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Gunkie
Trad climber
East Coast US
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Topic Author's Original Post - Dec 28, 2012 - 03:59pm PT
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... does anyone else find this uncomfortable?
[Click to View YouTube Video]
If everyone involved is good emotionally after such a tragedy, then more power to them. I'm just a different person and have never had a relationship that would allow me to pursue this situation. Well, maybe when I was an undergraduate after a night of binge drinking and my best friend's GF was hot and.... nevermind. 15 minutes of shame.
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TrundleBum
Trad climber
Las Vegas
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Dec 28, 2012 - 04:21pm PT
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Not at all !!!!
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Patrick Sawyer
climber
Originally California now Ireland
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Dec 28, 2012 - 04:38pm PT
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+1 ^^^
I thought it was an interesting video.
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rockermike
Trad climber
Berkeley
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Dec 28, 2012 - 04:50pm PT
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looks like interesting film.
I would rather not speculated about the implications of marrying one's best friend's wife. Should be a private thing IMHO.
If you want to think about survivor's guilt, I just watched a film "Primo", a one man stage enactment of Primo Levi's book "If This Is a Man". About surviving Auschwitz. In brief, it seems the real heroes didn't. Anyway, one of the most arresting films I've ever watched. Produced by the National Theater.
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10b4me
Boulder climber
Somewhere on 395
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Dec 28, 2012 - 04:53pm PT
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not sure what you are getting at, well actually I am, but I think this is a rehash of something that's been discussed many times. I think it's a personal matter that has obviously been resolved.
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tooth
Trad climber
B.C.
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Dec 28, 2012 - 04:57pm PT
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nope
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ß Î Ø T Ç H
Boulder climber
bouldering
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Dec 28, 2012 - 05:14pm PT
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swa this awhile ago, and I agree with OP
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SCseagoat
Trad climber
Santa Cruz
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Dec 28, 2012 - 05:28pm PT
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I see no issue whatsoever. Especially when one lives an extreme lifestyle and families have been close there is a deep understanding of what drives a person. Jennifer wrote a beautiful book Forget Me Not . She clearly had a deep and profound love for Alex. There are not many partnerships that can endure the rigors of what each brought to the new union...yet they have flourished in honoring Alex's memory and progressing with their own family. Requires a maturity that many people just can't seem to bring to a relationship. To often we get stuck in me me me. I don't think it's been easy, especially being in the public eye, but a memory that is honored and lives that move forward...
Susan
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nita
Social climber
chica de chico, I don't claim to be a daisy.
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Dec 28, 2012 - 06:50pm PT
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I see no issue whatsoever
Just put yourself in the shoes of both of these men. Who BETTER to take care of your family than a treasured friend.. +3
IMO....Ron Anderson is absolute right......
besides, it is a private matter..not our business..
ps..hey SCseagoat, do you still have the book, and can i borrow it?
edit:.Tami....Big.. thumbs-up.
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graniteclimber
Trad climber
The Illuminati -- S.P.E.C.T.R.E. Division
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Dec 28, 2012 - 09:25pm PT
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I don't find it uncomfortable at all. This is a lame thread.
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grover
climber
Northern Mexico
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Dec 28, 2012 - 10:10pm PT
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An ex-co-worker of mine married his brothers wife(with 2 young kids) after watching him die in a motorcycle accident.
Noble, I'd say.
agreed Granite, this thread IS lame.
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Fletcher
Trad climber
The rock doesn't care what I think
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Dec 28, 2012 - 10:29pm PT
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Maybe if you only deal with this as a sound bite and know little of the full lifetimes of details around it (not saying that I know anything of the relationships involved).
Doesn't bother me in the least.
I was going to mention the practice (more of a yesteryear thing likely) of a brother marrying his brother's widow and Grover just did note that. I think this may have happened quite a bit in the Civil War time (my only reference off the top of my head for that is the show Deadwood, though!).
Eric
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SicMic
climber
two miles from Eldorado
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Dec 28, 2012 - 11:01pm PT
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Yeah, it's just you.
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turd
climber
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Dec 28, 2012 - 11:13pm PT
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You are aware that Conrad posts here?
The presence of this thread makes me a lot more uncomfortable than the video, which doesn't at all.
Maybe you should consider shitcanning it.
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TGT
Social climber
So Cal
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Dec 28, 2012 - 11:16pm PT
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Lookin' like it's just you...
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Studly
Trad climber
WA
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Dec 29, 2012 - 12:12am PT
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Salute to Conrad, he seems to me a noble man.
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apogee
climber
Technically expert, safe belayer, can lead if easy
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Dec 29, 2012 - 01:28am PT
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"Should be a private thing IMHO."
Yep.
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Ihateplastic
Trad climber
It ain't El Cap, Oregon
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Dec 29, 2012 - 01:44am PT
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I just didn't like seeing Alex being edited out. That was a bit creepy.
I knew Alex and climbed with him in Bozeman. Took a hike with him and the family not long before his accident. The hike served as a way to interview him for a Climbing magazine article that I never felt comfy doing after that.
A great guy. And one of the most born-to-climb guys I ever knew. It always amazed me to see him throw a 60#-plus pack on his shoulders and take off with those wire-thin legs of his at a pace that I couldn't match with a daypack.
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healyje
Trad climber
Portland, Oregon
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Dec 29, 2012 - 02:30am PT
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Is it just me, or does anyone else think this thread is unbelievably inappropriate and should be deleted as soon as possible.
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Ihateplastic
Trad climber
It ain't El Cap, Oregon
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Dec 29, 2012 - 02:36am PT
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Don't usually like seeing threads deleted since it is a form of censorship but agree with Joseph on this one.
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weezy
climber
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Dec 29, 2012 - 02:52am PT
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seems kinda childish and covetous to feel "uncomfortable" about this kind of situation. unless you are hanging on to some ancient "my woman = my property" sort of morality, or a sophmore in the throes of a tragic breakup. maybe gunkie is just trying out his new Fisher Price Internet Trolling Kit™ he got for xmas.
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Jan
Mountain climber
Okinawa, Japan
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Dec 29, 2012 - 03:05am PT
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I'm really sorry this thread didn't focus on the wonderful work of Conrad's climbing school and workshops for Sherpas which has saved countless Sherpa lives. The Sherpas themselves are certainly cognizant of the decline in fatalities thanks to knowing some mountaineering technique now.
I also know a lot about the guilt of the survivor. It's endemic to everyone who shares a pursuit at which someone else who was more skilled than they, dies, and they are left alive.
And then there's the issue of remarriage. How is it that people who support gay marriage frown at widow remarriage? As an anthropologist I can tell you that many societies including the Hebrew Old Testament, mandate marrying a brother's widow. That's why it's called the levirate. Many other warrior societies like the Plains Indians had such agreements between ceremonial brothers as well. Then there are the agricultural societies like India and China that mandated life long widowhood even for teenage widows. Which do you think brought about greater human happiness and productivity?
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Sierra Ledge Rat
Mountain climber
Old and Broken Down in Appalachia
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Dec 29, 2012 - 08:14am PT
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I was on an expedition where half of our six-man team was killed. I had survivor's guilt for 3 decades. I thought that the other survivors hated me.
Then I met the other survivors 30 years later - and one of the widows, and his 30 year-old daughter who was in utero at the time of his death. The warm reception that I received was very healing, and I realize now that I had nothing to do with the accident.
I wish that I had known about survivor's guilt 30 years ago.
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hb81
climber
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Dec 29, 2012 - 08:32am PT
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Hey, lets judge other peoples life choices on an anonymous internet forum, it's great fun!
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