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Hankster

Social climber
Golden, CO
Apr 1, 2013 - 04:48pm PT
FULL on meltdown!! I was so proud of her for following all those back to back 5.11 pitches and she just wouldn't stop crying or smile for the camera. I got her to show 2 teeth worth of smile here.
Credit: Hankster

She started out sorta stoked!
Credit: Hankster

Great climbing/break-up/meltdown/relationship/climbing thread!
GDavis

Social climber
SOL CAL
Topic Author's Reply - Apr 1, 2013 - 04:48pm PT
My ex would cry at least once per long route. Always loved it afterwards. Not once made me feel like it was my fault (because, you know, she AGREED to go...).

A bad ass female friend of mine said that her and her girl friend, when they climb, sometimes after a hard pitch just have a good cry. Then they finish the route. Sounds a lot cooler than the brooding, angst-filled warblers dudes are prone to.
snowhazed

Trad climber
Oaksterdam, CA
Apr 1, 2013 - 07:36pm PT
I think I was on Scimitar at the Leap in '07 when I watched a couple rage at each other on East Crack or East Face or something over to the right of me.

The boyfriend was leading, maybe 50 feet out and still climbing as they screamed and screamed until finally the girl says "F#ck you this is over!!" as she continued to feed rope. BF still climbing "F#ck me?! F#ckme??!! No! F#ck you!!"

So f#cking funny.
snowhazed

Trad climber
Oaksterdam, CA
Apr 1, 2013 - 07:39pm PT
My climbing partner and I have joked about recreating the scene elsewhere to make some people believe we were gay and breaking up. Jared was going to add "Oh yeah! I've been cheating on you!!"
Leggs

Sport climber
Home away from Home
Apr 1, 2013 - 07:40pm PT
The boyfriend was leading, maybe 50 feet out and still climbing as they screamed and screamed until finally the girl says "F#ck you this is over!!" as she continued to feed rope. BF still climbing "F#ck me?! F#ckme??!! No! F#ck you!!"

So f#cking funny.


^^ that's some funny sh#t right there ^^

when I feel a melt down coming, I'll generally say "I need some quiet time ... please "
aspendougy

Trad climber
Los Angeles, CA
Apr 1, 2013 - 08:15pm PT
Reminds me of a sweet story that I heard about Beverley Johnsen. She was climbing something with Loyd Price that was fairly hard, and, well, being a little bit old and past his prime, Loyd was having an awful time of it. She pretended to struggle and have trouble as well, so as to not make him feel so bad.
shipoopoi

Big Wall climber
oakland
Apr 4, 2013 - 09:33am PT
lurking fear was the sight of probably our biggest wobbler. it was just so stressful, doing this big wall with my loved one. luckily there was nobody around to hear it. we got through it, and have since climbed el cap 21 more times together, but i wondered early on why i was stressing out our relationship with these big wall climbs. ss
MattF

Trad climber
Bend, Or
Apr 4, 2013 - 10:03am PT
For me it was "The Owl" on The Dome up in Boulder Canyon, but it was actually post breakup. I had dumped this girl I had dated for 2 years in July, but that spring I had promised her I would teach her how to climb that summer, so a few weeks after the breakup, she called me and asked if I would still take her climbing. I felt bad about dumping her and hurting her feelings so I agreed.

Worst idea ever... I was belaying her from the top of the first pitch, and there's about a 20' section of splitter 5.6 hands maybe 3/4 up the first pitch after doing a bunch of blocky climbing. She gets to that point, and sees that I haven't placed any gear at all in this crack so it must have been really easy for me, but she can't get into it, and so she starts freaking out and traverses way over to the right onto a big ledge and proceeds to start yelling up at me and crying. Soon her wobbler is exacerbated by the fact that now she's not sure if she can reverse the moves off the big ledge back into the crack, and there's a wall just next to the crack that if she weights the rope and tries to swing over she's going to pendulum right into that wall.

I can tell you one thing - I was definitely not the right person to be up on that belay ledge 50' above her while she was freaking out...

Also, a few more routes I've seen couples epic on - First pitch of After Six, Bishop's Terrace, and then up here at Smith - Pioneer Route on the Monkey (hard/scary overhanging bolt ladder...), Zebra Zion, Gumby, Cruel Sister, and Full Nine Gallon Buckets.
bjj

climber
beyond the sun
Apr 4, 2013 - 11:04am PT
I flat out refuse to take any girl I am dating climbing, unless she has been climbing *outside* for at least a year prior to my having met her.

Under no circumstances will I take someone even toproping because "they always wanted to try it". That's 99% of the time code for "I just want to be around you no matter what the activity". Or possibly "I know there's hot girls out there, and I want to keep an eye on you".

There is just waaaaay too much potential for things going sideways. Besides that, my climbing is my "me time". Why would I want a girl around 24/7? That's how people end up sick of each other.

However, all bets are off if the girl really is into climbing and likes to go of her own volition since before I knew her.

About 15 years ago when I was living in Tahoe, I briefly dated a very strong female climber. One of our first hangs was a trip to lover's leap where she wanted to take a try leading "mainline" an old Bachar, Kauk, Smith route that went at fairly stiff 5.11 and with small fiddly gear. Technical and intimidating.

The girl sketched her way through it, nervous as hell about climbing past teeny cams. She almost pitched, then pulled it together and fired it off! I could hear her whooping for joy at the top. I managed to follow cleanly and when I arrived at the top, we were both so amped up, we were close to just tearing off our harnesses and clothing and going at it right then and there.

