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ionlyski

Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
Topic Author's Original Post - Mar 21, 2018 - 05:37pm PT
Why does it seem (at least to me) so many climbers take their own life? I feel it has been a high percentage, especially in the guys that were legends with many climbing accomplishments in earlier days. Hard cores, great people, many friends, many expeditions.

I won't, but can name to myself 30 or so who left us a little early. In some cases pain and injuries, maybe feelings of better times behind them and not able to relate in a changing world? Feeling left behind and their past accomplishments no longer relevant?

Broken relationships resulting in grief has taken some. Others, no real obvious cause. I'm not judging decisions to check out. Does anybody else think the numbers are higher amongst longtime climbers?

Arne
MikeL

Social climber
Southern Arizona
Mar 21, 2018 - 06:02pm PT
I think you need more systematic data collection. You're in the system, and you have no comparisons. It may be significant that you're getting older, a part of a particular cohort, interested in some particular issues, have access to certain media channels, ad nauseum.
Ezra Ellis

Trad climber
North wet, and Da souf
Mar 21, 2018 - 06:16pm PT
Single white males have some of the highest rates, especially in their 50s and 60s,
Might just be the cohort you hang with??
hooblie

climber
from out where the anecdotes roam
Mar 21, 2018 - 06:20pm PT
maybe the notably death averse turned aside
Crazy Bat

Sport climber
Birmingham, AL & Seweanee, TN
Mar 21, 2018 - 06:25pm PT
I am more of a climber groupie but really a caver. I have also been suicidal. I have approached deep pits thinking, I could just jump in and make it look like a fall. Two things stopped me. First is the damage I saw done to my friends who had to recover the bodies of friends. In some cases only cavers can rescue cavers.

The primary thing always seemed to be that the adrenalin rush has a huge antidepressant effect on me. Nothing like ,I could have died today, to keep me from wanting to die today.

A former boyfriend and I discussed this at length. He was primarily a climber. When he got older and could not get out to climb as hard he did, he did commit suicide. Of course there were other factors involved.
ionlyski

Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
Topic Author's Reply - Mar 21, 2018 - 07:01pm PT
Interesting post Crazy. Stay with us please.

MikeL-I have considered what you say. I am in other worlds too. I don't hear of these demises from that many nordic ski racers. I wonder if there are a lot of curling athlete deaths from suicide? I guess I don't know any curlers:)

A
RussianBot

climber
Mar 21, 2018 - 08:49pm PT
Wow 30? That’s really sad. My condolences to you.

On the plus side, sounds like you’ve known a lot of great people. If you were poor and black, you’d probably notice other stuff, and other stuff would seem to be characteristic of the people around you.

Still, that’s really sad - sorry man. That sounds crazy high, but sounds like you’ve known a lot more people than I know. I don’t think I know any people who took their own life who identified themselves to me as climbers.
Reilly

Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
Mar 21, 2018 - 09:37pm PT
Can’t think of one significant chess player who has taken their own life.

Owing to La Femme being in the medical world I’ve known a hell of a lot of doctors and
nurses. Can’t think of one who has done so. Face it, climbers got at least one or two loose screws. If you deny that then yous gots three or four. I gots two.
Jan

Mountain climber
Colorado & Nepal
Mar 21, 2018 - 09:44pm PT
I think suicide is much more common in all groups than we commonly understand. Young males 18 - 25 have high rates as do older people with health problems. The most common form of death with a gun is suicide. People just didn't talk about it as much in the past.
neebee

Social climber
calif/texas
Mar 21, 2018 - 09:51pm PT
hey there say, ionlyski...

not sure... but, i tend, a bit, to think this may be part of it...

(not just climbers, though) ... but, age groups, and those facing
futures that have 'drastically' changed... (or, that 'wrongly drag on')


i think, if parents, when kids are little, SHOULD teach and show, explain, and whatever (to them), that: there are SEASONS in life... it would be a better foundation, for when they face adult life...

if one is aware of harsh season changes, (whether, health, relationships, personal transplanting (meaning home or job loss), and the list goes on...
well:

they would be better prepared to not think of themselves as:
totally lost, and hopeless... abandoned, or, stuck...
without recourse, etc...
as-- seasons, do change, though, never as fast as 'daily week, month, situations' ... some 'seasons' in our lives can take YEARS... and,
many are NOT prepared to face years of 'starting over' or, 'years of pain' (until some kind of comfort comes) ...

it is what leads to depression... and despair, and isolation as to one
withdrawing-- while accepting wrongly, that there is no way out, but to die...

:(

if one could get past the harsh awful season, upon them, there is 'seasonal change' ... (we see it IN the seasons, of nature, itself... and we see some season, are awful... some are better... yet, somewhere, after we learn to ride-them-out, we CAN be glad of it) ... new things DO GROW...

and, sometimes, if we could but WAIT-- it just may be the best season ever... and, by the 'tempered spirit' in one, after that, they are thus, not afraid of any hard season, that still may come...

yet-- i think, it must start in ONES youth, as a foundation...
it is very hard to 'retrain the brain-- and the spirit is so connected to it...


whether climbers, doctors, police, artist, singers, plumbers, farmers, field workers, mommy's or daddys-- we all have a season that for us, if more personal, that can 'bring us down' if-- we can't be fortified ahead of time, as to the 'way of seasons' or, the way to overcome them...


folks, help your children now...
can they do without? (can they do WITH, as to responsibilities beyond measure?) ...can they do, in the midst of the 'fog' ...
and they do in the midst of a dark-stormy-lonely night? or,
a vast hot desert?

only YOU know, or, only YOU have a clue: if you are CLOSE
to your child...

or, if you are a friend, and you are CLOSE to your friend...


(like lynne, said-- try to learn, if you sense that someone has trouble)...
wouldn't you like someone, to do that for you, as well...


and- pray... some may think it does no good, but, say,
just 'tack a few in' (privately, if needs be) it sure can't hurt...
Russ Walling

Social climber
from Poofters Froth, Wyoming
Mar 21, 2018 - 09:52pm PT
Climbing seems to fill the cup pretty full... when not climbing, or unable to at a raging spigot level, it is hard to get that same level of fullness in your cup.... and as Walt Shipley said, "whaddya... attached to this world??"

Climbers, geniuses, and malcontents all have something in common, as Riley states... some sort of loose screw. When it finally falls out, that final solution seems like their best idea ever, and for some it may be.

Do what you want... don't leave a mess for your friends
the goat

climber
north central WA
Mar 21, 2018 - 10:00pm PT
If I can't "be" at my best why "be?" Perhaps the landscape looks pretty desolate beyond a certain point to some. We can only speculate.................
zBrown

Ice climber
Mar 21, 2018 - 10:10pm PT
2016

They don't report data by avocation.


Suicide is the nation's 10th-leading cause of death. Public attention often focuses on teens and college students, but the highest numbers and rates are in middle-aged adults. Suicide is far more common in males, and the rankings largely reflect the male suicide rates for each group.

The highest female suicide rate was seen in the category that includes police, firefighters and corrections officers. The second-highest rate for women was in the legal profession.

It's not the first time a suicide problem has been noted for some of the jobs. In the 1980s, media reports detailed high suicide rates in Midwestern farmers. That was attributed to a tough economy and farmers use of pesticides that scientists have theorized may cause symptoms of depression.

The CDC's occupational suicide list:

1. Farmworkers, fishermen, lumberjacks, others in forestry or agriculture (85 suicides per 100,000)

2. Carpenters, miners, electricians, construction trades (53)

3. Mechanics and those who do installation, maintenance, repair (48)

4. Factory and production workers (35)

5. Architects, engineers (32)

6. Police, firefighters, corrections workers, others in protective services (31)

7. Artists, designers, entertainers, athletes, media (24)

8. Computer programmers, mathematicians, statisticians (23)

9. Transportation workers (22)

10. Corporate executives and managers, advertising and public relations (20)

11. Lawyers and workers in legal system (19)

12. Doctors, dentists and other health care professionals (19)

13. Scientists and lab technicians (17)

14. Accountants, others in business, financial operations (16)

15. Nursing, medical assistants, health care support (15)

16. Clergy, social workers, other social service workers (14)

17. Real estate agents, telemarketers, sales (13)

18. Building and ground, cleaning, maintenance (13)

19. Cooks, food service workers (13)

20. Child care workers, barbers, animal trainers, personal care and service (8)


Perspective_wise


Suicide rates have risen in recent years, increasing 21 percent from 2000 to 2012 for Americans at least 16 years of age
The CDC report is perhaps the largest U.S. study to compare suicide rates among occupations. But it is not comprehensive. It only covers 17 states, looking at about 12,300 of the more than 40,000 suicide deaths reported in the entire nation in 2012.
Reilly

Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
Mar 21, 2018 - 10:17pm PT
Damn, shoulda gone into animal training.
RURP_Belay

Big Wall climber
Bitter end of a bad anchor
Mar 21, 2018 - 10:21pm PT
It is just you.

