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Trad climber
San Diego
Topic Author's Original Post - Oct 8, 2013 - 12:28am PT
Does anyone ever regret getting divorced?

Anchorage Alaska
Oct 8, 2013 - 12:29am PT
Know why divorce is so expensive?

Because it's worth it!

Trad climber
San Diego
Topic Author's Reply - Oct 8, 2013 - 12:35am PT
Ok.. thats all I needed to know. Awesome.

Trad climber
SoCal Hodad, surfing the galactic plane
Oct 8, 2013 - 12:41am PT
Does anyone ever regret getting divorced?
perhaps yer kids, if ya have any. never been married, so i don't know. i do regret not getting married when i had the opportunity (was engaged). hope it works out for the best for you. maybe you will get back together after a little down time (or whatever its called).

Social climber
Hercules, CA
Oct 8, 2013 - 12:53am PT
Don't know about your case, but for me, it was the right thing to do. Hurt like hell, but I was forced to face some things about myself that I'd always been able to hide before.

Now, I look back on it as the push that led me to personal growth.

Do I regret it? Not a bit. Good luck. It's gonna suck for a while.

Mountain climber
In the middle of the ocean
Oct 8, 2013 - 12:58am PT
I always say I am happily divorced. It's the married ones who frown when I say it. They just don't understand!

Trad climber
Santa Cruz/New Zealand/South Pacific
Oct 8, 2013 - 01:00am PT
First is the worst
Second the same.
Third the best of all the game.

Social climber
joshua tree
Oct 8, 2013 - 01:39am PT
50 yrs old and I've never been married either! I've lost many a great gal, to what I would say is
honorability though. Marriage is a doctrine for a vow to commiting to become a family for the reason of procreation with a chosen spouse inwhich ur combined perspective will produce a better generated generation.

Without a vision to produce a growingly better loving future. The paper a marriage certificate ain't worth sh#t.

Marriage isn't rules, or laws written down on paper. It's the coherence between two hearts to combine inorder to procreate a baby so as to create a heart in ur offspring that is most admired by the parents. Idealistically.

Oct 8, 2013 - 01:47am PT
Wow, airing your grievances with your Ex on a public forum.

This is so new

so fresh.

I just need that little extra push

that hurtful thing

for me to share


Social climber
joshua tree
Oct 8, 2013 - 01:49am PT
Negotiating the terms of the divorce prior to marriage is good advice.

Sounds like good buisness. Doesn't sound like love.

Edit: Jstan, where'd ya go? I wasn't done with you yet ..

Trad climber
Salt Lake City
Oct 8, 2013 - 10:44am PT
Not for one minute. And I've had some practice at it.

Oct 8, 2013 - 10:50am PT
What I've regretted is getting involved in shitty relationships in the first place.

Mountain climber
honeoye falls,ny.greeneck alleghenys
Oct 8, 2013 - 10:54am PT
I just hope it is not cyclic.

Oct 8, 2013 - 10:58am PT
Done it twice. The first was my call, the second hers. Both were difficult; the second immensely painful (lost my marriage and business in the same day--we were partners). After the second divorce, I felt like I couldn't trust my own decision making.

They say it takes as long to get over a divorce and back healthy as you were married. (Ugh.)

Immediately after the second divorce, a close friend of mine told me two things that were told to him after his second divorce: (i) it couldn't have been any other way, and (ii) it was the best thing that could have happened. I cursed him violently, but six years later when I finally returned to being whole , I came to see . . . he was right.

No matter who did what, there's learning there for you. I think you have to get to that. That's the point of it all. If you don't get that, you'll return to the same place (or worse).
steve shea

Oct 8, 2013 - 11:03am PT
I had a practice lap. It was the best thing to split. I learned a lot and have had a good marriage with number two.

Kennewick wa
Oct 8, 2013 - 11:12am PT
marriage is like climbing:

some people flash it

some people redpoint it

some people never get it

and some people like off widths

Gym climber
South of Heaven
Oct 8, 2013 - 11:14am PT
50 yrs old and I've never been married

Gee, what a surprise!

Big Wall climber
Oct 8, 2013 - 11:34am PT
lol locker!

if one don't work get another one!
Jebus H Bomz

Peavine Basecamp
Oct 8, 2013 - 11:37am PT
Ah, c'mon, you can do better than fat jokes, Locker!

Well, maybe not ;).

I don't regret my divorce. It's crazy how the bottom falls out of your world for a while there though. The ex is happy and I'm happy for her. My wife and I now are very happy. The journey got interesting for a while but I am glad for the stretch of road I am on right now.

Big Wall climber
Terrapin Station
Oct 8, 2013 - 11:38am PT
Locker, ever think you drove them crazy???....

Oh well, good thing you kept YOUR looks together, BWA HA HA hahahaaa!!!
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