climber
Cyberia
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Feb 16, 2019 - 11:13am PT
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Best wishes, Brandon.
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SC seagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, Moab, Bozeman, the ocean, or ?
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Feb 16, 2019 - 11:24am PT
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You’re in a lot of hearts Brandon,
If you get out Moab way give a holler.
I don’t have any advice since everyone’s path is unique. I would just add that I do believe the “universal” need for all of us to journey forward is to stay as healthy as possible. Without that things really are horribly ugly.
I do hope that each day you can find increasing moments of peacefulness and serenity.
Susan
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Feb 16, 2019 - 11:29am PT
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I want to hit up fam in CO, then visit peeps in UT, namely you, Susan. PM me with your digits, see you in a month or so.
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Happiegrrrl2
Trad climber
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Feb 16, 2019 - 11:37am PT
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The only suggestion I have "Don't drink. No matter what."
Yes, its an AA thing, but really, right now has to be about sobriety. Drinking will only make things worse.
Good luck, Brandon.
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ground_up
Trad climber
mt. hood /baja
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Feb 16, 2019 - 03:07pm PT
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Brandon.... keep yer stick on the ice. It will get better.
Been thru that stuff and it's no fun. Came out in a better
place for sure and you will too !
Cheers mate
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Feb 16, 2019 - 03:17pm PT
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Good luck Brandon. Consider going sans dog, it will just complicate your vagabond ways. Anybody who can drive a nail straight can make good bucks in Denver/Boulder these days...fabulous, as I’m sure you know, climbing near by and the distaff set isn’t hard on the eyes.
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ecdh
climber
the east
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Feb 16, 2019 - 03:30pm PT
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its times like this a trip to india helps. puts some water under your bridge, opens your eyes when the nerves are tingling, cheap, makes you think. then even if you come back and lapse into bitter despair, you known youve got something to measure it by.
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wilbeer
Mountain climber
Terence Wilson greeneck alleghenys,ny,
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Feb 16, 2019 - 04:22pm PT
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Keep looking up Brandon.
This bump in the road takes a little time,I know from recent experience.
If you have problems finding work in the front range ,don’t hesitate to get a hold of me ,I have a couple of good friends that could always put a good carpenter to work.
Stay strong and take care. Wilbeer
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neebee
Social climber
calif/texas
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Feb 16, 2019 - 05:08pm PT
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hey there say, Brandon_
thanks for sharinga an update...
sounds like you got a blueprint, for starters...
so many of us, have had to start over...
and some-- like me, at a much later age, in life...
so many, as well, that NEVER thought there would be
new life, or, hope:
have actually 'come out into the meadow' through awful trails,
and found 'something better' ...
and for those that had no hope-- well, they found something
that new dreams could be built upon:
a new space in time...
none of it is easy... it is a step at a time...
look at each step, and not the harshness of the past, nor, the
pressures of 'unknown' future...
it will keep you from being depressed...
look to the day, each day, doing your best, and when
depression seems to be knocking-- find those that you can
talk too, here, by phone, by those around you...
just work through it...
prayers and best wishes...
and, will sure pray extra hard, as to the house getting rented...
you could, of course, really use that, along the way...
hope some of these leads, help, too...
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Dave
Mountain climber
the ANTI-fresno
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Feb 16, 2019 - 05:13pm PT
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Hi Brandon.
Sounds crappy, and like an opportunity for a fresh start.
My operation is hiring, the only caveat is we are looking for folks who will stay for a while. We train on equipment and processes, pay well, and have great (industry leading) benefits.
We are close to Winter Park, Empire, and Georgetown in Colorado.
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 16, 2019 - 05:32pm PT
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Brandon-
Left you a voice mail. Been there, done that. It ain't fun and tears one up. It may sound trite, but every cloud has a silver lining. Every storm passes and the sun will shine again.
Thing is to learn from the experience and move forward with a positive attitude.
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fear
Ice climber
hartford, ct
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Feb 16, 2019 - 06:00pm PT
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Good luck Brandon.... just keep in mind that people will still f@ck with you even if you're armed...
I like the India idea... the timing is right.
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Flip Flop
climber
Earth Planet, Universe
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Feb 16, 2019 - 06:04pm PT
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Drunks with guns and a history of sh#t decisions. Don't come here. Sounds like your ex is right to fear you.
