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The Larry
climber
Moab, UT
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Jul 31, 2013 - 03:21pm PT
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Zip, was she 23? I've dated quite a few and they're all like that dog in that Pixar movie.
"Squirrel."
At least you got a text. I normally find out that I lost my turn when I see them at the bar with some other dork.
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ydpl8s
Trad climber
Santa Monica, California
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Jul 31, 2013 - 03:30pm PT
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My ex(wife) got the mid-life crisis blues and showed up one afternoon driving a 1990 Carrera 4 that she bought with a 2nd taken out on our mortgage. Long story short, that baby needed a lot of expensive work at the local Porsche mechanic, she was spending a lot of time there....left me for the mechanic.
p.s. The car and the relationship only lasted about another 4 or 5 months.
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zip
Trad climber
pacific beach, ca
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Jul 31, 2013 - 03:32pm PT
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ha ha good stuff.
ron, did she take the the ice cube trays and all the toilet paper?
nope not 23. she was old enough to know better.
i have heard in small town resort type transient environments that you never really lose your girlfriend, you just lose your turn.
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RyanD
climber
Squamish
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Jul 31, 2013 - 04:09pm PT
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Zip, we are going to need a screen shot of ur text messages to properly analyze this.
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limpingcrab
Trad climber
the middle of CA
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Jul 31, 2013 - 04:18pm PT
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One girl told me she loved me and got engaged to another guy in the same week. That was weird.
She texted me a month after the wedding to say sorry. Ha!
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michaeld
Sport climber
Sacramento
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Jul 31, 2013 - 04:19pm PT
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Asked a chick to be my girlfriend after about 3 months of hanging out and bangin', then she disappeared.
I found out she broke up with me by getting knocked up by another dude.
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Snowmassguy
Trad climber
Calirado
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Jul 31, 2013 - 04:26pm PT
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Being a parent to a tween and teen has illustrated that all relationships are now formed and ended via text an/or Instagram.
Face to face dumping is for old folks.
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Climbnc
Trad climber
Carrboro, NC
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Jul 31, 2013 - 04:29pm PT
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Got dumped one time while spending the week at Smith Rocks. As I was recounting the story to my partner, Scott Franklin overheard it and said "Dude, you don't need that. There's way more fish in the sea".
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Ksolem
Trad climber
Monrovia, California
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Jul 31, 2013 - 04:41pm PT
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I was expecting another nice evening. I got the usual warm welcome and all that.
She made us some food and we sat down at the table. Then she looked up and said, in a level and certain voice "I really like you, but the problem is that when I look you in the eyes I can tell that you are not sane."
There was something in the way she said it, I knew I was toast.
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Aerili
climber
SLC, Utah
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Jul 31, 2013 - 04:50pm PT
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Larry, you are too old to be dating 23 y/o's! But I did enjoy your post.
Love,
Slim
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survival
Big Wall climber
Terrapin Station
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Jul 31, 2013 - 05:00pm PT
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I once got the word from my MOM, who told me she saw my gal riding "close" in some other guys big 4x4.
All I had was a beat down 63 Nova.....
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plund
Social climber
OD, MN
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Jul 31, 2013 - 05:05pm PT
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Had gone out a few times, I was really starting to dig her, we had made plans for the next night, I had to push it back a few hours so called her...
Was greeted by a ranting PSYCHO, hollering at me to leave her alone, stop stalking her, etc.
Found out later (from her roommate whom I vaguely knew) that her on-again / off-again / "ex" was over, and I was just being used as a jealousy-inducer, to prove to HIM how desirable SHE was.
Good riddance there, and good luck to him! It did sting at the time, though - her behavior seemed totally irrational compared to how she was on our few dates - especially since her accusations re: stalking were totally BS.
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dirt claud
Social climber
san diego,ca
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Jul 31, 2013 - 05:51pm PT
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That's a good one Crag. From some of the stories you told me when I met you about of the FAs you guys did around June Lake back in the day, I would say she "was" right.
Can't say I have any dump stories that compare to the ones here so far.
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Guernica
climber
right there, right then
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Jul 31, 2013 - 05:54pm PT
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You SAR types, eh Crag? Can't say I blame her! Kinda have to be in the club to understand that darker humor...
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Mungeclimber
Trad climber
Nothing creative to say
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Jul 31, 2013 - 07:21pm PT
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dang, two in one day. Something in the water?
This is quote of the day...
""You and your climber friends are completely INSANE!"
Of course.....she was right."
LOL
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pc
climber
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Jul 31, 2013 - 07:42pm PT
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I've never been "ghetto" dumped before but was at a tech company after the bubble burst that escorted everyone out via armed guards... That felt pretty ghetto.
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Seamstress
Trad climber
Yacolt, WA
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Jul 31, 2013 - 08:15pm PT
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Stood up Christmas Eve at the restaurant that we both worked at....while I was pregnant with his child. All of our coworkers and firends watched me sit there, waiting for him. Happy Holidays!! Hope you like your present.