The internet makes all of us more reactive to things that have been going on for a long time.

The urgency of response is alluring, but not necessary.
Brian in SLC

Social climber
Salt Lake City, UT
Mar 21, 2018 - 11:19pm PT
Does anybody else think the numbers are higher amongst longtime climbers?

I don't know. I've known (and known of) a few long time climber's that cashed in their own chips.

Maybe partly its that older, longtime climbers got into the sport because they didn't fit into the main stream to begin with. Does (or did) climbing attract a higher percentage of folks who are depressed? Or that suffer with depression?

Utah has a fairly serious issue with suicide. 7th highest in the US. Rate of youth here is staggering.

https://health.utah.gov/vipp/pdf/Suicide/youth-suicide-factsheet-12-14.pdf

Serious enough that the legislature considered having parents lock up their guns (the horror!). They did fund crisis hotlines that used to go to voice mail...

Probably not just climbers...

Take care out there.
nah000

climber
now/here
Mar 21, 2018 - 11:26pm PT
“They did fund crisis lines that used to go to voice mail...”

while i didn’t come to a thread about one of life’s deepest tragedies looking for a laugh...

still... there it was...

and a full belly laugh at that.
Crazy Bat

Sport climber
Birmingham, AL & Seweanee, TN
Mar 21, 2018 - 11:49pm PT
I could not do it. I tried multiple times before I realized I could not. Then I sought help. This is one area where western medicine is better than the alternatives.

The best description of depression I ever heard was that everything could be going absolutely great in my life and I would still feel unsuccessful, unworthy, usless and like a failure. Feeling all that made me feel like I had no alternatives. It was not real but it was my reality. I have done a lot of research about the brain chemistry involved. I fully believe I am not wired right.

I also realized that pot made it worse for me. A hard thing to admit to. I have since learned this is an uncommon but we'll documented side effect for some people. I still suffer from depression but I am no longer sucidal.

I haven't had the guts to try CBD oil to see if it was just the THC that caused me to be so actively suicidal. LOL
healyje

Trad climber
Portland, Oregon
Mar 21, 2018 - 11:50pm PT
While in college I volunteered at a crisis center and on a 23 county go-out team that helped rural sheriff and police departments with mental health emergencies. There are myriad reasons behind suicide though some common and addressable groupings are possible such as severe depression and teen suicide it's still hard to really pin down. I should think it would be similar to climbers, but with a somewhat greater percentage of folks who might simply decide enough is enough for whatever reason and want to go out on their own terms.

And say what you will about the eccentric collective us, but if you're still on this board at an advanced age then you clearly lived life with some degree of gumption and self-determination. Don't know about you, but I'm personally not prepared to linger in some state of declining and diminished quality of life and am entirely prepared to ensure I don't. YMMV and respect to those who both lived and died on their own terms.
Off White

climber
Tenino, WA
Mar 22, 2018 - 06:40am PT
I have no idea if suicide is more common among climbers, but I do think we need to be more frank and straight forward about it. The degree of stigma attached to suicide does nothing to deter it.

I think Russ' admonition to "not leave a mess for your friends" is good, but that should also include the psychological mess left behind, not just the physical remains. The whole "death with dignity" movement does a pretty good job with that in the terminal disease end of things.
Gary

Social climber
Desolation Basin, Calif.
Mar 22, 2018 - 07:18am PT
Can’t think of one significant chess player who has taken their own life.

Alekhine drank himself to death, does that count?
zBrown

Ice climber
Mar 22, 2018 - 07:36am PT
Heavy out there on the borderline and yes the Russians did collude against him..

On January 17, 2008, he died at age 64 from renal failure at the Landspítali Hospital (National University Hospital of Iceland) in Reykjavík. He originally had a urinary tract blockage but refused surgery or medication.

ionlyski

Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
Topic Author's Reply - Mar 22, 2018 - 07:39am PT
OK Russian guy, maybe 30 is a bit of a stretch. I really haven't counted them all up and don't want to. I'll park it at 20 though but that's not the point. I've only known a few of them and none of them super close to me but wondered about each and everyone of them. Almost all have been "witnessed" right here on this forum, included some who left before Supertopo was started but recounted later.

Ionlyski I have a question for you. It's a climber's question. And of course only type an answer here if you want to. So...Could you do it?

DMT, I've found I can't and I'm good with that. Plenty of depression at times where I vaguely have asked myself if it would be easier to just check out. But there is never any progression of thought down along those lines, as in how would you really act upon it. I think I have always concluded there is no way I could do that to my loved ones. Again, not judging anyone especially because I have lots of loved ones and maybe somebody else might be less fortunate in that area.

Anyway to be clear I do not consider myself at risk.
Caveman

climber
Cumberland Plateau
Mar 22, 2018 - 07:39am PT



"This is one area where western medicine is better than the alternatives."




https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3330161/

Looks like we are better at creating the problem so maybe we have better treatment, but I doubt it. The new drug.......food. You can pry my Ayurveda from my cold dead hands.
Gary

Social climber
Desolation Basin, Calif.
Mar 22, 2018 - 07:47am PT
There's the story of the fellow who leaped off the Golden Gate Bridge and suddenly realized all of his problems had solutions, except for one. He was now in midair.
WBraun

climber
Mar 22, 2018 - 07:53am PT
Generally suicide you end up with no more gross physical body and now are in your subtle material body.

You are now in limbo, you can't go on nor can you act anymore in the material world.

You are now a ghost for the remaining breaths of your lifespan or longer.

We are NOT the owners of our bodies.

Generally one ends up worst off when committing suicide .....
Bushman

climber
The state of quantum flux
Mar 22, 2018 - 08:12am PT
Above all, Morton prized his Mortality...

But seriously, and disturbingly, I’ve sometimes thought like Cosmic back there; When I check out, no one will know, I’ll just disappear. Not as easy as some might think...
ionlyski

Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
Topic Author's Reply - Mar 22, 2018 - 08:21am PT
Sky, as I mentioned upthread only a few were friends of mine though some were friends of friends. I didn't start this to relay heavy times for me It just seems like a lot of well known climbers leave.
skywalker1

Trad climber
co
Mar 22, 2018 - 08:35am PT
^^^^understood

S...
mooch

Trad climber
Tribal Base Camp (Riverkern Annex)
Mar 22, 2018 - 08:39am PT
Found this interesting when listening to NPR a few days ago. Light and food for the mind....

https://www.npr.org/2018/03/20/595123557/men-dealing-with-social-isolation-have-a-harder-time-confiding-in-others
RussianBot

climber
Mar 22, 2018 - 08:56am PT
Hey thanks. Not meaning to doubt or criticize or anything. My honest reaction is that it’s sad, and you’re the one who’s in tune with it, so to me, that seems like it would be sad to you.

Yea like gun violence or anything, reading supertopo, there’s a lot of death. Lots of condolences. Maybe not the same in chess.

Sure, I do believe that there are correlations in the ways we think and behave between what activities or recreations or games we play, and other aspects of our psychology. And 4 billion years of evolution.

Give the information weaponizers a little time to figure it out, and they’ll help us all out with their understanding. We can all contribute to that game, if we still think that we’re smarter than them.

Zuckerberg seems like a super genius, and if he’s our best and brightest, we’re in trouble. Me, I’m not dead yet! Hope you all stick around a little longer too.
SC seagoat

Trad climber
Santa Cruz, Moab, A sailboat, or some time zone
Mar 22, 2018 - 08:58am PT
^^^^^. Agreed,(with Locker) however my big concern has been dementia or Alzheimer’s ... then how would I know what I need to do or how to do it?

I will always want to maintain residence in a state allowing death with dignity.