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mynameismud
climber
backseat
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Feb 16, 2019 - 06:07pm PT
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much good mojo to you and yours
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wilbeer
Mountain climber
Terence Wilson greeneck alleghenys,ny,
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Feb 16, 2019 - 06:13pm PT
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Flip,he is a good man. Cut him a bit of slack.
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 16, 2019 - 06:15pm PT
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Drunks with guns and a history of sh#t decisions.
A little harsh, but get where you are coming from. Couldn't figure why Brandon seems it is necessary to be armed. Taking weapons across state lines is a potential felony. All he needs is to have a brake light out on his trip. Get pulled over. Drunk or not they will search the car.
edit: personally, not sure he is thinking clearly. A cross country drive in February on the 80? In a car that is suspect with regards to reliability? With no money? That may not go as planned.
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Flip Flop
climber
Earth Planet, Universe
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Feb 16, 2019 - 06:24pm PT
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Yup, I'm a dick. But I'm not a coward. I'd rather take a bullet than kill someone. I have honor
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 16, 2019 - 06:47pm PT
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Brandon seems to be a nice person. Seems he is having a knee jerk reaction.
Brandon, maybe chill out for a while? Sort things out? Can your family fly you to CO? Just thinking out loud. Worst thing to do when one is stressed and confused is to make rash decisions.
That said, if you drink while you are with your family, you are toast. You are walking a tight rope. One slip and you are f*#ked.
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rottingjohnny
Sport climber
Sands Motel , Las Vegas
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Feb 16, 2019 - 06:57pm PT
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Escaping a toxic environment via road trip can be beneficial in that it can give one a clearer perspective of the toxic environment... stay calm brandon , forgive the ex , and make solid decisions...rj
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 16, 2019 - 07:02pm PT
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Escaping a toxic environment via road trip can be beneficial
Not sure I agree with that. You can change your environment, but take your baggage with you. Geographical change does no good if there is not a mental change.
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anita514
Gym climber
Great White North
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Feb 16, 2019 - 07:20pm PT
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mental change
Yeah, like therapy. Maybe a good idea?
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Jim Clipper
climber
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Feb 16, 2019 - 07:25pm PT
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Therapy? Did you mean for Brandon, or everyone else posting here. Nevermind... Best wishes.
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 16, 2019 - 07:43pm PT
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Yeah, like therapy. Maybe a good idea?
Yes. Addiction is not the problem. There are underlying reasons for addiction. Resolving the underlying reasons is one tool to beating it.
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Jim Clipper
climber
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Feb 16, 2019 - 07:47pm PT
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John, you've always come across as a stand up guy. Also, there were some pretty "interesting" comments on these threads. BJ comes to mind.
Anyway, seriously, best wishes. The taco is gonna taco, FWIW. More good than otherwise it seems to me.
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Clint Cummins
Trad climber
SF Bay area, CA
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Feb 16, 2019 - 08:10pm PT
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If you have work where you are now,
could be good to build up some cash and make sure your car is good
before going on a long road trip.
If you are doing a planned visit with family, that does not require as much cash to smooth over times between temp work.
Guard your sobriety, though - if it depresses you to stay in your house,
the family visit could be a good break.
Travel in May on 80 is a lot easier than in February, though.
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JLP
Social climber
The internet
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Feb 16, 2019 - 08:26pm PT
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I have to side with Flip Flop - lose the gun. I know 2 Supertopo posters who earned themselves an instant divorce by pulling a gun on their wives, the news is full of stories every single week as well of wives who not so mysteriously disappeared forever from similar circumstances. Your [ex] wife was wise and correct to call the troopers, so you should come to terms with that. Your intent is irrelevant, it was how you were perceived. As for things not going as planned - you said she told you she was leaving, and you said you were going to treatment - what didn't go according to plan?
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 16, 2019 - 08:29pm PT
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I have to side with Flip Flop - lose the gun.
Yup. Anger can f*#k you up.
what didn't go according to plan?
My guess is the program he was in was worthless. One can't get a good treatment program for $4,000. A bad program does more harm than good.
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Ricky D
Trad climber
Sierra Westside
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Feb 16, 2019 - 08:37pm PT
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My Grand Dad was a tough old coal mining country bastard who practiced what he called "BROGAN MAINTENANCE".
What that meant was there comes a time in the life of every person where someone needed to stick a hard-toed boot up your sorry ass to kick some sense back into you.
The message was clear -
Quit your goddamn whining and grow the fukk up.
Simple and to the point.