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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Jul 31, 2013 - 08:22pm PT
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The Soviet Union said I couldn't stay to pursue my love.
Like I was gonna argue with Leonid Brezhnev?
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Elcapinyoazz
Social climber
Joshua Tree
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Jul 31, 2013 - 08:22pm PT
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This thread is going places. Already some amazing stuff.
One girl told me she loved me and got engaged to another guy in the same week. That was weird.
You too?
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S.Leeper
Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
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Jul 31, 2013 - 08:25pm PT
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A girl dumped me because she said we were "unequally yoked in the eyes of the lord" then we had awesome breakup sex.
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mitchy
Trad climber
new england
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Jul 31, 2013 - 08:32pm PT
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I used to work in a restaurant and my gf was a bartender there. One day i was at her house and just happened to walk into her bedroom and her sheets were a mess, allover the place, so i walked over and looked at the pillow, short black hairs. Funny thing is, i had LONG brown hair. I make an excuse to leave. I went to work that night and my friend Kim, whose boyfriend just happened to work with us at the SAME restaurant comes up to me and said that her boyfriend and my chick are cheating on us. I had a suspicion earlier today i told her, she gives me her phone number and also wants to got out after work for beers and talk about this. I said sure, one thing leads to another, we're back at her place. Wasn't exactly like i got dumped but, was pretty effed up at the same time
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Kalimon
Social climber
Ridgway, CO
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Jul 31, 2013 - 08:47pm PT
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No woman . . . no cry.
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10b4me
Ice climber
Wishes-He-Was-In-Arizona
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:02pm PT
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Mine was relatively tame. I was driving down the freeway, and get a call from the gf. She said she wasn't ready to commit. Totally out of the blue. I almost wrecked the car.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:06pm PT
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i was at the dump yesterday.
household trash, you know.
the attendant tells me to pick a stall.
i look over, and say,
i think i'll take the one
next to the one
where the lady with
the huge rack is bent over
throwing sacks from the tub.
i do.
and man, i got a few good
peeks down the gal's shirt.
her son, like 14 or so,
totally saw me,
but he was wondering
of my and my demeanor,
my clothes and hair style,
these things about me
usually leave people befuddled.
anyway, i finish my job,
she finishers hers,
and we go to leave the stalls
at the same time.
im douching my paws
with a spritz of foaming sanitizer,
and she sees me.
so i get out, and with a friendly
smile deliver myself to her window.
her son is still tieing down
the cans so i admit to her,
"i looked down your shirt like
three times. the least i can
do is offer you a shot
of sanitizer,
and no shite i totally monied
the alcohol into her
open hand.
she is very all smiles.
i meet my wife at the pub
and tell her the whole story.
she laughs at mine.
but she aint dumped me yet.
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Synchronicity
Trad climber
British Columbia, Canada
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:10pm PT
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I dumped a girl once because she was ghetto...
What happens down in Mexico, is sometimes found out on arrival back in Canada
Good riddance, no tolerance
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Onewhowalksonrocks
Mountain climber
In the middle of the ocean
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:15pm PT
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I ended up dating this girl that was my climbing partner. After climbing at the gym one night she told me that she just want to be "just climbing partners", "not lovers anymore" They she asked if our planned Yosemite trip was still on. I sat there wondering just how good of belay I would give her. So, I went with someone else.
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mucci
Trad climber
The pitch of Bagalaar above you
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:19pm PT
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Can't wait till the Poop smearing stories come out.
Man, nothing like dropping a bowl filler on, near, or in the vicinity of your Ex.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:19pm PT
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kat i don't speak code,
my wife and i have the same struggle,
she speaks
and i no understandy.
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lubbockclimber
Trad climber
lubbock,tx
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:21pm PT
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I think I got ya all beet. Get home from visiting the mama. Empty house uh oh. I had been with the girl for four years. So she decides to start banging the manager where I wait tables this is where it got super cool. Come home empty house, no dog, and a letter from the landlord asking to sleek with me. So she leaves me, takes my sh#t, takes my best friend toby, gets my manager to fire me, and lets the landlord know about my little shroom grow op. so in about three hours time, heartbroken, broke, fired, and evicted. Best day of my whole ill tell you what!
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:27pm PT
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Had domestic bliss with a live-in, life was amazing. In love every day, always by eachothers side. Best friends.
One day she came to me and said she wanted to move out, she was done. No reason. Come to find out there was a dude with a face tattoo she met at a bar.
Took the Cat with her and the apartment.
Six months later my best friend died right in front of me.
Life has an amazing way of telling you that it just does not give a shit. Not about you, not about your plans - it just goes. Life is Rock and Sinew and Matter and Emotion and a hundred trillion other things that we think we know that don't seem to add up. I spent countless hours wondering why she left, what was wrong with me, what I had done wrong... but in the end, as her relationship with the new guy fell apart, I realized that there was no reason. That just happens sometimes.
