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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Original Post - May 14, 2015 - 05:13am PT
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i'd like to return to school and
secure a master's in civil engineering.
i'd like to learn the piano
and perhaps a string instrument.
i'd like to song-write,
materializing the rampant
emotional tides that
i've instigated and endured
for the first half of my life.
i'd like to ride my bike
to alaska.
i'd like to be a story-telling
grandpa with a soft knee
for sitting grand-kiddies.
i'd like to simplify,
and dwell minimally.
what's in store for your?
future.
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rockermike
Trad climber
Berkeley
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May 14, 2015 - 05:54am PT
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You must mean the 'final third'? :)
I'm aiming for a beautific vision of God and the perfection of creation.
Short of that I'd settle for good enough health that I can continue to enjoy the outdoors.
Oh, and the lap for grand kids is good too.
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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May 14, 2015 - 05:59am PT
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Too young (58d) to think about that. I'll check in when I hitt the halfway mark!
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 06:05am PT
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cragman is so selfless.
how did you earn that emotional maturity, dean?
rocker i like the sought-god-vision.
i've seen and will never forget her.
jaybro, your forever is untied.
and now,
for a poetic twist on furtures:
i'd strive to be a star etched into the dust.
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crankster
Trad climber
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May 14, 2015 - 06:05am PT
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Great poem, Norway Man...long way to AK, better get started.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 06:30am PT
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downhill both ways
and i'm
going to get drunk
with my guardian angel.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 07:13am PT
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it's alright don't worry about
me melancholymoose
i'm going to take
a lifetime off
after this one.
for now i gotta carry on
in this manner
due to my over-development
down there.
super low center of mass
if you know what i mien.
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Charlie D.
Trad climber
Western Slope, Tahoe Sierra
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May 14, 2015 - 07:41am PT
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To continue to give my life away...that's all I want
There are givers and there are takers, an inspiring way to live Dean. BTW CV here's a bone for you to chew on and a great aspiration:
"Accept the act of whatever the moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. This will miraculously transform your life" - Eckhart Tolle.
Making plans is always good but then comes the cards you're dealt; some of which you have asked for and some of which you haven't. I'd suggest you have a lot more cards to play yet in your game than you may think. My hope is I've still got a 1/3 of the game left in good health.
Charlie D.
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SC seagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, Moab or In What Time Zone Am I?
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May 14, 2015 - 08:14am PT
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I'm well over a half.
Waking up every day and getting out of bed, off for a hike, bike ride, ski, whatever. Every year it's a little slower and more ibuprofen and the newest in "ace" bandages...but I hope to keep cranking as long as possible.
And most important I hope to be around long enough to be an active granny. We shall see.
Susan
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 08:31am PT
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gee Charlie
since we're telling each
other what to do,
let me tell you:
you need to be happily poor.
you've exhausted the opposite horizon
and now you're due.
you, nancy and the dogs,
come on.
design your sky-line.
)hint( it ain't 4-days a week on
and 3 off.
cheers and we are due for
some sortin up canyon
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 08:34am PT
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ok dingus i'll play the physics game.
you and i we better run f*#king fast
so when we fling off the cliff
we coast
on the horizontal
component of our dream.
ok, got the vector covered,
now for the moment.
your moment needs inertia
(reference the above word-stream)
because forever
will stress you
unless you
accommodate by bending.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 08:35am PT
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love you SC
thank you for the solid beta
on that eternal budhist
camp up there in the hills
above santa cruz.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 08:36am PT
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cosine crosses zero better, dingus
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pud
climber
Sportbikeville & Yucca brevifolia
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May 14, 2015 - 08:37am PT
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I hope and aspire to make it through the day.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 08:42am PT
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pud the mouth
is a fine line
between a frown
and a smile.
a resonance
occurs imparting
reverse stresses
on the cornerstone
of our face
as convex and concavity
dance
and in the end
the mouth breaks
and the face
is finally free
from expression governance,
and then
probably just song
gushes from our
soul
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Adventurer
Mountain climber
Virginia
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May 14, 2015 - 08:42am PT
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I'm only 66 so I guess I still have a few years to go before starting the second half of my life!