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grover
climber
Castlegar BC
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Feb 16, 2019 - 09:03pm PT
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Take it easy Brandon.
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ionlyski
Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
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Feb 17, 2019 - 08:36am PT
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Oh Gawd here we go all over again. SO dramatic.
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Don Paul
Social climber
Washington DC
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Feb 17, 2019 - 08:49am PT
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Brandon busted out of rehab and pulled a gun on his wife? Did the gofundme reach its goal?
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Feb 17, 2019 - 08:58am PT
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Lol, I am a gentle guy. I left rehab because I was having hallucinations. Five days of them. I was just thinking about a pistol beause I’d be living out of the car from time to time nd have experienced more crimem out west than where I live. I’d rather give Llama my pistol and have her shoot me in the f*#king head than use it on her or myself. Regardless, I’m going to bail on the gun thing, I’ve nev3r owned one before, so I’m sure I’ll be just fine without one now. Looking at working here for a couple of months. Can put some loot away, do maintenance on the home, then airbnb the place for k a weekend. Yes please, I can camp one weekend a year?
Edit, Don Paul, I left for reasons that I’m not really comfortable posting on a public forum. I’d be happy to tell you what’s up. Message me at btmayo79 at the gmail.
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Don Paul
Social climber
Washington DC
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Feb 17, 2019 - 09:08am PT
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I left rehab because I was having hallucinations. Five days of them. I was just thinking about a pistol beause I’d be living out of the car from time to time...
That's a relief. Good luck out west.
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LAhiker
Social climber
Los Angeles
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Feb 17, 2019 - 09:11am PT
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Brandon, I'm glad you'll be working in your area for a few months and aren't making any sudden changes or going on a road trip in the middle of winter. If you want to stay sober, and I hope you do, it may help if you have support and a strategy. How do you feel about AA? It's likely that they can help. Or are there other sorts of support groups in your area?
I'm sorry your wife has left you -- sounds very painful. Maybe you can work things out, or maybe it wasn't meant to be. You probably know better than us why she left -- whether it was because of your alcoholism, because you left the rehab program, or even because she's having a hard time adjusting to your being sober.
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ionlyski
Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
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Feb 17, 2019 - 09:12am PT
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Actually Brandon, stay right there where you are. You described it and doesn't sound like there's anything wrong with it. Stop running from yourself just stay and work on YOU. You have to take YOU with you, where ever you go so you gotta learn to make that work first.
Then go on your long road trips out west.
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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Feb 17, 2019 - 09:17am PT
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I have to agree with Arne. Seems more productive in the long run to repair any broken local relationships and build on the good ones.
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Jim Clipper
climber
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Feb 17, 2019 - 09:19am PT
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My final 2 cents. Dogs do a better job of protecting us, maybe protecting us from ourselves too. Let me know if you are still considering CA.
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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Feb 17, 2019 - 12:42pm PT
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avoid rock climbers.
😱🙀😖
What if he’s left handed?
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capseeboy
Social climber
portland, oregon
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Feb 17, 2019 - 12:47pm PT
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Uh IJ is correct eg lots of drug use in climbing and construction and health industry and, well, everywhere.
Take IJ's advice--- it's the hardest climb in your life and it will kick your ass.
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John M
climber
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Feb 17, 2019 - 01:08pm PT
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I'm going to mostly agree with Ian.
I'm glad that you decided to at least stay put for two months and work. You told me that your boss is a former alcoholic who goes to AA and that he runs a dry crew. Not sure how it could be dry if you were working for him before you went to rehab, . but if its mostly dry and you weren't drinking around the other guys, then fair enough.
I don't know you well enough to know if this is you, but something to think about is that alcohol is often used as a form of escape. Hitting the road is also a form of escape. Sometimes its the only thing that we can do, but if your work crew really is sober, then I would hope that you would consider staying put and working on your own mental, physical and financial health.
The best way to attract a reasonably stable woman into your life is to be reasonably stable yourself. Some women are attracted to the bad boys, but that usually doesn't last. You don't have to entirely stomp out the wild streak in yourself. You need to learn how to harness it so that it helps you rather then hurts you.
I'm hoping the best for you Brandon.
John
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Happiegrrrl2
Trad climber
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Feb 17, 2019 - 01:15pm PT
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I know its harsh, but I agree with Ian Jewel to a point. I know that Brandon isn't relying solely on ST, but yeah...anyone saying "You're good, don't worry, come to (climbing area) may not have experience with recovering from years of active alcoholism.