When I was a kid I would always look for perspective. Maybe, just maybe, if I zoomed out enough I could grasp what happened.
It turns out, the farther you back up while looking at a problem, inevitably you will see planet Earth. It will be a spec in a starry sky, surrounded by billions of other specs. Some moving fast, some slow, but all blissfully unaware of our existance as galaxies collide, stars explode and worlds are born.
I don't know what to think anymore. Getting back confidence after hearing someone tell you why they left, that can be tricky - especially if you were never confident in the first place. The answer is that this is my world, just as much as it is hers.
I'm just a small spec on a tiny planet, trying to live the best life possible. If I've learned one thing is that everything is fleeting and nothing stays the same.
Live and love. Those two go together. Without chance there is no life, without risk there is no love. If you can find something that makes you happy, and someone to bring along, you just might have figured it out. For the rest of us, there are peaks to climb and hearts to break - how lucky we are to be alive.
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TheSoloClimber
Trad climber
Vancouver
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:32pm PT
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One of my GFs and I shared a lot of mutual friends back in the day. She ended up boning some other dude who I didn't know. I called her on it, she denied it with the promise that "they were just friends" and I was in love so I believed her.
She continued to bang this other guy, and tell all our mutual friends that we had broken up. This was relayed to me via the grapevine, and when I called her on this one, she said they were all lying.
I was a moron, albeit a moron in love, so I believed her. Again. For a couple more weeks.
I don't think she ever did actually tell me that we had broken up...... it just sort of stopped.
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zip
Trad climber
pacific beach, ca
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Jul 31, 2013 - 09:43pm PT
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I got dumped the day after Valentine's Day once. I gave her a ring with two hearts connected by a diamond. She asked for the receipt so she could get it resized, she returned it for cash the next day, and then gave me the boot.
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Jul 31, 2013 - 10:02pm PT
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may i suggest a theme for your thread,
[Click to View YouTube Video]
this is what fights in our place asound.
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pyro
Big Wall climber
Calabasas
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Jul 31, 2013 - 10:07pm PT
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Broke up with some chick while in the meadows. I let the air outta her bike tires then watched as she thunk it was a nail... :-)
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rottingjohnny
Sport climber
mammoth lakes ca
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Jul 31, 2013 - 10:27pm PT
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Reilly...? You were dating Leonoid Bhreznev...?
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SCseagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz
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Jul 31, 2013 - 10:40pm PT
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My boyfriend in college was killed in a car accident driving to his hometown....to see a hometown girlfriend I didn't know about. The funeral was awkward.
I'm not trying to be irreverent in his passing, it's just that it was 35+ years ago, loved him dearly but after all that time there is a black humor to it. Stayed in touch with his mother until she passed about 10 years ago. Never did connect up with other girl friend.
Susan
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Ricky D
Trad climber
Sierra Westside
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Jul 31, 2013 - 10:43pm PT
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Is it just me...or does anyone sense the cruelty that appears to be inherent among the "fairer sex"?
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'Pass the Pitons' Pete
Big Wall climber
like Ontario, Canada, eh?
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Jul 31, 2013 - 10:48pm PT
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Ricky - it's knott just you.
But that being said, there are a few good ones - keep hunting, and don't give up. And build some redundancy into your system.
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Ricky D
Trad climber
Sierra Westside
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Jul 31, 2013 - 10:50pm PT
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^^^^I just give them all of my money upfront.
Saves on legal fees down the road!
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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Jul 31, 2013 - 10:54pm PT
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Is it just me...or does anyone sense the cruelty that appears to be inherent among the "fairer sex"?
Ain't none of my dude friends ever been sent to the hospital from getting beat on. A few of my female friends may be.
People are f*#ked up, men and women both.
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john hansen
climber
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Jul 31, 2013 - 11:05pm PT
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Like some one above said
"We were pulling unevenly at the yoke" I could have never lasted with a Born Again Christian anyway, so just as well.
As for the next one, we were also pulling unevenly at the yoke.
I was pulling the wagon,,, and she was in it!
After 7 years, 2 days after I declared bankruptcy ,she was out of there.
By then I was extremely relieved when she boarded her plane to leave.
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justthemaid
climber
Jim Henson's Basement
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Jul 31, 2013 - 11:15pm PT
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Ron and Lubbock and I should start a club...
I once showed up at my boyfriend's apartment and he had moved. (This happened in Reseda so it gets ghetto-points.)
No really..totally empty apartment, no forwarding address. No note, no phone call no nothin'. I guess that was his way of breaking up. Never saw him again.
@Susan... my mom kinda had the same thing happen but she was the other woman. Her high school sweetheart reconnected with her after 40 years. Problem was.. he was married. He died of a heart attack while driving to hook up with my mother for a rendezvous.