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rick sumner
Trad climber
reno, nevada/ wasilla alaska
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May 14, 2015 - 08:44am PT
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Have the grandkid and oh what a joy.
Looking forward as the horizon approaches
Hope to find the way to the edge still on my feet
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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May 14, 2015 - 08:45am PT
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I dunno, I can't make up my mind.
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NutAgain!
Trad climber
South Pasadena, CA
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May 14, 2015 - 08:47am PT
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Corvette, cocaine and babes with fake boobs.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 08:51am PT
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skip the fake boobs, good sir.
they bruise easily.
on both ends of the exchange.
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rgold
Trad climber
Poughkeepsie, NY
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May 14, 2015 - 09:01am PT
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Time for second-half contemplation came and went a long time ago, at a point when I was far too busy to entertain such thoughts. At this point, statistics suggest I have maybe 15% left. Although I never had such a list, I think I've actually managed to realize most of my hopes and aspirations, and of course one of the features of age is to come to terms with the things that got away.
Bottom line: I'm still havin' fun. My hopes and aspirations are for that to continue as long as possible.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 14, 2015 - 09:04am PT
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me too, rgold.
i wouldn't mind dying today
for i already in
40 short years twice-exhausted
my allotted presence.
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Marlow
Sport climber
OSLO
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May 14, 2015 - 10:26am PT
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Reality: Keeping on... one step at a time... enjoying every sandwich...
Non-reality: Mean lean move-machine...
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WindRiverWildman
Trad climber
N. Colorado
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May 14, 2015 - 10:35am PT
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The line between life and death is razor thin...
We never know how close we are to stepping across the line...
Could be decades away, or minutes away...so percentage left is irrelevant...
Dreaming is good but doing is better...
So stop dreaming and get doing...the line is coming fast!
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Ksolem
Trad climber
Monrovia, California
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May 14, 2015 - 12:06pm PT
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Statistically I'm dead for 30+ years, so I don't think much about having a half life. Even before I was aware of my situation I lived a very experiential life. Very much in the moment. So in terms of the things I want to get done my horizon might be the next moment or perhaps a year out there.
One thing I want to maintain is a functional and strong body. Physical activity is my mantra. As a goal for the future that's probably the top of the list.
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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May 14, 2015 - 12:18pm PT
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The sine wave life is symmetrical but has its ups and downs....
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Flip Flop
climber
Earth Planet, Universe
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May 14, 2015 - 12:34pm PT
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45 was hard because I might make 90.
46 seems better because 92 is not happening.
I'd really like to make 56.
And be healthy for my kid.
But I've got reality facing me down.
It's a race between the
Occupational hazards of
'Carpentry'
And the karma of
Being the blondest kid on
the equator.
Guys like me
Wake up
Dead
Every day.
I met my ghost
He's funny
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Ksolem
Trad climber
Monrovia, California
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May 14, 2015 - 12:35pm PT
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The sine wave life is symmetrical but has its ups and downs....
A bit of harmonic distortion works wonders, and a little dithering cures that zero cross problem.
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Sierra Ledge Rat
Mountain climber
Old and Broken Down in Appalachia
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May 14, 2015 - 08:44pm PT
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As a caver, all I have to say is that any day below ground is a good day.
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Guck
Trad climber
Santa Barbara, CA
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May 14, 2015 - 10:11pm PT
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rgold nailed it for me. I am still working on the last part which is by far the most challenging aspiration; "... one of the features of age is to come to terms with the things that got away". It is quite hard to decide which got away!
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jonnyrig
climber
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May 14, 2015 - 10:26pm PT
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Live today according to yesterdays lessons, plan for the future, and always look forward to tomorrow; because tomorrow is full of potential. Today is good; but tomorrow just might be great! And, tomorrow is special; because someday there wont be one. Sometimes only tomorrow gets me through today.
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Kalimon
Social climber
Ridgway, CO
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May 14, 2015 - 10:43pm PT
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Guys like me
Wake up
Dead
Every day.
In between all this death is life . . . there is no second half-life, there is only each and every moment blending into the current life. Cling to it, grasp it . . . it's all we have.
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Charlie D.