Susan
Reilly

Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
Mar 22, 2018 - 08:59am PT
Gary, so did Tal, but it’s not quite the same IMHO. Bobby Fisher didn’t drink, but he had at
least 4 loose screws. I think most climbers come down the production line late on Fridays,
when the line runs low on Loctite. Some, like George Lowe and his cousins, obviously came
through on Mondays.
BooDawg

Social climber
Butterfly Town
Mar 22, 2018 - 09:10am PT
There is always the existential question, “Why should we NOT take our own life?

I remember, as a child less than 10 years old, considering what it would be like for my family if I were not around anymore.

I also remember, several times when starting up a (usually) multi-day climb, thinking, “I wonder if I will get off this climb alive?”

My Abnormal Psychology professor had established the first suicide prevention center/hot line in L.A., and he would role-play with the class using a phone as a prop.

“Ring-ring!”

“Hello, this is the suicide prevention hotline.” Pause… He would put his hand over the phone and speak to the class privately, saying, “He says he’s going to kill himself, and there’s nothing I can do about it. And you know what? He’s right!”

He would then go on with his “conversation,” and follow up with the class discussing the multiple “reasons,” symptoms, interventions, methods, etc. that people would use to attempt to, or succeed, at taking their own lives. Often, such a phone call was really a call for help.

Women called for help WAY MORE than men. And they tended to use less violent means, usually drugs as opposed to guns or other means that leave a bloody mess.

Physician-assisted suicide is now legal in six states plus Washington, D.C. Fortunately, the public is coming to realize that we need to have some choices about our quality of life and that living in terrible physical pain with no plausible end in sight makes life no longer worth living.

Not to minimize the greed of drug companies and the doctors who get kick-backs for prescribing un-needed addictive drugs to their “patients,” but how much of our “opioid crisis” could be considered “physician-assisted suicide?”

Terrible emotional pain is probably a different issue, and may be more amenable to intervention. And it is especially these kinds of situations where use of addictive opioids needs to be curtailed.

When Lisa and I consider our end-of-life options, we usually fantasize about “going out on the ice” together. Thus, we would be with someone we love. The cold would help numb us to physical pain. We would go to sleep in a place of beauty. We would have taken care of our financial and legal matters. Predators, scavengers, and decomposers will have taken care of our physical remains.

Of course, synchronicity and other issues remain…
Gary

Social climber
Desolation Basin, Calif.
Mar 22, 2018 - 09:26am PT
but I'm personally not prepared to linger in some state of declining and diminished quality of life

Dude, I've been lingering there for years now! If you can't do what you used to do, find something else to do. It's big wide world.

Things can wear on you though. I actually called a suicide hotline a couple of years ago. As usual, it was some call center in Pakistan. I told the guy I was suicidal. He asked me if I knew how to drive a truck.
John M

climber
Mar 22, 2018 - 10:02am PT
I have days where I have trouble walking. If I exercise more then 20 minutes I can end up in so much pain that I end up in a chair for 2 or 3 days. It currently looks like an auto immune disease. is the problem. So its difficult to get in shape or get out and do much.

I was never much of a climber. My main passions were skiing and body surfing and trail running. I use to be very fit and very active. Maybe not Dean Potter active, but still very active.

Now? good grief. LOL.. I barely get outside.

It was very very hard to make the transition from being very active to little or no activity. The taco stand actually helped me get through some pretty rough periods. So y'all can blame yourself for me still being around. hahaha I love hearing peoples stories.

It does appear that a lot of climbers check out purposely. I do though wonder about the surfing community and the skiing community. The taco stand is the only internet forum that I have been involved in. When I was surfing and skiing a lot the internet did not exist. So we rarely heard about others committing suicide. Magazines and our friends were our main sources of news about our sports and suicide wasn't something one talked about, so if you didn't know that person intimately, then you didn't hear.

...

My creds on this subject are that I have dealt with major depression and suicidal energy since I was young. I have posted a fair amount of my history here in the past, so won't trouble you with all the detail at this point.
Ken M

Mountain climber
Los Angeles, Ca
Mar 22, 2018 - 10:36am PT
Physician-assisted suicide is now legal in six states plus Washington, D.C. Fortunately, the public is coming to realize that we need to have some choices about our quality of life and that living in terrible physical pain with no plausible end in sight makes life no longer worth living.

yes, that is how it is sold, and yes, that is a reasonable point of view.
HOWEVER, what then actually happens as a result of that argument is different. When looking at the outcomes of Wa, Or, and Calif, the issue of terrible unrelieved pain is not even in the top ten reasons for people choosing to avail themselves of the service.


Not to minimize the greed of drug companies and the doctors who get kick-backs for prescribing un-needed addictive drugs to their “patients,” but how much of our “opioid crisis” could be considered “physician-assisted suicide?”

Very little. And I'm speaking about intent. Suicide is an intentional act, not an accident. It is not common for a opioid overdose to have evidence as an intentional act.

I appreciate that you are doing a play on words to point fingers at causation, and I think there is merit in physician-caused initiation of opioid dependency problems.
Tamara Robbins

climber
not a climber, just related...
Mar 22, 2018 - 02:48pm PT
words from Dad.... circa 1970....

"A lady in the audience once asked him,'What happens when you get too old to climb?'
'You suffer. and if you have character and courage you adjust. Otherwise your loss destroys you...(He didn't add that he expected to be destroyed. He wasn't a passionate climber for nothing, and he suspected that many a mountaineer had chosen death to decay, though their demise appeared an accident)'"

I often wondered how Dad felt about the end of his life, if sometimes when laying in that bed he may have pondered the choices he made and options he'd had. For him, sticking it out and pulling from himself that "just another few feet" as he did on the El Cap solo was likely the only route which didn't compromise HIS Truths.

His words above - and his choice in how he died - indicate the depth of his consideration, as well as empathy for other choices...
ionlyski

Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
Topic Author's Reply - Mar 22, 2018 - 03:10pm PT
Tamara,

That's kind of what I wanted to explore. Is there something about climbing and the total dedication to it and that lifestyle, that depresses many climbers, when they later attempt to grapple with other realities in life?

Arne
Tamara Robbins

climber
not a climber, just related...
Mar 22, 2018 - 04:10pm PT
I think this fits in here...? Doug Robinson's book "The Alchemy of Action" is quite an interesting read (so far, he just gave me a copy last night). It is slightly off this exact topic in so far as delving into chemical composition of psychadelics, but here's a sample of the content:

"The ultimate frontier is consciousness. Climbing-running-skiing and all the rest - those similarly edgy activities - provide a vehicle, a means, to go exploring. We've delved into how they heighten our senses, our awareness, boosting our ability to probe the world around us. That fierce play by nature leads outward, roaming across the planet. But its sharpened awareness can at any moment choose to turn inward."
G_Gnome

Trad climber
Cali
Mar 22, 2018 - 04:21pm PT
Is there something about climbing and the total dedication to it and that lifestyle, that depresses many climbers, when they later attempt to grapple with other realities in life?

I think that is probably the backwards direction to look at it. I think that it is more that the type of people drawn to climbing are the type of people that might have problems when they can no longer get what they got from climbing.

On the other hand, maybe it is the closeness of death thru many years of hard climbing, and the 'coming to terms with it' that allows climbers to make this choice more easily that the general population.
Flip Flop

climber
Earth Planet, Universe
Mar 22, 2018 - 04:21pm PT
Sorry to sugarcoat it, but climbers are crazy. Actually crazy. Fringe. Misfits. ( listen to the specious rationalizations and starry eyed inane justifications). So it shouldn't be a big surprise

( that's all the sugar I got, you bunch o loonies)
Flip Flop

climber
Earth Planet, Universe
Mar 22, 2018 - 04:48pm PT
Which moves?

Focus on the "must make moves"? So far so good.

I'm definitely not putting a gun in my mouth though suicide is a reasonable option when living has become unbearable. I'm surmising that alleviating some pain is worth any price. I don't judge that act. It's your life, spend it how you will
John M

climber
Mar 22, 2018 - 05:20pm PT
Could you crank a boulder problem in the sky, 500 feet off the deck, with no rope? Ever practiced the idea, rehearsed those moves in your mind? Did you start to get used to the idea?

Is the thought of the cold barrel of a pistol in your mouth really so different? Don’t climbers practice abberant thoughts?