Yet another awkward funeral....
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zip
Trad climber
pacific beach, ca
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Jul 31, 2013 - 11:26pm PT
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^^^^^
"Zip, she's his problem now, so celebrate ! "
Jim, Dude, you know something I don't know?
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MisterE
climber
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Jul 31, 2013 - 11:29pm PT
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In the spirit of Monty Python...
I was actually dumped into a large-capacity dumpster in Pacoima by my girlfriend, where I continued to live huffing gas and eating whatever offal ended up beside me. I picked up a TV reality show after a COPS episode, and now can huff Pam instead.
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Oplopanax
Mountain climber
The Deep Woods
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Jul 31, 2013 - 11:31pm PT
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I had an interesting conversation with a gal about the same side of the fence.
I told her I was confident enough in my straightness that I could enjoy looking at a pretty boy.
She told me that she was interested in girls.
That was a long lonely drive home from Cow Town.
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rottingjohnny
Sport climber
mammoth lakes ca
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Jul 31, 2013 - 11:32pm PT
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I've never been dumped and am not a groupie...Meow...!
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lubbockclimber
Trad climber
lubbock,tx
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Jul 31, 2013 - 11:35pm PT
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Oh I forgot she took my damn weed too. Bitch
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Ricky D
Trad climber
Sierra Westside
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Jul 31, 2013 - 11:37pm PT
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^^^If you are really from Texas - then she also stole your pickup and ran over your dog.
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Fritz
Trad climber
Choss Creek, ID
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Jul 31, 2013 - 11:56pm PT
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RJ! It's like those that declare: I've never taken a lead fall or never flipped a boat. Just wait for your fate.
I've never been dumped and am not a groupie...Meow...!
I have been dumped, but the best dumped story I've heard comes from Heidi: who used to dive & hang with a group of Boise skydivers.
One friend irritated his wife to the point of dumpage.
Late on a late-night snowy Christmas Eve, he staggered up to their front door, after a big-party night. He drunkenly-ignored all the snow-coverd lumps in the front yard.
On the locked front door was a note from his now ex-wife.
Merry fuking-Christmas!
The snow-covered lumps in the yard were his possessions.
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Dr. Christ
Mountain climber
State of Mine
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hmmm, come to think of it, I've never been dumped.
I had a girlfriend cheat on me with another girl before. I made it perfectly clear "it is cheating if you have sex with a girl and I'm not there."
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lubbockclimber
Trad climber
lubbock,tx
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Yea it definitely coulda been a country song she did take my fukin dog tho
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nature
climber
Boulder, CO
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^^^If you are really from Texas - then she also stole your pickup and ran over your dog.
ok now that was f*#king funny....
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rottingjohnny
Sport climber
mammoth lakes ca
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Fritz...You are a wise man..i've suffered all of those fates , leader fall , crashing my road bike , flipping the boat and floundering in the dark but none are worse than the sound of the wind getting sucked out of your lungs when a girl tells you it's over...That's where the sheep come in handy... RJ
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LilaBiene
Trad climber
Technically...the spawning grounds of Yosemite
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Me to ex-husband: "I think you should leave."
(Crickets. Ex-husband stunned.)
Ex-husband to me, incredulously: "Nobody's ever dumped ME?!"
(Still didn't get it.)
Rewind not quite a year, when ex-husband and I have just signed papers on first house. Taking apart the bed in the apartment we'd lived in for...oh...seven years. We're all excited and happy to move in on the first day, etc., etc. I look down...and, what the? Then bend down for a closer look, and there's a woman's Alabama driver's license in the bed frame. Must have been stuck there on purpose quite some time ago, because there was no way for it to "accidentally" fall where it roosted. WTF? He said he didn't do anything and had no idea how it got there. Definitely didn't know her. (How did he know it was a "her" and who it was, if he hadn't actually seen what I had picked up?) Suffice it to say that he never admitted to having done anything, and I couldn't trust a damn thing he said because of it. He was still baffled when he got the boot.
Can't make it up.
On the other side of the coin, dating for a good while & was really digging the guy. A little uptight and didn't get my adventurous nature and why I didn't keep score playing golf, but DAMN could he hit his irons long. I make the reservations to play on a Saturday afternoon (torture for me -- too expensive, too slow, but whatever). In the middle of the 3rd hole, one of my favorites -- a long par 5 I used to love to try to birdie -- my damn phone starts vibrating. Did I mention he was a no-show & I got stuck with his $75 greens fee? He wants to talk, in person...is now a problem? Hindsight is 20/20. Shoulda just kept playing...I was hitting my irons well that day. Instead, I let him ruin a perfectly good round of (way-too-damn-expensive) golf.
High school boyfriend. Baseball player (shoulda known better!). We're messing around in his bedroom and he says to me: "I know how to get laid without even having to try...you just get a girl drunk. No, seriously, it's really easy!" I get myself dressed and have to call my mom to come pick me up to drive me back home, after she had just dropped me off.