I think Brandon has made a great choice in staying put for a little bit. That's not f'd up thinking at all. GOOD DECISION.
Don't drink today. The rest will take care of itself.
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ecdh
climber
the east
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Feb 17, 2019 - 01:33pm PT
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that Ian Jewell post is as good as you will hear it.
YOU will not get out of this situation, because YOU are the overlap of all the elements that made it happen.
the guy that will get over this isnt YOU, its some other guy, and you need to be him instead. but so long as you keep the same old triggers, the same old reasoning, the same old logic, the same old environment you cant be that guy.
that guy is somewhere else, doing something else, for other reasons.
expect changes in yourself directly proportional to the changes you actually make.
i wont win friends with this but, personally i dont have an issue with the gun thing if, and ONLY if, you go and properly train for it first BEFORE you even consider owning one. go thru the process, the discipline, the difficulties, the minutia and the feedback of becoming seriously proficient, use the process to rewrite your head. its a lot more subtle and comples than you may imagine. understand the gravity and responsibility and extrapolate it.
and you should still go to india.
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Feb 17, 2019 - 01:39pm PT
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Ian Jewell is not harsh, he is on target. You need to face hard facts and quit rationalizing.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Feb 17, 2019 - 02:25pm PT
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I am a lefty, and I just got back from an eight mile trail run. Kicked my ass, but I needed it. Just pushing through the hard times with a little masochism. Only averaged 8.5 min/miles, but the pain was good. DT’s sucked big time, that’s why exercise is helping so much. You can think what you want of me, but I’m not a person with such a huge ego that he would start a thread about himself that was predicated upon lies. If you son’t beliefe that, then I guess I’ve got nothing left to speak to you about.
Haven’t yet read the long post that everyone is complememting. Need to take a shower and feed the animals. I’m sure there’s some solid wisdom in there, so, thanks.
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John M
climber
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Feb 17, 2019 - 02:41pm PT
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BJ.. it wasn't his boss who he accused of spreading lies.
Try to dial it back.
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 17, 2019 - 02:42pm PT
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DT’s sucked big time
If you are having DT's and hallucinations, you have not been through detox? This raises a few questions.
I'm not much in agreement with Ian. Many who have posted have gone through it and are offering input from their experience. We aren't trying to be arm chair shrinks. Just sharing what we have experienced.
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 17, 2019 - 02:44pm PT
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Generally speaking, if you are struggling with alcoholism, stay the f*#k away from rock climbers entirely.
Then why are you here? Plenty of climbers live healthy lives. As with all of society, one has a choice in the type of people they hang around.
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 17, 2019 - 02:53pm PT
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^^^
So you think it best he abandon a healthy passion?
I know how I was when I was getting sober, and I wouldn't have done well to just hit the road and cruise to the valley.
Agreed.
An alternative to AA is SMART Recovery. AA did not work for me. Sitting in meetings listening to people tell their life story was pointless as I have lived it. It was like an episode of "Scared Straight".
SMART did.
https://www.smartrecovery.org/about-us/
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Patrick Sawyer
climber
Originally California, now Ireland
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Feb 17, 2019 - 03:11pm PT
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Good luck Brandon.
If your travels bring you to Ireland, you have a place to stay in Wexford, as I do not foresee any return for me to the States. I like it here, though I miss California and the climbing.
Email me and I will give you the details. I have a guest bedroom (two actually, counting the loft) and Ballytrent Beach is 70 meters away. No good climbing nearby though, that is sort of a bummer.
In fact, if any Supertopian is in Ireland, look me up. You are welcome in my abode, just no politics, no religion and keep your farts to yourself, hah hah.
Best wishes Brandon and all
Patrick
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phylp
Trad climber
Upland, CA
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Feb 17, 2019 - 03:15pm PT
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Thank you, Ian Jewell, for taking the time to write a post from your invaluable experience.
Good luck, Brandon.
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johntp
Trad climber
Punter
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Feb 17, 2019 - 03:26pm PT
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Ian has a lot of good points. Sugar coating things won't help. I just disagree that all climbers are drunk dopers. Choose who one hangs around with.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Feb 17, 2019 - 03:28pm PT
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Hey Johntp, sorry to have to cut that conversation short. My neighbor brought over groceries, we are a tight bunch here. Email me your info and maybe we can make conversation easier via messenger. The dog eating the phone really sucked. You’re a good friend, thanks!
