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The Larry

climber
Moab, UT
Oct 30, 2013 - 06:40pm PT
Run Burchy run!!!
NutAgain!

Trad climber
South Pasadena, CA
Oct 30, 2013 - 06:41pm PT
http://www.amazon.com/The-New-Couple-Rules-Dont/dp/0062516337

anita514

Gym climber
Great White North
Oct 30, 2013 - 06:48pm PT
awwwwww
this is really sweet. congratulations! (or it that too soon?)
anita514

Gym climber
Great White North
Oct 30, 2013 - 06:57pm PT
well something did happen - you got back together. so consider this level 1 congrats?
neebee

Social climber
calif/texas
Oct 30, 2013 - 07:30pm PT
hey there say, burch3y...


me, being an older mom and granny, well, i will add the touch of caution here:

which is good for both you and the gal...

if it's been rocky off and on, for all these years, hopefully if you can, you both need to find the key points, as to what was wrong and have a
few practice sessions of fixing those areas... or, sadly, there will come
another breakup and it they can get worse, the longer you are together, if not dealt with...


hoping and wishing and praying for the best for you then...

say, can't you put the climbing gear in storage somewhere for awhile? this
is usually a big part of someone, and you may enjoy having it someday... :)
it's been part of who you are...


well, hope all goes well...

just remember, argue-habits are hard to break, and there is always an underlying reason, for many of them... or, even open blatant ones, that friends can help folks see, if the two-that-had-clashes, missed seeing what is wrong...

hope you both, can now nurture what is good...

god bless, i meant this well, not meaning to burst bubble, as the old saying goes...


:)
Brandon-

climber
The Granite State.
Oct 30, 2013 - 07:33pm PT
I killed a deer with a knife once.

This is actually a true story. It was the most sad thing I've ever been forced to do.
Vegasclimber

Trad climber
Las Vegas, NV.
Oct 30, 2013 - 09:51pm PT

its shame to see a relationship report with no detail
so what was climbing (grade)
how far were you out from belay
how many pros were used
was this a sport or trad
what was the belay device( atc, GG etc)
type of rope/age/size
your/her climbing experience level

along with bunch of other stuff
Jim Brennan

Trad climber
Vancouver Canada
Oct 30, 2013 - 10:26pm PT
Make sure your pants don't make you ass look fat, or it's over.
'Pass the Pitons' Pete

Big Wall climber
like Ontario, Canada, eh?
Oct 30, 2013 - 11:26pm PT
Dude,

If you are giving up climbing for someone because she doesn't want you to climb or doesn't accept you as a climber, then not only are you not being true to yourself, you are a total pussy.

NOBODY is worth that.

However if you are looking for an excuse to quit climbing, I guess you have it.

But you're not fooling any of us!
Jim Brennan

Trad climber
Vancouver Canada
Oct 30, 2013 - 11:29pm PT
That's right Pete. It's like being trolled by a 12 year old girl.
Sierra Ledge Rat

Mountain climber
Old and Broken Down in Appalachia
Oct 31, 2013 - 12:34am PT
I've been in a rollercoaster of a relationship - if she'll have me, I'll be proposing marriage sometime soon

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
RUN AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've been in a rollercoaster of a relationship

There is better stuff out there. I've been with my woman for 12 years and we've never had a fight. Don't put up with rollercoaster rides, you don't need to and shouldn't have to. When you find the right one, it's easy and mellow and there's no drama.
Jebus H Bomz

climber
Peavine Basecamp
Oct 31, 2013 - 12:40am PT
F*#k these emotionally stunted man boys and their fear of the pussy! You know you've been looking for a legit excuse to finally get away from these navel gazing Peter Pans, and an unsteady relationship is just the ticket!

I say tie the proverbial knot and get rid of the actual, you know, climbing knots in your life. You gotta grow up sometime dude, and listening to a bunch of overgrown reality dodgers isn't going to pay mama's bills, is it?

What most of them don't get is that an actually hot (not "climber hot") woman is well worth the sacrifice of your adolescent level hopes and dreams.

I realize we've never met, but can I, like, be your best man? I mean, I feel like I might know you. This means a lot to me right now, man. Do the right thing.

Good talk.
Tami

Social climber
Canada
Oct 31, 2013 - 12:44am PT
There is better stuff out there. I've been with my woman for 12 years and we've never had a fight. Don't put up with rollercoaster rides, you don't need to and shouldn't have to. When you find the right one, it's easy and mellow and there's no drama.

+1 for this.

+1 for what neebee wrote


Walk now before ya hafta run.

Don't ever sell yer climbing kit.

Ever.


L

climber
California dreamin' on the farside of the world..
Oct 31, 2013 - 09:40am PT
Burch3y,

My first inclination is to wish you well, because you sound like a committed relationship is something you sincerely want.

My second inclination is to warn you that, speaking from experience, the "drama thing" is an emotional hook. It's an adrenaline rush based on an emotional cycle. Love...fight...fear of loss...make up...love...fight...fear of loss...etc.

Many times it's a pattern we witnessed with our parents growing up, although not always. Being one who loves the thrill of adventure (ie. a rock climber), you're a natural for getting hooked on emotional rushes and thinking it's the real deal. (As I said, I speak from personal experience...more than once, too.)

The sad thing is, history shows that getting married seems to increase the drama thing rather than dissolve it. People start showing their true selves not long after the ceremony (thus the expression "The honeymoon's over"), and if colliding desires were part of the courtship, they will most certainly be part of the marriage.

You said up-thread that you were teasing about selling your climbing gear because she likes that you climb. This might be true...until it conflicts with her plans for you two to spend the weekend with the family, or house decorating, or at a baby shower, or any of a number of things. If the two of you haven't learned to have disagreements without someone walking out of the other one's life for a while...well...as you said, roller coaster ride.

Do you truly think you can live a happy, fulfilled life "forever after" on an emotional Screaming Eagle of Death?

You might want to think about waiting to pop the question until you've been able to stay together without heavy amounts of drama for six months. Or at least have a long engagement and see if that pulls you out of the amusement park style of romantic interactions.

I don't mean to dowse your dreams--seriously, I wish the best for you...but I've been through that cycle and it was an E-ticket ride nightmare.

Jaybro

Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
Oct 31, 2013 - 09:55am PT
emotional Screaming Eagle of Death?
I know you were describing a situation..but that really describes someone I know...
L

climber
California dreamin' on the farside of the world..
Oct 31, 2013 - 09:59am PT
Actually Jaybro...I was describing a man I once married. He was a major screamer, too, and made me occasionally wish I were dead. ;-)
Gary

Social climber
Desolation Basin, Calif.
Oct 31, 2013 - 09:59am PT
Has she asked you to go antiquing yet?
PAUL SOUZA

Trad climber
Central Valley, CA
Oct 31, 2013 - 11:22am PT
Is proposing somehow going to make things better? Just sayin...

:)
Jaybro

Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
Oct 31, 2013 - 11:32am PT
You know L, we should get them together! They were meant for each other! A match made in.... Somewhere!? Who are we to stand in the way of true, drama queen love?

They could climb Fisticuffs together!
L

climber
California dreamin' on the farside of the world..
Oct 31, 2013 - 12:03pm PT
"They could climb Fisticuffs together!"

Lol! Are you kiddin' me??? They'd prolly come to fisticuffs before ever climbing Fisticuffs. Just that kind of personality........disorder. ;-)
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