I've got more...but I think I'll save myself the reliving of the rest of these brilliant moments in my life. ;D
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zip
Trad climber
pacific beach, ca
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LilaBiene,
Let's hear more.
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LilaBiene
Trad climber
Technically...the spawning grounds of Yosemite
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Rollerblading waitress days. Tight black jeans shorts, big bleached blonde ponytail & killer tan. (Not to mention a killer set of Bones bearings in my blades.) With all this going for me, I was loop-de-loop mad over "the new guy" who had just lost his job in the latest Congressional turn-over. He'd lived abroad, spoke another language, too, lots of stuff in common blah blah blah.
Roommate (also waitron) slides over & says: "Hey -- you're not going home with what's-his-face tonight, are you?"
I shrug my shoulders & take off on my blades & holler over my shoulder that double standards still suck and that there's nothing wrong with wanting a romp.
So a little while later, the roomie shimmies up and says: "Hey -- seriously. You know he's going around the restaurant telling everyone he's banging you and his ex-girlfriend and he's moving back to where he's from TOMORROW, right?"
Doofus here doesn't believe this and goes back to his place, whereupon she asks whether the aforementioned rumors were true? Uh...yeah.
Suffice it to say that he had a very uncomfortable, tense and...er...blue... last night in Washington, D.C. I got up at the crack of dawn, turned down his very kind offer to relieve him of his misery and told him that my trainer at the gym was waiting.
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aspendougy
Trad climber
Los Angeles, CA
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xA8tUUrSTIw
This is the best song to play after you've been dumped, make you feel better right away, plus these guys have so much fun singing it.
"Hey, little girl it's all over for you,.........."
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Ksolem
Trad climber
Monrovia, California
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Can't wait till the Poop smearing stories come out.
Hey that's my story. No way it gets told here though. Do I know you?
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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"I know how to get laid without even having to try...you just get a girl drunk. No, seriously, it's really easy!"
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gonzo chemist
climber
Fort Collins, CO
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Zip,
You got dumped by text? My advice: stop dating 20 year-olds ;-)
Seriously though, that blows.
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weezy
climber
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you don't lose your girlfriend, you just lose your turn.
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Gunkie
Trad climber
East Coast US
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Will be married 20 years, three weeks from now. However, during my dogging days I got dumped plenty of times. After a while I began to anticipate the end and made appropriate plans.
If I were drunk, I would post these final forays into depravity and general lewdness. Alas, I'm drinking coffee this morning and pretty darn sober.
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Ezra Ellis
Trad climber
North wet, and Da souf
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Nothin too drastic to Report here,
I was however dumped via e-mail in 1993, has to be one of the earliest e-mail dumps on this site at least???????????
This thread is a winner. ;)
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perswig
climber
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^^
Agree - Zip always brings the existentialism.
Dale
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frank wyman
Mountain climber
montana
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Was in the middle of a divorce some 40 years ago and while I was moving my stuff out I found a letter my wife had wrote to her boyfreind. She was telling him how much of a "free-sprit" he was and that I was such a drag for not quitting my job and going to a "rainbow festival" and since he had no job or house or car they could hitch hike together. Told him how I was always serious about life and how I wanted to work and buy a house and land and maybe have a new car and money in the bank. Boy...what a loser I was...no wonder she dumped me...
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Evel
Trad climber
Nedsterdam CO
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Interesting thread. Not two weeks after my own post about loving my gal she dumped me via text.
Life goes on.
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Seems that social media like texting, being impersonal, makes dumping a lot easier.
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Beautiful_Corn
Big Wall climber
Brooklyn Park, MD
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2002: Dumped by girlfriend
2005: She starts dating my best friend. I get married.
2006: Water under the bridge; we are all good friends again. We hang out all the time.
2008: Best friend and ex-girlfriend get married. I am the best man and my wife is a bride's maid.
2010: Ex (now best friend's wife) informs my wife via email that they no longer wish to spend time with us because they feel they have outgrown us.
We have seen them only twice since then.
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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2010: Ex (now best friend's wife) informs my wife via email that they no longer wish to spend time with us because they feel they have outgrown us.
We have seen them only twice since then.
Good riddance. Besides losing what appears to be a crappy friend, I think you have had it pretty good :)
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donini
Trad climber
Ouray, Colorado
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Outgrown....maybe they just got fat and are embarrassed to be seen together.
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justthemaid
climber
Jim Henson's Basement
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...they feel they have outgrown us.
*cringe*.. What the f*#k does that mean? Complete and utter bullsh#t. Arrogant is putting it nicely. Good riddance to as#@&%es...
I had some "friends" pull that same BS on me as well (also by e-mail). It's almost worse than getting dumped by a romantic partner in some cases. Probably could support it's own thread BTW.