I have done climbing moves in the back country that if I fell I would die. I was not much of a climber, but climbing did help me learn what moves that I could pull off with a reasonable level of assurance that I would not fall and what I shouldn't do unroped. I'm actually a bit of a klutz and ridges are some of the more dangerous places for me. Chris once said on this forum that his friends talked him out of base jumping because he just didn't have some of the natural physical talents necessary to be safe. ( at least that is what I understood him to say. I also do not have very high natural physical abilities, except in things like long distance running and swimming. I was a strong runner and swimmer, but couldn't catch a ball to save my soul, and I tried very hard to do those kinds of things. )

As for the cold barrel in my mouth. I have done that also. I couldn't pull the trigger. Not because death particularly scared me, but because of what I believed that it would do to my loved ones and my family. Plus I have spiritual beliefs and believe in reincarnation. So I believed that I would just be carrying that suicidal energy on into my next life and I didn't want to do that. But it was a close thing. When the pain gets bad enough for long enough, then your mind can go places that you might not normally even consider. Plus I fully believe that the mind can become broken and it can be very difficult to fix. So its not just a matter of will power, but also of healing ones psyche.

That young man who was here a few years ago that shot himself in the face, and lived, but then eventually killed himself. I knew he likely wasn't going to make it. His psyche was very messed up. I still feel bad about that because I couldn't really talk to him because I was afraid that I would just push him over the edge because my experience base is that it has been touch and go for me for many years. So I knew that he was in for a rough go, and the odds go up of actually doing it when one has already tried to kill oneself.

Edit: I apologize if this is going too far off what you were hoping to understand Ionlyski.
Charlie D.

Trad climber
Western Slope, Tahoe Sierra
Mar 30, 2018 - 10:32am PT
Does anybody else think the numbers are higher amongst longtime climbers?

I’ve loss three very close friends to suicide, all long time climbers. Everyone of them I wouldn’t have met if not for climbing. I’m still in a state of disbelieve and profound grief with the loss of my great friend Dave Johnson who took his life earlier this year.

I believe in each of these three cases depression was the significant and leading factor. Climbing has always been a way to press the reset button for me. One of my most challenging times in my late 20’s when I dropped into a situational depression a fateful and exhausting alpine climb in which I nearly got the chop snapped me out of a very dark place.

I think there’s a disproportionate number of climbers who pursue our sport for the relief they find with the endorphins brought on by the activity. They have a proclivity for depression and use climbing as a way to self medicate, I certainly do. I’ve known as I’m sure you all do a fair number who self medicate with more distructive means with alcohol and drugs.

Tamara thanks for sharing your dad’s insight, one of my greatest fears is how I will react to the time when I can no longer move over this earth on stone or snow. There will come a time when this ride will stop and as he said it is a great loss. I simply hope that the reflection on spending so much of my time in the mountains will carry me those last few feet. It’s not a good situation to leave your love ones struggling with such a fate.

Charlie D.
JLP

Social climber
The internet
Mar 30, 2018 - 10:41am PT
Climbing is an outlet for people with NPD - the risk, the sense of superiority, the selfishness - and these types I think are also more prone to suicide.
aspendougy

Trad climber
Los Angeles, CA
Mar 30, 2018 - 02:30pm PT
There was a lady who lived in Patterson, NJ, Mary Manachi. She had four children and three out of the four had Thalisemmia Major or "Cooley's Anemia." You need blood transfusions once a month, and you die before the age of twenty. No exceptions. One of them died at 12, another 15, and the last one made it to 17. A friend once asked her how she could still be happy, and she said that all three of her children knew they were going to die very young, but they rejoiced in the gift of each day they were given, and faced death with courage. She said she would not dishonor them by moping and bewailing her lot.

It is a paradox of human life that many of us who are given so much more, appreciate it less, and still manage to get depressed. It just depends on our inner demons, how strong they are.

When I would see pictures of Royal Robbins lecturing in his later years, it was easy to sense that behind the facade, there was a lot of adjustment and suffering to face, as the body and mind continued to decline. But is was always an inspiration to see that he did his best to face it with courage and integrity.

Everyone please check out Quinn Brett's blog. She is trying to adjust to suddenly going from being a durable, accomplished big wall climber to a lady in a wheel chair. She has a gift for expressing her thoughts and emotions in a very simple, naked and raw fashion.

micronut

Trad climber
Fresno/Clovis, ca
Mar 30, 2018 - 03:19pm PT
I think about this topic often and appreciate some of the heartfelt and sincere comments above.

Any of you who have lingered on supertopo for enough years know that I am an outspoken Christian and that it shapes my worldview and my outlook on life. I have always seen the climbing community, and others like it to be fairly secular and prone to depression and suicide. Its not something that I encounter in the Christian faith much as most of this since christians I know have tremendous joy and hope. It's not like it doesn't happen in the Christian community but it is so so so very rare. The majority of my closest friends to lead lives compelled by Christ have such a balanced worldview and a humility and hope that is so different than what I see in my climbing friends.. I love the climbing community and I would honestly say the majority of my friends are not Christian. The majority of my closest friends who lead lives compelled by Christ have such a balanced worldview and a humility and hope for humanity that it is just not compatible with the darkness and hopelessness that leads to suicide.

It is truly a mystery but I too agree that it seems very common in the "extreme sport" worlds.

Perhaps the stats back that up as the numbers seem very high in similar "extreme" career paths like police work, firefighters medicine etc...
jstan

climber
Mar 30, 2018 - 03:19pm PT
I often wondered how Dad felt about the end of his life, if sometimes when laying in that bed he may have pondered the choices he made and options he'd had. For him, sticking it out and pulling from himself that "just another few feet" as he did on the El Cap solo was likely the only route which didn't compromise HIS Truths.

His words above - and his choice in how he died - indicate the depth of his consideration, as well as empathy for other choices...

I think that's what Royal was doing. At Frank Sacherer's memorial someone told me Royal was looking for me. I had been very sad at our early loss of Frank, Kim, John, and many others, and was concerned that young people would actually start to believe this "doing what he loved" thing. So I had said to the group "If you do not finish your route you will never know what you might have been able to accomplish."

Royal was considering this question.

I do think we need to be very careful not to interfere with decisions that rightfully belong to others, Here simple respect comes first and foremost.
mynameismud

climber
backseat
Mar 30, 2018 - 08:40pm PT
the thrill is gone
ionlyski

Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
Topic Author's Reply - Mar 31, 2018 - 12:36am PT
Nice post Somebody. That pretty much fits me, your description that is. I'm actually trying to get back towards the sensation seeking, though maybe just a little less euphoric this time around, because I prefer the highs and lows generally to flatlining my way along:)

Arne
Craig Fry

Trad climber
So Cal.
Mar 31, 2018 - 08:21am PT
ditto for so many of the same mental anguish symptoms after leaving climbing/tele skiing as my centers

I've lived with clinical depression for the last 25 years

What keeps me going!!
a constant stream of newness in my new extreme hobbies, Cactus and succulents, and mineral collecting

I have a self created wonderland of plants and rare minerals that requires ME to care for them and give them purpose.
I never need to leave my house!

A constant new supply of plants and minerals coming and going gives me happiness and a sense of needing to stay around long enough to retire in 6 years and then selling them all off
Craig Fry

Trad climber
So Cal.
Mar 31, 2018 - 08:32am PT
On another note:

When I had religious beliefs and believed in an afterlife, I thought of checking out a lot more seriously, why not? life sucks.
I could take my chances on an positive afterlife or reincarnation or whatever.

the day I became a Certified Atheist is also the day I decided that it's my biological responsibility to stick around and get my sh#t together.

My corny catchphrase, "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps"

I'm responsible, I have to make my life worth living.
Marlow

Sport climber
OSLO
Mar 31, 2018 - 08:36am PT

“There are very clear connections between work stress and depression, as well as other psychological symptoms,” psychiatrist Dr. Igor Galynker at Mount Sinai Beth Israel told Moneyish.

He explained that while small doses of acute stress (working toward occasional deadlines, or giving a big presentation) can cue your fight-or-flight response in a good way to boost performance, chronic stress (journalists on constant deadline, or police officers in the line of fire daily) is linked to depression, heart disease, high blood pressure and type II diabetes.