Trad climber
Western Slope, Tahoe Sierra
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May 15, 2015 - 06:30am PT
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CV you're wise beyond your years, the last thing I would do is tell you how to play your hand. I can attest what happened to me as the years went by I found myself in a position of more and more people relying on me. Between family, employees and community I became less focused on myself recognizing the needs of others. I suppose it was a trap of sorts but if I played all those cards over again I don't think I'd play them any differently with one exception, being a dirt bag with the lost boys club in your 20's would have been far more productive than in your mid to late 60's!
Enjoy as you well know this is no dress rehearsal.
Charlie D.
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clinker
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, California
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May 15, 2015 - 07:08am PT
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I met my ghost
He's funny
But did he give you next weeks lotto numbers?
Enjoy as you well know this is no dress rehearsal.
Truth in this comment.
i'd like to ride my bike
to alaska.
i'd like to be a story-telling
grandpa with a soft knee
for sitting grand-kiddies.
Wedgie, I would like to walk to Alaska, all in on the stories to grandkids.
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Gunkie
climber
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May 15, 2015 - 08:56am PT
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Viagra and surfing. Not at the same time. That could be problematic.
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Stewart Johnson
climber
lake forest
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May 15, 2015 - 01:45pm PT
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Norwegian,with all due respect,
Perhaps you should save your
Booze money and go check out your
Daughters namesake
They say one glance at the Himalaya
will abolish a lifetime of sinning
Jus sayin
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Roots
Mountain climber
Tustin, CA
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May 15, 2015 - 03:43pm PT
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I'm at the half way point. Still trying to figure out what the plan will be but it'll be beautiful and fun...
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eeyonkee
Trad climber
Golden, CO
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May 15, 2015 - 04:13pm PT
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No. 1. On-sight Stratosfear in the Black Canyon.
No. 2. Die well.
No. 3. Be as funny as Phantom X.
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paul roehl
Boulder climber
california
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May 15, 2015 - 04:16pm PT
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Sometimes I wonder if all the good times, personal achievements and family rewards life can bring can possibly make up for the inevitable last five minutes.
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jgill
Boulder climber
The high prairie of southern Colorado
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May 15, 2015 - 08:19pm PT
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^^^^ Finally, a bit of wisdom in this silly thread.
In my late 70s I have found that remembered events are no longer properly separated by their original time intervals. Things seemed pushed together in recall; two events separated by a year now seem as if they occurred within a month of each other. The trivia that properly distanced them flits away leaving a vacuum that draws them together.
You youngsters in your 50s and 60s might want to keep that in mind.
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matlinb
Trad climber
Fort Collins, CO
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May 15, 2015 - 09:20pm PT
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I'm still relatively young at 49 but I find myself enjoying not having too many hopes and aspirations. Sure there are routes I want to climb, vacations to take and the such. But a strong cup of coffee on a Sat morning and a walk around the park by house is pretty nice as well.
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MikeL
Social climber
Seattle, WA
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May 15, 2015 - 10:27pm PT
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To be without hopes and aspirations. (A paradox)
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Wayno
Big Wall climber
Seattle, WA
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May 15, 2015 - 10:49pm PT
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a very large ball of flames
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pud
climber
Sportbikeville & Yucca brevifolia
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May 16, 2015 - 07:42am PT
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In my late 70s I have found that remembered events are no longer properly separated by their original time intervals. Things seemed pushed together in recall; two events separated by a year now seem as if they occurred within a month of each other. The trivia that properly distanced them flits away leaving a vacuum that draws them together.
When my elders feel generous and take the time to share bits of wisdom like this, I am reminded why it is so important to always respect them.
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Big Mike
Trad climber
BC
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May 16, 2015 - 08:08am PT
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Fvck off buddy, you're giving the rest of us almost forty types a bad name. ;)
Forty is the new thirty doncha know?
You should tackle these new challenges with the gusto I know you possess. Solve them with your engineer's brain and apply the answers to your heart.
There is always a way forward.
We still have a monolith to climb. It will be catharsis for both in our party.
If you do make it up North make sure you swing by. You will enjoy the path through the mountains much more than the freeway.
There are also quite a few other routes you will enjoy around here.