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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Just for the record, if anyone feels I am too immature to be around, PLEASE leave me alone :)
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Daphne
Trad climber
Black Rock City
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Worst ever break up, don't know if it's ghetto: completely out of the blue, seriously, with no sign that it was coming, the @#$% dumps me three days after I had surgery to repair a shattered heel. "There was never going to be a good time to tell you" he said. That I picked someone like that made me do a deep dive into myself that resulted in major internal changes to my view of what relationship means to me. I can honestly say no one like that will ever be allowed in again.
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pc
climber
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Hmmm....
Are climbers more clingy than the norm?
;)
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Mungeclimber
Trad climber
Nothing creative to say
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pc, the term is called co-dependent. And, if you solo a lot, it probably doesn't apply.
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perswig
climber
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Just for the record, if anyone feels I am too immature to be around, PLEASE leave me alone :)
Greg, it's not you, it's me....
(Sorry to do this on the 'Topo, but I don't own a smartphone)
Dale
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Norwegian
Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
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Weege - I have sung Carmina Burana [first bass = baritone] a bunch of times with the Bach-Elgar Choir in Hamilton, Ontario. Our best performance - by far! - was at Artpark in Lewiston, New York. Full-on orchestra with the Buffalo Symphony. We got a standing ovation - I sh#t you knott - of like twenty minutes! Longest damn ovation I've ever received in a lifetime of performances - very memorable.
awesome piton peat,
much respect.
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TwistedCrank
climber
Bungwater Hollow, Ida-ho
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A friend of mine was working overseas when he got an email from his wife that was four words long:
I want a divorce.
Cold. Fukking cold.
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STEEVEE
Social climber
HUMBOLDT, CA
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This is a depressing thread if you feel, a funny thread if you think.
Zip, just send her a picture of you masturbating over her picture and thank her for the breakup "sext".
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Come on, youz dadz. . . now tell us just how ghetto you've been when the tables were turned!
I was thinking the same.
I've never been dumped, though have had more non-starts than I want to think of. And when I needed to stop seeing any guys, I always did my best to be kind and direct. It sucks badly enough to be rejected, even if you weren't really happy, Why make it worse?
...they feel they have outgrown us.
*cringe*.. What the f*#k does that mean? Complete and utter bullsh#t. Arrogant is putting it nicely. Good riddance to as#@&%es...
I had some "friends" pull that same BS on me as well (also by e-mail). It's almost worse than getting dumped by a romantic partner in some cases. Probably could support it's own thread BTW.
Going through the early 20's when friends started first getting married, and then again when babies started coming, and not being included in social gatherings because I was a unit of one sucked. I didn't understand why there had to be "pairs" and "sets" to have balance...
I did have someone tell me last year that "no man who owns a home would be interested in dating you." When I dumb-foundedly asked why, they said "Well, you have nothing. What do you bring to the table? The only guy who will be interested is a dirtbag who lives on the road like you do."
They said men would look at me as if I were out to take advantage of them and live off them.
That was about the most horrible thing I ever had someone say to me.
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zip
Trad climber
pacific beach, ca
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Great stories!
Keep them coming.
I will reply more in depth when I get a chance.
Just wanted to post up a quick update.
I gotta a text from her this morning requesting I delete all the personal sexual stuff.
We did quite a bit of sexting and she sent me a lot of pics and videos she now wants me to delete.
I responded that I would honor her request if she could just remind me who she was. I sent her 1/2 dozen pics of other women, and asked her to tell me which one she was.
She hasn't responded.
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Big Mike
Trad climber
BC
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I'm sorry baby... I thought you said you wanted me to post all those pics on the internet?? ;p
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Jennie
Trad climber
Elk Creek, Idaho
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Happiegirl, I agree with Ekat...
Guys like that have serious doubts about their own significance and importance...and attempt to project it onto others with hurtful insults. Avoid them and show no vulnerable path to your inner soul.
You're an appreciated, highly cherished individual...and by all worthy accounts, a soul with immense spiritual and moral quality. You can't put a market value on that kind of human merit.
There's nothing low-station about living on the road in pursuit of your dreams...high living is about personal growth and the quest for meaningful experience...not a seven figure bank account.
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Bruce Morris
Social climber
Belmont, California
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"They're all just hoes!"
 Mike Brown 1983
Chief Administrator
Tuolumne Meadows Country Club & Gas Station
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JLP
Social climber
The internet
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Avoid them and show no vulnerable path to your inner soul. That's kind of the heart of the matter here, no?
Sometimes we can learn and grow the most from these most painful of observations, or we can choose to block them out and move on to another page of the same old story.
By far the most painful things ever said to me have been on the way out the door of a relationship. I can still hear many of the words and some of them have taken many decades to understand and accept.
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Elcapinyoazz
Social climber
Joshua Tree
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They said men would look at me as if I were out to take advantage of them and live off them
Might not be the nicest thing to say to someone (I hear worse daily), but they are right.