Other workplace traps that can trigger depression include:

-Feeling like you have no control. You have no say in making any decision or changing the work culture, and you don’t feel comfortable talking to your manager or employer about it.

-Job insecurity. You could be fired or laid off at any time, or fret getting axed if you address workplace issues.

-Irregular work hours and poor sleep. You can’t rely on a consistent schedule, and you’re not getting enough rest to recharge.

-Work-life interference. You’re texting and emailing with your employer outside of work hours, and you’re struggling to maintain family relationships, or care for children or sick parents.

-Workplace discrimination or harassment. Hostile work environments and threatening interactions with coworkers and superiors are associated with higher risks of depression.

-Values that don’t align. You legit abhor where you work or who you are working for, or you’re doing something you have zero interest in.

I guess that 80-90% of Americans on anti-depressants are without knowing it put on them because of systemic causes... work or family... Most Americans think it's good for the economy... Big Pharma know it's good for Big Pharma... and for most people anti-depressants doesn't work better than placebo... If we forget about the unwanted side effects...
TomCochrane

Trad climber
Cascade Mountains and Monterey Bay
Mar 31, 2018 - 01:15pm PT
Many interesting discussions over the years with Chouinard, Gill, Royal, Layton, Kamps, Higgins, Braun, Hoover, Bridwell, and other climbers.

These bodies are not designed to deteriorate once they reach maturity. What we call old age is due to intentionally engineered assaults on them using radiation, and contaminated air, water, food, hygiene products, pharmaceuticals, and a barrage of electromagnetic signals and psychological warfare. Most people who grew up in modern society can not imagine that all of this is intentionally engineered for purposes of social control, as this is the world they grew up in and take for granted.

A lot of this damage can be at least partially mitigated by techniques such as Peter Kelder's little book and by Victor E. Irons fasting and the Master Fast, etc. There is a lot available to learn on this subject as more and more people are waking up to it and knowledgeable literature becomes more available from discoveries by scientists and philosophers.

Friends and family were long convinced that I had a death wish, based upon risks taken free soloing, sky diving, flying, SCUBA, small boat ocean sailing, etc

Later in life an old high school friend confessed being sure I had a death wish, but eventually realizing that the least bit of that would have seen me dead long before. So I profoundly love living, not so much a risk taker as a risk manager. It's enough just watching birds and breezes in trees.

As a child I was a bookworm astronomy/computing/space travel nerd trying to understand the nature of intelligence. At age 14 I took up rock climbing as a laboratory to understand confronting five topics difficult to research adequately in a library: fear, mystery, unknown, fatigue, and death ... without anticipating being good at climbing and loving it so much.

There is a long list of adventurous moments with no logical explanation for my survival. At age 25 I added up some of these and decided having learned enough lessons that the angels shouldn't have to work so hard to keep me here. Such moments haven't completely gone away, but I no longer seek them out. But I am still doing wilderness search tracking, rope rescues, fighting wild fires, and commercial diving.

Death is not an exit strategy. On this planet the penalty for death is birth. Birth is sufficiently traumatic without an added knowledge of having attempted a failed exit through suicide.

There is a very powerful meditation technique in practicing a perspective of death without doing anything to damage the physical body. This is a valuable technique at any age, but particularly as one becomes older or is dealing with health challenges.

Recognize that a traumatic death followed by a traumatic rebirth is not especially spiritually enlightening. Such unfortunate experiences just play into the hands of the controllers.

It is however possible to quietly drop the body and pick up a new body or move on to other levels of existence without all the drama and trauma that is taken for granted around here. The latest Star Wars movie features Luke Skywalker doing this while meditating.

This planet was long ago set up as a biological research terrarium and later subverted as an electromagnetic trap for souls. To escape the trap requires calmly expanding awareness of the holographic matrix that we view as material reality. There is a lot of information becoming available on this. However the architects of the matrix are doing everything imaginable to prevent people expanding their awareness.

Perhaps the biggest mistake is not realizing that you have a choice in this at every moment in time.
John M

climber
Mar 31, 2018 - 03:14pm PT
The association between sensation seeking and suicide attempts was moderated by substance use problems."

just so people don't misunderstand, "moderated" when used in academic terms does not mean "to make less". Instead it means "to preside over". In this case it means substance abuse problems preside over depression.

.........

Micronut.. Your perspective is interesting, but perhaps a bit narrow. I was raised in a Christian family. For years I considered myself to be a Christian. I still do even though my current beliefs don't line up with current Christian theology. I had problems with depression from a young age. Few people in the church would have known that though because I hid it. Then when I started revealing it at a later age I was told that I was sinning, which was the cause. That caused me to leave the church, which was the best thing that I could have done because it caused me to find the spiritual path that I am on now. I feel so much freer then I did when I lived under modern Christian theology, which I believe misses out on so many great things. Before Jesus left the earth, he said that he had more things to teach us, but we weren't ready for them yet. When the modern church made the bible the inerrant word of God, and said that it was complete, it cut itself off from new revelation. I wonder when Christians are going to be ready for more Truth.

Also.. once I started revealing that I dealt with depression, many people in multiple "christian" churches revealed to me that they too dealt with depression. So perhaps you need to look deeper. Please do not misunderstand me. I do not question your sincerity, but I do wonder how deep you have dug into this topic in the church.
Toker Villain

Big Wall climber
Toquerville, Utah
Mar 31, 2018 - 04:30pm PT
No doubt about the high numbers of climber suicides, but read Expedition Fakes and Frauds.
Roberts defines the character traits common in the fraudulent climbers but then goes on to point out that the truly successful climbers have exactly the same traits.

The drive that makes them successful is the same that motivates the fraud.

(He also profiles Laird Bruce of Kineard whose tails from Abysinia were not believed though later proved true.)


I strongly suspect Rob Schnelker read Roberts' novella Like Water and Like Wind (he was very well read on climbing). The protagonist ends by crawling into a deep crevasse and eating a jar of sleeping pills.

Rob was last seen on approach to the Winds. He had spoken of suicide several times since we put up Monkeyfinger Wall.


Then there is Layton. It hurt me that he didn't tell me WHEN he was going to quit dialysis, but made no secret of his intent to do so soon. I had already promised him to help the family until his son graduated. Hard to call it suicide when his illness was so unbearable.


Also, I heard on NPR that many of the opioid deaths are actually intentional. People get tired of living with addiction and being a burden on family.
WBraun

climber
Mar 31, 2018 - 04:33pm PT
The gross physical material body is the house of pain for the living entity .....
TomCochrane

Trad climber
Cascade Mountains and Monterey Bay
Mar 31, 2018 - 07:43pm PT
Yes, pain and other negative feelings result from mentally resisting an isness.

Love and understanding come from inside you.

The important solutions are not to be found outside of yourself.

Reincarnation is not something you do, so much as something done to you.

It is well to be prepared ahead of time, so as to not be vulnerable.
d-know

Trad climber
electric lady land
Mar 31, 2018 - 07:55pm PT
Normalization of the extreme.

Tippy toeing on the edge.

Weeks after months after years.

In all aspects, angles of life.

Takes it's toll on some of us.
Ksolem

Trad climber
Monrovia, California
Mar 31, 2018 - 08:48pm PT
Roberts defines the character traits common in the fraudulent climbers but then goes on to point out that the truly successful climbers have exactly the same traits.

The drive that makes them successful is the same that motivates the fraud.

I find this very hard to accept. In my experience climbers who cheat and lie are entirely different types of people than those who, over time, earn the trust of the community. I know there are climbers who have surprised the larger community when their fraud is exposed, but in most cases people on the inside had a clue.

Climbing is hard to observe. In many cases a climber or a team comes back and says we did it. "It" could be a hard sport climb, a hard traditional climb, psycho ice, or huge alpine. Isn't it interesting that some climbers have the credibility to come back, state their claim, and it's no questions asked. This trust is earned.