There are a lot of things on my list I want to do in my latter years. One of them is to finish what we started.
Hope you are well fine sir.
I look forward to the day we meet again.
JGill- Thanks
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MikeL
Social climber
Seattle, WA
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May 16, 2015 - 08:13am PT
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Memories are unreal objects . . . created by unreal subjects.
;->
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Charlie D.
Trad climber
Western Slope, Tahoe Sierra
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May 16, 2015 - 09:10am PT
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paul r.......those last 5 minutes can easily become the best part of the whole journey. I only have to look at my mother's last five months. She'd easily trade it all for just those 5 minutes. We're all hoping for it to arrive.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - May 16, 2015 - 09:18am PT
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"what's the point in callin' shots.
the cue ain't straight in line."
-Robert Hunter
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skcreidc
Social climber
SD, CA
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May 16, 2015 - 09:48am PT
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To be able to place my mind right where I want it to be when I want it. The rest, including my weak shoulders, will follow. Then I can get something (albiet totally socially usless) done.
To counteract the above, continue to do something to add positively to society ;). Balance is important, to me at least.
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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May 16, 2015 - 09:55am PT
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I just wanna ride in my new F350. It's gonna be so sweet to run over a Prius.
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deeski
Trad climber
North Carolina
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May 16, 2015 - 08:19pm PT
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At 64 years old... I am looking forward to climbing all those routes that I have been too busy to climb ... due to a 60+ hour per week work commitment for the past 8 years ... ya hoo for resigning from my current job as of May 29th and working part-time... I may have to supplement my job by selling pencils on Main Street... but worth it for an opportunity to get my life back... and to climb those routes!!
Dee from North Carolina
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climbski2
Mountain climber
Anchorage AK, Reno NV
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May 16, 2015 - 08:27pm PT
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To answer the question...
"What is mind?"
Might suck though if I don't like the answer. More honestly
Beyond that.. to keep being excited and looking forward to every day.
To help those around me do the same.
Hope those last five minutes are not stretched out a few months or years. And that if so I have the ability and judgement to make the exit call at the right time with a peaceful mind in a way that those left behind who care can smile about it. .
This was a good week.. I went to my first home..after dreaming of it for 39 years and remembered some good days and made some new ones.
At this spot 44 years ago -13 days I went swimming as a 1 day old newborn. I returned with my dad who took the picture.
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Fritz
Trad climber
Choss Creek, ID
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May 16, 2015 - 08:39pm PT
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Well----it's a downer evening here in Choss Creek, since our beloved intellectual artist neighbor is in the last days of her life at age 69. She has fought the long fight with cancer & this is the end.
All this is a reality check: for doing what you want or need to do now, or sooner, rather than later.
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Edge
Trad climber
Betwixt and Between Nederland & Boulder, CO
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May 16, 2015 - 08:48pm PT
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As I slowly diminish with age, I want to experience more joy every day despite having less of everything, until the time when I cross over and become ecstatic at my nothingness.
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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May 16, 2015 - 10:42pm PT
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It does not matter at which point in your existence you choose to rectify your prior frailties -
the choice is ever between whether to be or to do, but I digress...
"On the mountains of truth you can never climb in vain." - Friedrich Nietsche
But I am quite certain that Nietsche never drove an F350.
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Flip Flop
climber
Earth Planet, Universe
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May 17, 2015 - 12:22am PT
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Reilly,
Your digression reminds me of that old song do-be-do-be-do.
And this banged up pony may be the finest ever made.
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phylp
Trad climber
Upland, CA
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May 19, 2015 - 10:42am PT
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Neither hopes nor aspirations, just a daily practice for as many days as are given:
Keep the focus on compassion and love; continue to let go of impatience, snarkiness, believing I know the right answer to anything, ego delusions.
Help others as much as I am able, especially my nieces and nephews and the great younger folks I meet.
Keep enjoying the simple, abundant pleasures of every day.
Keep this body fit and strong and pain-free as possible.
And, of course, keep climbing!
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JEleazarian
Trad climber
Fresno CA
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May 19, 2015 - 12:33pm PT
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To continue to give my life away...that's all I want.