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jstan
climber
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This thread has the potential to do significant harm.
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Reilly
Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
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I'm surprised the PC crowd hasn't objected to the use of 'ghetto'.
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frank wyman
Mountain climber
montana
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While working in oil-exploration I seen my share of dickheads who would say anything to get laid. (not me of course as I'm a cool guy) One night in the bar this guy named Richie was laying it on thick to this cute gal promising her the world. The next day we were packing up and moving to the next crappy town when this poor girl shows up with her kid in tow and a suitcase of her belongings, Richie...Richie... you said you loved me..Richie...Richie...you said I could have my own horse...And as we were driving off she was sobbing in the parking lot...Richie...you said I could have my own horse...I felt horrible for her. BUT...we were howling...I guess that does make me a dickhead...
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Klimmer
Mountain climber
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May 20th, 2011, the day before "The End of The World" ...
My wife of 19 years and the mother of our 2 kids says "I'm leaving and divorcing you."
My 2 kids were at the new Jack Sparrow, Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides, premiere. She had arranged a sleep over at a friends house for our 2 kids for after the movie.
I was hoping to go out with her that night. It had been a longtime since we both had time alone together without the kids. I asked her earlier in the day from work on the phone, and she said "We'll talk."
It was the loneliest night of my entire life. No wife. No kids. Buckets of tears. The prediction for the end of the world was one day off. It came early.
The prior month she had been secretly using the same remodeling workmen that were working on our house to ready another home in the same city a few miles away. They knew before I did. Maybe I should of asked the workmen how my marriage was doing? It didn't occur to me to ask them. Well, hindsight as they say is 20/20. I should have asked them. Lol.
Well, ladies, if your name is "Lilith" or "Cruella," that is how you do it. Textbook separation and eventual divorce.
All about Lilith:
http://judaism.about.com/od/jewishculture/a/Lilith-In-The-Torah-Talmud-And-Midrash.htm
http://www.myjewishlearning.com/beliefs/Issues/Magic_and_the_Supernatural/Practices_and_Beliefs/Supernatural_Beings/Lilith.shtml
Edit:
Is there a consolation prize or something for the one who wins this contest? Lol.
Further edit:
I suppose I should expound a bit. People change. We were equally yoked when we first married. We had overall a very happy marriage with 2 beautiful children. She was a beautiful woman who loved the outdoors, she worked hard, and as well she was a modern feminist. I was a climber who loved the outdoors. I was a classic textbook example of the "The Prodigal Son." I buried my faith and walked away from G-d many years ago after I went into the Army and then into college. I was lonely and I wanted a wife, feminist or not. But a few years ago I came back to HaShem. I wanted to be the husband I knew I could be and the father I could be. Long story short, we no longer saw eye to eye on many issues. We were no longer equally yoked. I was still happy to be married and to be with her, but she wasn't with me. You can't have 2 heads at the head of a house-hold, with a believer and non-believer. It doesn't work well.
Rabbi Shaul, aka Paul the Apostle, gives a midrash on this very topic. He should know. He was a member of the Jewish Sanhedrin, and to be a member of the Sanhedrin you must be married. When Rabbi Shaul was called to Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus Christ) he lost all, including his very devout Jewish wife. More than likely she divorced him after he accepted Yeshua as the Messiah.
1 Corinthians 7:12-16 (KJV)
[12] But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
[13] And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
[14] For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
[15] But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
[16] For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
One thing for sure that has come out of this, I'm a lot more compassionate with people who have suffered divorce. I know what its like. I now have a great deal of empathy and compassion. Nothing like going through it to take the blinders off.
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blahblah
Gym climber
Boulder
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Interesting, Klimmer.
I know a gal who says she was married 30 years and 26 of them were hell.
That's like the one-liner:
I've been married for 5 wonderful years . . . . . . . 10 total.
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Inner City
Trad climber
East Bay
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climber gf from olden days left me for a guy she said could do 'one armed pullups"
I said, "oh he's a climber?"
"No," she said, "not yet"
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SalNichols
Big Wall climber
Richmond, CA
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My wife was civilized, she just left with all of our stuff when I was on a biz trip. The LTR after that ended when she left pics of her bosses dick on my laptop. (Top that one). The last ltr ended via txt msg...
I have to quit dating redheads...
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SicMic
climber
two miles from Eldorado
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While I've been on the receiving side of bad breaks, I'll also admit to being a jerk instigator in some other break ups. Details aren't juicy enough for this crowd, but let's agree that it hurts.
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Jennie
Trad climber
Elk Creek, Idaho
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Sullly, that was excellent writing...perhaps you would consider re-posting it for others edification.
(...appreciating the daring it takes, baring one's heart to an often cheeky audience)
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lubbockclimber
Trad climber
lubbock,tx
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"We'll, I'm from Lubbock and have never really done any thing" wait a minute here stitch whats going on around here. Do we know some of the same people lol?