Erik Eriksson is an example. We were talking about some climber we suspected of embellishing their achievement on some climb. He said to me "The most important thing is your credibility. If you make sh*t up you lose." (Or something to that point, it's been a while.)

csm

Big Wall climber
South Lake Tahoe
Apr 2, 2018 - 03:44pm PT
I've been climbing since 1986. I've noticed a lot of climbers (especially big wall climbers) were alcoholics or heavy weed users. I've always had a theory that some were involved with climbing because it helped solve some chemistry imbalance in their body. Climbing (especially big walls) seems to be especially dangerous for anyone with depression.
Bushman

climber
The state of quantum flux
Apr 2, 2018 - 10:00pm PT
At daytime with our busy lives, we hardly notice the the sun going up and down, as our big planet rolls around. How often will we chance to ride a rock around a nearby star? Look out there at the boundless distances in the night sky. Look up and see the Milky Way Galaxy that surrounds us. When will we once again in some unknown lifetime look out to see our star riding around in a galaxy? Look at all the amazing phenomena occurring in our every day lives that we could see if we just opened our eyes and noticed them. Makes me feel so small, but lucky to be alive. Why would I want to screw any of that up by prematurely taking myself out of the big equation?

Perhaps when the pain always outweighs the joy? But that’s a question for another day.
HeldUp

climber
Former YNP VIP Ranger
Apr 2, 2018 - 10:12pm PT
I've been a regular lurker here for a while. I feel your genuine kinship though I don't know any of you personally. I greatly appreciate the raw thoughts and emotions on a topic I know all too well.

My mother took her own life when I was in high school. She was just 44.

Unfortunately, those genes are my genes - two of her sisters went out the same way. My brother, sister and I struggle with depression daily. Through the proper meds along with diet and exercise, so far, so good. In fact, I no longer need the meds. I found what works for me.

I was an avid high-country hiker and scrambler for much of my youth. When my friend, Mark, fell during a routine climb and broke his back and ended up in a wheelchair, I've had to live through you all to get my climbing high. I didn't want any part of depression combined with an activity where a simple mistake sends you to a sure death. Climbing is both exhilarating and unforgivable.

I wanted to live!

I've fought through the haze to make it into my fifties. A day at a time, as they say. But instead of basing my life on the highs and lows, I made a concerted effort to focus on the day to day - pushing through, getting married, having kids, being an active part of their lives and part of a community. It has kept me busy, exhausted, and I make a difference in other people's lives.

It worked. So far, so good.

Yes, I missed out on a lot on what I thought I wanted to do and have become a little softer around the middle. That's part of the sacrifice. But I still hike regularly and make a good secondary living as a landscape photographer. Makes for good therapy.

If you want a reason to live or a reason to die, what you're looking for is easy to find. I chose to live. I didn't want my kids to find me naked in a closet overdosed on drugs or with a bullet in my brain in the backyard.

I hope and pray that each of you find peace in your struggles. As my best friend says whenever I'm down, "With every hardship comes ease."
donini

Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
Apr 3, 2018 - 12:27pm PT
I live at 7,700 ft. I’ll try my best. No gun in the house...that should help my odds.
Tobia

Social climber
Denial
Apr 3, 2018 - 01:47pm PT
tippy toeing on the edge

That about sums up my dance with suicide. With each day I grow older and my body is less functional due to injuries, other health issues and a life long struggle with depression. The edge gets more narrow. I can see it narrowing to a razor’s edge, the point where you can no longer continue the balancing act because it is cutting you to pieces to straddle the edge.

I had less of a problem when I could physically exhaust myself through endurance training. I more or less lived for that.

Now I am no longer able to do that and haven’t much faith in those in charge of my mental health.

I can’t decide if I have defeated myself with negativity or am being objective about myself. I haven’t reached the razor’s edge yet, but I see it on the horizon.

This is probably thread drift, but it is a safe harbor for my thoughts.

Borrowing some words from John Prine, I can simplify.

Christ I'm so mixed up and lonely
I can't even make friends with my brain
I'm too young to be where I'm going
But I'm too old to go back again


Lace

climber
las vegas, nv
Apr 3, 2018 - 07:45pm PT
I once attributed climbing to saving my life by giving me an amphitheater to calm my thoughts, see new beauty in the world, and provide motivation to lead a more active lifestyle. I can not actually remember a time in which I have not felt the dark pangs of existence, but I can remember a period of time after starting climbing in which I felt life was not purely a sufferfest.

Then I moved north thinking in part that a change of scenery, bigger mountains, and new techniques to learn would help save me from all the lingering bits of self destruction, and I would somehow go from a rapid cycling depressive maniac to a content little butterfly. Between weather, a lack of social graces, poor relationship choices, a weakness around booze, and biochemical imbalances, I didn't climb much outside a gym, and sh#t got really bad. I kept allowing myself to think that maybe if I could just climb more I would get better. Thanks be to many people, and programs, I know better now.

The greatest lesson I've been trying to learn is to not define happiness by what I do, but to try cultivate that happiness in how I am and think. That is, it is all in my damn head, not out there in the elements. Until that lesson truly sticks though it probably is best to never own another gun, and find other things to think about while I keep schlepping this boulder up a hill.

To pass a point though, in which I can no longer get around comfortably, is not an option, and maybe it is the long days and nights contemplating death that have made me so sure of this decision, but I will take the long walk alone, and leave when I feel ready. I do feel that is different, however, than checking out early because of an emotional conclusion that life simply is not worth living.

Best to everyone out there. <3






Tobia

Social climber
Denial
Apr 3, 2018 - 09:51pm PT
Lace,
I see your point and agree with much of what you say, especially about location and healing. I have spent years trying to unlearn the darkness that is my mind. I am still trying, I’m still being coached by others and I read on my own. It doesn’t take despite my individual efforts and those assisting me.

I doubt many of the lost climbers to suicide had a 1/10th of the guidance I have and I wonder that if they had would they be contributing to this thread instead of being a number in the OP’s question. (In regards to that, from what I have learned there are so variables in the data on suicide no group is more at risk than another for one reason, the data is incomplete on the victims and there are too many variables in their lives such as how long they contemplated the act before committing it. Without their input, statistics are not relevant,)

I find no value in my being. I feel shame, unworthy and unlovable. I don’t know when the self loathing began, early in life is all I can say.

I tried once 11 years ago to end it all. It was a struggle to say the least and a miracle not to have decorated the walls with a gun shot. I won’t ever do that again, I should have stated that earlier, I think I am incapable of suicide now. I have guns, but I have no inclination to use them to hurt myself or anyone else.

I’m stuck somewhere between the living and the dead. Sooner or later i will crossover.
HeldUp

climber
Former YNP VIP Ranger
Apr 3, 2018 - 10:57pm PT
The greatest lesson I've been trying to learn is to not define happiness by what I do, but to try cultivate that happiness in how I am and think. That is, it is all in my damn head, not out there in the elements.
Great lesson, Lace.
cornel

climber
Lake Tahoe, Nevada
Apr 4, 2018 - 08:35am PT
John M, yes sir walked down that road you are on with Epstein Barr a little over 30 yrs ago. I know how frustrating it is to have been a super fit athlete then sink into that decrepited space where you can’t so much as walk 10 ft uphill without getting nauseous. Yes indeed, tough as it is there is a way back to superior fitness. The Chinese emblem is exactly the same for crisis and opportunity. They are one and the same. A crisis is simply a gathering of energy. It is up to the individual to assume the mindset of seizing the opportunity. Everything starts with ones mindset. When I left the doctors office after hearing I had a slow burning virus and would be sick probably 3 to 5 yrs. I told myself BullSh#t, I don’t know exactly how but I will find a way back to superior fitness and I will do it in just a few months. Now to set the stage for success I took total responsibility for my current state. I manifested this state. I can manifest radiant health and fitness again. Then, I started studying everything I could about this state of deep exhaustion. I Purified my diet, went totally organic and became a vegetable eater. I am lacto - ovo today. In my studies Chinese medicine came to the fore front. It contained answers that Alopathic medicine did not. 5000 yrs of evolution, man.. dramatically more advanced than western medicine.. Ayurveda is very similar, way more advanced than Alopathy. Now In order to exit an inferior state( Sickness) and enter into a superior state (radiant health and fitness) one requires a very comprehensive treatment system. Chinese herbal formulations coupled with acupuncture treatments are precisely that and will return you to the state you desire. Yoga can really help as well. I do it about 5 days a week.
Today I am 68 and pretty darn fit. Though it is a more delicate balance at this age I am able to ski the backcountry all winter and climb all summer. A big wall or 2 included.
Like I said I know how how miserable chronic fatigue can be but you can regain that fitness you had. It all starts right Now. Assume that Ninja like mindset.. every movement of thought focused on that superior state that fitness you desire.. you can do it brother.. seize the opportunity...