I can't do better than that, Dean.
As an aside, a little over three years ago I severed my Achilles tendon bouldering. My wife informed me that those injuries most often occur in overweight, out-of-shape, middle-aged men who try to do too much. A physician friend of mine reminded me that my wife gave me a compliment by calling me middle-aged. In his words, "Face it, John. If your life is a year, it's already past Labor Day!"
John
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neebee
Social climber
calif/texas
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May 19, 2015 - 01:29pm PT
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hey there say, norwegian... very nice and thoughul share, here, for today...
it seems that i am already into the second half, now... but say, i really have no clue, nor any solid feelings on any of it...
i think i used to , about ten years ago, but now... i have no clue:
due to a few odd things, on my trail and such... so i'd say:
it's all in god's loving hands... :)
which it HAS been, but--there were so many better markers, and reason for various trails-shoots, long time back...
now:
kind of a chalkboard, with various outlines, for each day... :)
we shall see , later, how they all add up, and to how far into the 'ol second half', god has me down for, :)
though, it is a sweet deep joy, to travel with the lord-god, as my trail guide... :) and: father, friend, and mentor and coach...
edit:
climbski2, say, that was a very sweet share, thank for sharing about your FIRST swim, and being back there, to 'relive' the spot... :)
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neebee
Social climber
calif/texas
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hey there say, just an interesting thread, for a bump, this eve...
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mouse from merced
Trad climber
The finger of fate, my friends, is fickle.
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"but say, i really have no clue, nor any solid feelings on any of it... "
I was gonna go with a simple, "Meh." But neebee got it first.
I'm now officially over the hill, so what I do and say matters little in the real world.
I try to behave myself here online after a shaky beginning and make friends with "all the wrong people."
beginning with weej, continuing with zBrown, connecting with rSin, and wondering what I did to attract a Diabasic Gnome,
I come to the one who everyone seems to love and respect, "oor neebee."
neebee is expecting to live to way beyond donini's present age and she probably will outlive him, too;
at least I hope she does.
Locker and Cosmic fit in here somewhere, but I'll never live long enough to figure that out!!!!!!!!!
It's a nice idea for a goal, but I have no need for a goal.
I'm here...and it's all I need.
Edit for Reilly: I sold my F-350 in 1982. Replaced it with a Bug. Different strokes, though, buddy, different strokes.
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Charlie D.
Trad climber
Western Slope, Tahoe Sierra
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Amen phylp, well said......long may you climb.
May 19, 2015 - 10:42am PT
Neither hopes nor aspirations, just a daily practice for as many days as are given:
Keep the focus on compassion and love; continue to let go of impatience, snarkiness, believing I know the right answer to anything, ego delusions.
Help others as much as I am able, especially my nieces and nephews and the great younger folks I meet.
Keep enjoying the simple, abundant pleasures of every day.
Keep this body fit and strong and pain-free as possible.
And, of course, keep climbing!
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Norton
Social climber
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what is the difference between a hope and an aspiration?
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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A plan.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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I'm only 36, but it's been a hard lived 36 so I may well be at the mid-point of my time on this beautiful planet we inhabit.
I'd like to learn more empathy, my wife to be would sure appreciate that. I'd like to be financially stable, as that has eluded me so far. I'd like to own a home and raise animals and grow prolific gardens. I'd like to figure out spirituality as it pertains to me, as I've lost that part of myself somehow. I'd like to pass peacefully with the love of my life holding my hand. My desires are simple, and I love all of you.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Topic Author's Reply - Jul 6, 2015 - 09:40am PT
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you're so still in the honeymoon, youthful Brandon.
enjoy it.
for someday the boundless dream
of love narrows into
a one-way valve
thru which your soul
will pass,
and once it does
never again will your
body and essence unite.
we refer to the late-love
era as the inverse-orgasm.
where the universe f*#ks you
in rape mode
and into you it shoots seeds of eternity
and you begin gestating god,
though she aborts her host,
and as you die around her
and peel away,
what's left in the end
is sorrow in it's one solid state.
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Brandon-
climber
The Granite State.
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Well, that's a downer, man.