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Happiegrrrl2
Trad climber
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Feb 17, 2019 - 05:45pm PT
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It's true that a good number of climbers at LEAST like to have an after-climbing cold beer.
Which is not a big deal, if you're not a newly sober person who's not had enough experience to know if they can be around that without slipping.
Also, I have found that there ARE people who danged well knew I was sober, and still tried to cajole me into drinking with them I had one guy tell me he was gifted at Xmas with this "homemade juice" and would I like some?
He outright denied it was an alcoholic beverage. "Just a sip! Just try it!" he kept saying.
Those who are problem drinkers are very unlikely to support a non-drinkers desire to stay sober. They just aren't going to sT "Dude, you've got 3 month! Don't throw that away just to have a warm can of beer with us."
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zBrown
Ice climber
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Feb 17, 2019 - 09:53pm PT
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These threads never go as planned?
Don't forget the cigarettes
DJinNevada
Trad climber
Reno
Feb 17, 2019 - 09:46pm PT
Don’t forget this latest blade I’m almost done with.
3/10 ???
Edit
Former Congressman Anthony Weiner released from federal prison
Is considering CA or alas Vegas to start anew
Reddit
Was supposed to be Las Vegas, but alas Vegas has a feel to it, no?
Carlos Danger, a car load of danger
Laws that criminalize HIV exposure in more than 25 states also may make people reluctant to get tested. In Louisiana, for example, a person living with HIV who knows their status and intentionally exposes another through sexual contact can face 10 years in prison./quote]
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dirtbag
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Feb 18, 2019 - 06:28am PT
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Brandon, I’m very sorry to hear about this latest punch to the gut.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Feb 18, 2019 - 06:38am PT
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Lost my job as well. Well, if I finish the twelve steps, my boss says we could talk. Car is in the shop and can’t be retrieved until I pay the bill. Can’t pay the bill. Out of coins to cash in at the bank, so I just had to borrow twenty bucks from an old employer just to buy groceries. Heating oil is about to run out, not sure how I’m going to take care of that one. Net worth is literally just that of all my outdoors toys, carpentry tools, clothes, and yard power tools. More poor than I’ve ever been
But I mean this in all seriousness, I’m f*#king stoked to be sober. It may suck right now, but I’m a white guy in the usa, I’m not going to die because of these hardships. Things can only get better!
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Happiegrrrl2
Trad climber
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Feb 18, 2019 - 07:00am PT
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Dang, that's a harsh place. Don't drink, no matter what! I've heard stories from people in harsher spots, Brandon, and if they can do it, you can do it!
Seriously, get your butt down to social services tomorrow. Get all the assistance available. It's important you have food and there may be fuel assistance. Some states won't allow heat turned off in winter, but not sure how that works. Definitely don't let the people who are making sport of your deal here on ST get in your head. FK them, arrogant bastards.
By the way, nice knife handles, DJ. Do you make the blades?
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Rollover
climber
Gross Vegas
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Feb 18, 2019 - 10:25am PT
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Trump
climber
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Feb 19, 2019 - 03:59pm PT
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Right, what happens if you look for good advice on a real life issue on Supertopo and you find it here?! Just how f*#ked up is your worldview gonna be then?
It might be that the folks who think they’re healthy are looking for an escape by posting to Supertopo.
Sorry Brandon, wish I could be more help, but you’re gonna have to do the heavy lifting yourself, as I expect you already know. Wishing you well!
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Lynne Leichtfuss
Sport climber
moving thru
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Feb 19, 2019 - 04:16pm PT
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Brandon, I hesitated to post here because of the bashing etc., but Happiegrrril is sending you on a good path. I know you have talked to Dean R. and he also has your very best at heart. He would be such a great mentor for you! I also have you in my heart. I have posted for @ 10 years here on ST about my struggles losing my husband. Along with that I have posted many comments about jesus being my best friend. He has been my best friend since I was in my early 20's. He pretty much saved me from dying in a gutter due to the party life. Brandon, jesus is real. He is the God that created you and He most assuredly has a Great plan for your life. Trust Him, He will never leave you and He will be show you the way. Hugs, lynnie
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Bale
Mountain climber
UT
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Feb 19, 2019 - 06:20pm PT
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I’m a liberal who owns multiple guns, go f*#k yourself! I’m with FlipFlop. I got this from Brandon- outta the blue. Nice guy.
He’s the “Truman Show” of ST; you can watch his whole life unfold on the internet.
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