cornel

climber
Lake Tahoe, Nevada
Apr 4, 2018 - 12:19pm PT
Back to the specific topic of checking out. I too have had climbing partners choose to exit early. 2 different good friends, one a 200 ft swan dive onto rock the other a .45. I was shocked by each.. no inkling.. One struggling with alcohol the other deep depression( she hide it well ). Sometimes we trap ourselves in a merry go round of negative thoughts and see no way out. Especially if a long term illness is involved.. Everyone grapples with various challenges throughout life. No exceptions, no sir. Everyone runs into a wall once in a while. At 68 there seems to be no real subsidence. Just new varieties. The thing that has and continues to help me are sacred teachings (Krishnamurti, Lao Tzu, Chung Fu, Yoga, Dr Hawkins, Dr. Wolf, Christ,) and not making a big deal out of anything.. Krishnamurti’s teaching in particular destroyed the root of suffering, thought.. and showed clearly the importance of Silence and Space. The difference between the concept of Peace and the actuality... there are no ideals.. nothing to do, no where go, nothing to achieve. Negation negation negation... all throughout the day.. releasing thought now...
Toker Villain

Big Wall climber
Toquerville, Utah
Apr 4, 2018 - 06:08pm PT
Not climbing as much though I'm at 15% BF.

I have other challenges and joys; learning to shoot my Sharpes Shiloh .45-70 , spending time with family, training animals, even driving my tractor is rewarding.

And then there are inspirations like Jello.
NutAgain!

Trad climber
South Pasadena, CA
Apr 4, 2018 - 06:19pm PT
Happiness is making a bouquet from flowers you can reach.

[Click to View YouTube Video]

Extending the analogy of this song from people to activities/interests.
Toker Villain

Big Wall climber
Toquerville, Utah
Apr 4, 2018 - 06:27pm PT
What a great album that was; Clapton AND Hendrix sitting in on a song each!
ionlyski

Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
Topic Author's Reply - Apr 4, 2018 - 09:30pm PT
Wow Moose. Nicely done. I too know what its like to be laid up for longer than you wish and thinking the ailment might be with you from here on out.

Glad you made it back. Was that really just 2 years ago? Seems like you've been getting out a bunch for longer than that lately.

Ron-yeah there are other joys besides climbing and pretty stress free like your tractor time. Mine's splitting wood. But we should probably get back out on the rock too.

Arne
MikeL

Social climber
Southern Arizona
Apr 4, 2018 - 09:59pm PT
Yeah, ionlyski,

As to the title of this thread: we’re just dying.
donini

Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
Apr 5, 2018 - 05:03am PT
Arne, it’s been quite some time since we tied in together...need to change that!
cornel

climber
Lake Tahoe, Nevada
Apr 5, 2018 - 06:03am PT
Moose drool, I appreciate your honesty. My personal vision is that there is always a way to improve our lives, to continue to achieve our dreams. Visualizing and affirming our goals are critical to the actualization of our goal. The stronger our vision, the stronger our affirmations, the quicker the change for better. Another Key is remaining Silent about our goal. Don’t open your mouth and let the energy that will drive to and through the goal out of your mouth. Guard your words. Less is more when it comes to speaking, especially about our goal.. If we disregard the bodies Ilness and See ourself climbing, skiing, walking to the store, whatever our dream is. Your vision will be realized. The body will heal and continue to facilitate your dream..Single pointedness.. Silence...Patience.. relentlessly moving toward the goal..
ionlyski

Trad climber
Polebridge, Montana
Topic Author's Reply - Apr 5, 2018 - 06:16am PT
Yes it has Jim. Let's make it happen this year.
EdBannister

Mountain climber
13,000 feet
Apr 5, 2018 - 08:35am PT
you are correct.. my mind went to Norm Kingsley.. he wrote "Icecraft" the first English language book on ice climbing, had over 200 first ascents.. not routes thank you , peaks, and had a successful business and family. He contracted Cancer, and one morning he went into the woods, had a bar of chocolate, and took his own life... i ached for months.

and like suicide by cop, i think there is the undiscussed suicide by mountain....

who thinks Willi Unsoeld did not know Cadaver Gap was unstable??

and, Rob Slater mumbled something about not coming back from K2... haunting...


Bushman

climber
The state of quantum flux
Apr 5, 2018 - 12:42pm PT


In the Meantime


I’m not young anymore

I’ve no physical strength
like I used to have

There are no long goodbyes

We’re only here one moment
and then we’re gone

There’s no time like the present

Where the outside is inside
and the inside is out...
and its almost the end of the day

-bushman
TomCochrane

Trad climber
Cascade Mountains and Monterey Bay
Apr 5, 2018 - 05:16pm PT
Understanding these are challenging times, if someone feels like talking and perhaps even visiting my sanctuary in the woods near Mt Adams WA. A text message is good. 650-248-9062
cybele

Trad climber
Salt Lake City
Apr 8, 2018 - 10:18am PT
I am lurking here, and have read every word of this excellent topic/thread. Thank you everyone for the amazing, highly personal posts so far, as well as the more fact-oriented or social science aspects raised in the conversation. Several times, I found myself wanting to say something in reply to a particular post and sure enough, a subsequent poster captured some of my thoughts, or some of my feelings -- often much more eloquently than I could have expressed them.

One exception to that last statement, something I remain dissatisfied with, I address below. I realize it is --not-- one of the more important pieces of the overall ST discussion, and it is not a personal piece, but it does occur to me to clarify: In a previous post the question arose of what "to moderate" means in academic research, when it was said that substance use moderates suicide risk.

I only bring it up because according to research statistics, substance abuse does increase the risk for suicide, in contrast to what one ST poster (mis)understood. And what someone later posted as the research definition of "to moderate" barely made sense to me, though I have used the term moderate in my own published research articles. That definition, offered earlier on this thread, does not accord with the definition in social science statistics (though thanks at least for pointing out that it doesn't mean "to reduce").

For those few who might have interest and are still reading (lol), essentially, to oversimplify, "moderates" just means 'influences the measurable relationship between two other things.'

Here is a quote from Wikopedia that I think explains it well:
"In statistics and regression analysis, moderation occurs when the relationship between two variables depends on a third variable. The third variable is referred to as the moderator variable or simply the moderator. The effect of a moderating variable is characterized statistically as an interaction; that is, a categorical (e.g., sex, ethnicity, class) or quantitative (e.g., level of reward) variable that affects the direction and/or strength of the relation between dependent and independent variables."

Sorry this post went OT, but no, substance abuse does not lower suicide risk. A quick Google search will reveal the stats, especially for alcohol.
jogill

climber
Colorado
Apr 8, 2018 - 01:04pm PT
This is a sad thread, and I am sorry to hear of the physical problems some of you face as you get older. The only thing I can contribute may seem trivial and irrelevant, but it might resonate with a few who approach old age:

*Do not become too attached to climbing. I drifted away from the activity gradually with physical problems and age, and at 81+, I recall - mostly pleasantly - some of the things I did, but have no attachment to them and no desire to climb again.

*Always have projects of some sort that capture your interest, challenging your mind and your body. This is particularly important for men the first three years after retirement.

Those in pain have my sympathy. There are no easy answers.
healyje

Trad climber
Portland, Oregon
Apr 8, 2018 - 01:56pm PT
...even driving my tractor is rewarding.

I've always kind of loved sweeping, raking, mopping, shoveling, etc relative to the zen of it. But I have dreamy ADHD and am a bit OCD so 'getting into' even the small things is not an issue per se for me so much as learning to do so mindfully. That was actually the reason I stopped meditating and doing isolation tanks after a few years as separating it out into a thing unto itself was great, but what I really needed was to be more mindful all the time.

That really helped me a great deal as did climbing which taught me to focus in a more directed and disciplined fashion. But, addressing Cybele's point somewhat tangentially, what really saved my life from suicide was a course of twenty-five directed LSD trips over a three month period. Without that, I wouldn't have survived my twenties or 'woken up' sufficiently to navigate life in general and other human beings in particular (not that I'm all that good at the latter even now). Can't say that would be helpful or even advisable for a mature adult, but it changed me from someone grossly lost in their head and unable to interact with people to a much more survivable version of myself. As always, YMMV.
Ksolem

Trad climber
Monrovia, California
Apr 8, 2018 - 02:01pm PT
During an intense neurology crisis about ten years ago, I found myself in a meeting with a doctor/counselor affiliated with the research program managing my treatment at UCLA Medical Center. By their metrics my recovery was remarkable, by mine, not so much.