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cavemonkey
Ice climber
ak
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Weeg
If you ride ur bike to Alaska, stop in for a rest. Your kind is welcome here.
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Fat Dad
Trad climber
Los Angeles, CA
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I made a ticklist when I was 35, which was gratifying because it reminded me of the many cool things that I had already done: trekking the Himalaya, climbing the Captain, seeing the Pyramids, etc. I also ticked No. 1 and 2 on that list, which were to get married and have a family. Little did I know that ticking those would make everything else on the list more remote, but no matter. My list has evolved.
No. 1 is to give my family my primary focus, even when I'm chomping at the bit to get out a play. Before I know it, they'll be older and won't want to hang with dad anymore.
Other things I'd like to do if I get the time are solo the Captain; get enough time at the keyboard to be able to play a reasonably easy Beethoven sonata reasonably well; finally get conversant in Spanish; take my kids someplace really cool like Nepal and/or the Galapagos, India, etc.; still would like to tick Astroman (with style, not some half ass french free effort) and maybe do a longer mt. bike tour like Durango to Moab.
I think the greatest thing I'd like to accomplish to simply to be content with what I have.
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Ken M
Mountain climber
Los Angeles, Ca
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Perhaps the better use of language:
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survival
Big Wall climber
Terrapin Station
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I'd like to live to see peace in the Middle East, and for every single religion to climb down off of their high horse.
Because they all believe they're perfectly right, each and every one of them.
Well that's not possible is it?
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this just in
climber
Justin Ross from North Fork
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Bruce, if you time travel back to the caveman days. Surely they were still killing each other though.
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survival
Big Wall climber
Terrapin Station
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TJI, I agree, they were.
Shouldn't we be getting close to being beyond that though?
At least being beyond every different version of God 6.1 being cause to slaughter each other?
Even swami Werner is right about everything, but so is Dean and so is Klimmer and and and and......
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Big Mike
Trad climber
BC
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A new partner, with a happier outlook on reality. Love, passion, and compassion.
Oh and maybe some climbing...
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survival
Big Wall climber
Terrapin Station
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Animals kill other animals...
We're animals...
How do we get beyond that???...
Let's ask Jesus.
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Big Mike
Trad climber
BC
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Locker, i'd be just fine on my own dude.. Single life is much simpler for certain..
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Moof
Big Wall climber
Orygun
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Knowing my family history I am likely at or past the halfway mark at 38 (just averaging the ages of dead parents and grand parents).
I got $500 at work as a bonus last week. After a weekend of thinking, I honestly could not come up with a decent thing I wanted to do with it for myself.
My main thought was that $500 shoved into a retirement account could shave a week off when I get to retire and go back to actually living. I have toys, but they collect dust while I pilot a fabric box all week.
Not sure how I got on this high wire, but it looks like getting off is either more of the same by continuing forward, or worse options to either side. Control appears to be an illusion. Eff it all.
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Big Mike
Trad climber
BC
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You got that right! I don't need someone else, but last time it got a bit lonely at the three year mark.. Lol
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SC seagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz, Moab or In What Time Zone Am I?
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I'm even further along past half than when I posted couple months ago.
I reviewed it and I'm still on the same trajectory. Now, in addition to my knees, I'm throwing my hip into the equation. Joints. Pain in the Arse they are.
Susan
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skitch
Gym climber
Bend Or
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I'm 36, and I hope that I'm within the last third (or less) of this life.
How the f_ck do people continue giving a sh#t??? If there was a god, afterlife, punishment for sins, would it make life more meaningful? Does anything matter? Is human life more important than it really is????
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Patrick Sawyer
climber
Originally California now Ireland
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To be with Jennie, to provide her a life outside of the nursing home she is in.
To walk on the beach with her, take her to the zoo to see her beloved giraffes, to go to a ballet with her and have her tell me what it is all about.
To love Jen and have her love me back. To find a cure for dementia.
Hope Springs Eternal
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Tricouni
Mountain climber
Vancouver
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Big Mike wrote:
A new partner, with a happier outlook on reality. Love, passion, and compassion.
Oh and maybe some climbing...
IMO, you are bang-on with the first part. The climbing part isn't at all important. But other shared interests and outlook on life are.
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