That's pretty much the only kind of girl I would want to climb with. No offense to anyone else.
supafly

Trad climber
vancouver, bc
Apr 4, 2013 - 11:05am PT
the traverse pitch to the bottom of Banana Peel in Squam has caused many a dirty word to be said :)

My friend took his lady up there on her first multipitch and they made it no further than that traverse. Although to get off she had to reverse the whole traverse again!
ncskains

Ice climber
Alaska
Apr 4, 2013 - 11:09am PT
The boyfriend was leading, maybe 50 feet out and still climbing as they screamed and screamed until finally the girl says "F#ck you this is over!!" as she continued to feed rope. BF still climbing "F#ck me?! F#ckme??!! No! F#ck you!!"

So f#cking funny.

And the next thing you here, is "NO F#Ck You, Off Belay" lol

LuckyPink

climber
the last bivy
Apr 4, 2013 - 11:25am PT
ho man.. the microcosm of relationship. Once my partner and I were on an easy cruiser in RR and we are simul-ing passing other parties and we come up on a burnt out girlfriend belaying the boyfriend leader who is struggling like crazy breaking out in sweat 3/4 of the rope out. She's angry and done, he's calling directions on how to clean back to her, in between "take". Finally she just takes him off belay and sits back and starts to cry. She thinks he is secured. We can see that he is not. We get him back on belay and give her a hug , partner climbs up and secures boyfriend at top, secures upper belay to gf , I climb up and clean everyone's gear and get them started on the descent,while the fuming is still going on. In the meantime , over our walkie talkies, we can hear ANOTHER couple screaming back and forth at each other over their radios full on fight while climbing AND then a friend of ours comes on the radio to say "hey you guys are going at it what's up" thinking it's us fighting (which later becomes a whole gossip thing that my partner and I were fighting on this route.. lol). But our friend cannot make contact with us on the right band , we can't tell him what's up. We can just hear all these other parties. SO, we are chuckling with each other, having a great time, and on the descent we decide that with all these frustrated noobs we better check below the route in the deep shrubs and SURE ENOUGH ! MEGA big booty, new cams found, a #3 and a #2 , good locking carabiner on a sling and a nut all scattered around apparently dropped from above over the last few weeks. SCORE on Meltdown Sunday
Tod

Trad climber
Idaho
Apr 4, 2013 - 11:34am PT
Speaking of Tunnel Vision;
Was trying to do Group Therapy in that area with my girlfriend. Her first multipitch.
Short version: Off route from first pitch; kept going through long run outs and really crappy belays to top out. When I stopped for a bite to eat she just looked at me and said; "Get us the f*#k out of here!"
She was a trooper though; didn't cry until the descent. Wasn't likely a first ascent but we called it "Pre-marital Counseling" anyways. Been married ten years and she still won't do more than sport climb with me!
RealOldTradClimber

Trad climber
Greenfield, NH
Apr 4, 2013 - 12:04pm PT
I was once climbing a very pleasant, and well-protected face route with my wife (who was indeed quite happy on it) and about 50 feet to one side of us was another couple climbing a really dirty, unpleasant chimney route which the girlfriend, quite rightfully, was not really appreciating.

Finally she just screamed at her about-to-be-her-ex-boyfriend and yelled, "All I really wanted was a dinner and movie!" I think that was the end of that climb and the relationship!
Chip

Trad climber
Sittin' Pretty in Fat City
Apr 4, 2013 - 12:05pm PT
Shockley's Ceiling in the gunks. Every weekend.
yellowdog

Sport climber
Living in St. Louis but the Blue Ridge is home
Apr 4, 2013 - 01:52pm PT
My buddies and I didn't stick around to find out, but I think this was probably the beginning of a break up climb (or worse) in Foster Falls near Chattanooga, TN:

Credit: yellowdog
michaeld

Sport climber
Sacramento
Apr 4, 2013 - 02:11pm PT
Knapsack Crack in the middle of winter.

She couldn't feel her feet or hands.


We hung out between the two boulders by Monk's Rock for a bit to warm up.
adikted

Boulder climber
Tahooooeeeee
Apr 4, 2013 - 03:03pm PT
Took my first ex-girlfriend to table rock in NC for her first climb....she made it about one step up Jim Dandy 5.6?? Before she ripped into me in full crying why are you making me do this mode...needless to say after the bail we stashed the gear and went hiking while out other friends climbed...our relationship fizzled after that....lost a pair of trekking poles that day too.... Damn ex girlfriends!!

Greg
the Fet

climber
Tu-Tok-A-Nu-La
Apr 4, 2013 - 03:52pm PT
A party of two was lowering off of Haley's Comet I believe, to the left of the first pitch of After Six. The boyfriend went down on one line and was starting to lower the girlfriend from the belay ledge at the top of the first pitch of after six.

-Umm, you can't lower from there.
-GF: WHAT??!!
-BF: Huh? Yes we can. -Still lowering.
-No, it's too far.
-GF: Wait! Stop!
-You'll run out of rope and she'll be stuck or be dropped
-GF: You need to stop!
-BF: No, it's fine.
-GF: STOP!

GF batmans back up 15 feet to the ledge. PISSED. I hope she dumped the guy. When someone is telling you don't do something because you might kill your girlfriend you DON'T get defensive and ignore them.
TheTye

Trad climber
Sacramento CA
Apr 4, 2013 - 04:15pm PT
My GF and I started climbing at the same time so I think we are doing really well at handling each other when she starts getting burnt out and cranky...

We have summer plans to do a handful of long moderates and I have been trying to workout in my head how I am going to delicately motivate her when we are 7 pitches up with several to go and she hits the wall...

It's funny how that is an important part of my training...



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