Near the end of our meeting she asked me if I planned on climbing in the future. My answer, of course, was an emphatic yes. I will never forget what she said.

"Well Kris, you might climb. Then again you might not. Or you might not be able to climb as well as you have. But whatever happens, it will be a real shame if you paint yourself into a corner where losing climbing ruins your life."

Since then I've done some climbing. Nothing very exciting, but I really enjoy getting out with my friends.
healyje

Trad climber
Portland, Oregon
Apr 8, 2018 - 02:06pm PT
Yeah, I still climb and really enjoy it, but it lost most of it's serious 'emotional-bang-for-the-buck' in my late twenties and I've been in and out of it a dozen time since due to career and family (though it's been on steady since I turned fifty). In general, I feel not having climbing define my identity has always helped me to find more balance in my life (not that I necessarily live a 'balanced' life - just ask my very resilient wife).
Trump

climber
Apr 8, 2018 - 02:27pm PT
Oh yea I’ve gone through periods of depression where it’s hard to get all that motivated to do much of anything, and death doesn’t seem like such a bad option. And yes, some of it at least has been due to health issues and physical pain and loss of activity and trying to understand what makes life fun or worth living.

For me though, I’ve got these little people who need me, and they’re pretty good at pulling me back to reality. And to some extent, I think, despite how active I’ve been for most of my life, my baseline active-happiness needs might be lower than other people’s, especially maybe climber-people’s, and I can be pretty entertained just thinking about things.

Maybe if I didn’t have such a strong partner I wouldn’t be so self-indulgently reflective. Or maybe I have such a strong partner because I’m so reflective. Tough call.

I’ve probably been clinically depressed for much of my life, and not in any way intending to minimize other people’s challenges, but does that really matter to me? The opposite of depression isn’t happiness, it’s engagement. Ok, now I’ve got a word for it! My son is autism spectrum and bipolar disorder, and there’s no helping him when I’m gone, and I’m not that far off from his condition, either. Seems like depression might not be that unusual a human reaction to his condition, for either of us.

What makes a healthy psychology or a healthy way to form beliefs? - that’s a tough one! and I admire a willingness to ask the question. To me, it seems, we do it in seemingly crazy and difficult to understand ways. 4 billion years of survival of the fittest has probably given us a little bit of a head start, at least in doing it, if not in understanding how we do it.

Even a conversation like this one, have we actually determined that climbers do have a higher rate of suicide? The way it seems to me is that we’re working on forming correlations and an understanding of suicide based on a reference class of climbers, and creating beliefs about suicide in general based on that climber centric perspective, maybe without really noticing or understanding that it has nothing to do with (i.e. no correlation with) being a climber.

It’s hard to point to external things that cause someone to commit suicide. I think mostly it comes from inside of us - the crazy ways we process information and form beliefs and psychological attributes (to the extent that they’re maladaptive, one might call them weaknesses, but we, or evolution, looking at the flip side, might call them strengths), but who the hell knows?

Agreed healyje, I think identity plays a pretty huge role in most of the stuff that goes on in our heads, and maybe that’s at least partly a tribally/socially advantageous thing we’ve learned to do with our beliefs, often behind the scenes of consciousness.

Why and how we form beliefs and psychological tendencies is maybe trickier than we think, and if the way we happen to find ourselves doing it is by trying to understand suicide by correlating suicide with an uncorrelated reference class of climbers, that honestly, to me, doesn’t seem any crazier than voting for me.

Which honestly, to me, seems pretty crazy. But still, we humans aren’t dead, or extinct, yet.

Thanks for sharing. Hoping you’re all well, whatever that is, for humans like us.
Trump

climber
Apr 9, 2018 - 10:44pm PT
Thanks for the thread reference.

“While we can’t really know this for sure, there are some reasons to suspect that suicide may be higher among climbers. One argument may be that climbers often have a passion or fire – perhaps emanating from anger or pain – and this very quality is what makes them fantastic climbers.“

Huh?

The reasoning that we’re using to convince ourselves that suicide might be higher among climbers is because climbers have passion (which, who knows, might just maybe be related to pain?), and that passion is what makes good climbers good climbers, so therefore probably statistically we can assume that the rate of suicide among climbers is higher than among other people?

Ok?

Sure, then let’s correlate climber characteristics with characteristics that we imagine are related to suiciders, and then imagine that explains why suicide is higher among climbers (in our imagination at least, if maybe not in reality).

I kind of don’t get it, but, ok.

We have such strong tendencies towards confirmation bias (i.e. confirmation bias is in some way so advantageous to us) that we try to explain why our beliefs are true even when we know that we don’t know whether or not our beliefs are true. Kind of like my supporters do.
healyje

Trad climber
Portland, Oregon
Apr 10, 2018 - 04:43am PT
I personally wouldn't be surprised to learn climbers and other pursuits attracting contingents of novelty-seeking individuals have somewhat higher incidences of suicide.
Trump

climber
Apr 10, 2018 - 08:07am PT
Yea.

And maybe we humans would be less inclined towards suicide if we spent each moment not expecting to be surprised - expecting that the way we understand things is actually factually true. I think that kind of is how we spend each moment.

Rather than facing the continuous drain on our mind-body resources of the existential angst of the uncertainty of our precarious existence, we find little ways to reassure ourselves that what we believe is actually factually true, and spend our resources worrying about something else.

So if we find ourselves explaining why a statistical fact (that we don’t actually know whether or not is true) is actually factually true, and exploring and explaining the correlations and causes between our imagined fact and other stuff we imagine is true .. ok. And while to me our tendency towards confirmation bias doesn’t seem to be a strictly rational way for us to think, it may, in our survival of the fittest reality, be the most fit way for us to think.

And while a downside of that might be that I’m now president, an upside might be that at least we’re not dead yet.

Best to you!
G_Gnome

Trad climber
Cali
Apr 10, 2018 - 10:20am PT
the continuous drain on our mind-body resources of the existential angst of the uncertainty of our precarious existence

Wow!! I don't think I have ever felt like this. Is there something wrong with me? I either am or am not. I don't worry about the in between states. And while I think about the 'am not' part and its eventual coming it isn't something that I worry about either - except for maybe not recognizing it soon enough to do something about it.
jogill

climber
Colorado
Apr 10, 2018 - 08:16pm PT
the continuous drain on our mind-body resources of the existential angst of the uncertainty of our precarious existence


And our precious bodily fluids?
Bushman

climber
The state of quantum flux
Apr 11, 2018 - 08:40am PT
Should we outlive suicide or escape from pain?

Perhaps the prospect of outliving those we find the most disagreeable in life could be used by some as a prime motivator to stave off the onslaught of an untimely but inevitable death, even when taking our own lives and escaping severe pain and misery would appear to be the preferred more merciful outcome.

For the past 10 or 15 years, whenever injury, illness, emotional bouts, or long periods of physical rehabilitation have gotten me down, this has been one of my go to’s to perk me up again. I reason that resentment like this turned on it’s head is almost as effective as any charity work in helping to restore my drive. Doesn’t do much for gratitude but oh well...whatever it takes sometimes to not let the bastards get you down.

We might also ask ourselves; Why should I give up so easily while so-and-so sits at the pinnacle of power, exalted by all his flock?

To the contrary one might think; as long as that prick continues to live on in his small minded nightmare prison of fear, secretly living each waking moment inwardly horrified at the prospect that his followers might discover his darkest most disturbing insecurities, then someone might have no qualms about ending their existence and embracing the sweet merciful angel of death.

No matter how we slice it, we don’t always get to chose the manner of our suffering, and are not always so fortunate as to have control over how we end it.

-b
Rollover

climber
Gross Vegas
Apr 11, 2018 - 12:35pm PT
donini

Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
Apr 11, 2018 - 12:51pm PT
Nice photos of some awesome climbers who are no longer tying in...thanks!
Rollover

climber
Gross Vegas
Apr 11, 2018 - 12:53pm PT
Life can sometimes be easier on the rocks..
No matter how hard the route.
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