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lubbockclimber
Trad climber
lubbock,tx
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Wow and frank I once was dating a girl who always wanted horse finally left for someone who could buy her a ponie.
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nature
climber
Boulder, CO
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I'm not sure this is ghetto but....
how about when it's her decision that i'm doing to dump her so she's decided already that i've dumped her.
or something....
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ladyscarlett
Trad climber
SF Bay Area, California
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Had a climbing partner take down his side of the a simul rap before I got to the ground.
Basically got to the ground 20 ft ahead of me (no quickdraws clipping us together) and once he got to the ground, looked up, and released his side of the rope on our simul rap. Luckily I was within a few feet of a small ledge 20ft off the ground when he went off rappel, and was able to down climb the rest of the way, so in many ways, no harm, no foul.
That was a pretty ghetto to tell a climbing partner your don't like climbing with her. But it was pretty successful. I never climbed with him alone again.
Another reason among many that simul-rapping is dangerous.
2p
LS
ps- thanks for sharing folks...it's enlightening!
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ladyscarlett
Trad climber
SF Bay Area, California
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I can TRY to direct thread drift back ON topic, can't I?
'Sides...some of the worst break ups I've seen (and this is probably because I'm a young tender climber) were climbing break ups...
from the fights, to the tantrums, all the way to the official break up moment.
Sure, it gets crazy with all those sexually intimate relationships...
but shite gets real when the ropes, harnesses, nut tools, and gear start getting involved...
Just trying to keep it climbing related! ;)
Cheers
LS
ps - sides....this thread will die probably about now! ;)
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nature
climber
Boulder, CO
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naw... it lives.
my only piece of advice LS..... rap fast and unclip even faster.
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zip
Trad climber
pacific beach, ca
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It's all good.
We're back together.
It appears she was abducted by aliens or she needed me to loan her $1500 to get her transmission fixed.
Thanks for everyone's input.
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Wade Icey
Trad climber
www.alohashirtrescue.com
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Oct 26, 2013 - 06:20pm PT
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I moved to the nylon ghetto in 1980 with my longtime girlfriend. She dumped me within a week. It was the beginning of a beautiful romance.
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Phil_B
Social climber
Hercules, CA
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Oct 27, 2013 - 04:59am PT
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When I was in grad school, I rented a room in a house of a married couple.
A couple of weeks after I moved in, they started having fights where they were yelling at each other. I went outside to hang with the dogs.
One day I come home and there's nothing in the house. I thought we'd been burglarized. There was nothing in there. The curtains were gone, the stove out, the dishwasher removed.
I went into my room and everything was still there. I went out and looked in the garage. The shelves had been removed.
Even the soap had been taken from the shower.
My roommate had been working two jobs to pay for stuff. I guess it wasn't enough. . .
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jstan
climber
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Oct 27, 2013 - 12:11pm PT
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Predumping
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Bruce Morris
Social climber
Belmont, California
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Oct 27, 2013 - 01:37pm PT
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She retired from the "business" and went back to school.
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defective detective
Trad climber
da gunks
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Oct 27, 2013 - 03:04pm PT
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using the word 'ghetto' such as did the op is seriously some passive-aggressive racism
i bet some of your best friends are black, too, eh?
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climbski2
Mountain climber
Anchorage AK, Reno NV
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Oct 27, 2013 - 03:24pm PT
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using the word 'ghetto' such as did the op is seriously some passive-aggressive racism
i bet some of your best friends are black, too, eh?
LOL nice troll attempt.. as if using any possibly culturally non-white anglo saxon terminology implies racism.
Feck unless we all talk in proper bbc english we might be racist
Never seen a more appropriate screen name.
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TGT
Social climber
So Cal
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Oct 27, 2013 - 03:41pm PT
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Etymology
Dictionaries list a number of possible origins for the originally Italian term, including "gheto" or "ghet", which means slag or waste in Venetian, and was used in this sense in a reference to a foundry where slag was stored located on the same island as the area of Jewish confinement (the Venetian Ghetto),[2] and borghetto, diminutive of borgo 'borough'.[3] Others theorize that the word is derived from the Hebrew word get, a divorce or separation document.
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Ezra Ellis
Trad climber
North wet, and Da souf
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Mar 30, 2014 - 06:25pm PT
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Bump
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zip
Trad climber
pacific beach, ca
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Mar 30, 2014 - 06:27pm PT
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haha
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GDavis
Social climber
SOL CAL
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Mar 30, 2014 - 06:33pm PT
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huh. I never knew Poland had black ghettos.
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Rankin
Social climber
Greensboro, North Carolina
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Mar 30, 2014 - 08:26pm PT
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The no call, no show is always painful, and I've been on the giving and receiving end of that move. The boot always hurts though if you're into the person.
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