Human Kindness and Dignity. Play it forward.


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Trad climber
Black Rock City
Oct 1, 2012 - 09:05am PT
Dignity would be completely ignoring comments by people who don't get it.

The Granite State.
Oct 1, 2012 - 09:07am PT
Point taken.

Trad climber
Oct 2, 2012 - 09:12pm PT
Kindness...doesn't even begin to touch on the love given freely to me during the Facelift. For every cynical poster here on the Taco there are 100s more so generous in spirit that cynicism doesn't stand a chance.

I wanted to take part in the Facelift to meet and thank so many folks who have made the discovery that both of my birth parents were gone before I had a chance to know them an awe-inspiring journey. But even more, I wanted to, in some small way, give something of myself in humble apprecietion.

What meant the most to me? Couldn't say...every time I turned around there was someone there offering me something of him/herself...a hug, a smile, a nudge of encouragement, a hilarious joke, understanding, an anecdote about Ann or Dolt, a treasured piece of shared history with Dolt, an unforgettable experience feeling my way up rock Dolt once climbed, a shoulder when I found myself overwhelmed...

I'm still processing and will post a TR, but read this thread and felt compelled to share what it feels like to be on the receiving end. I am deeply grateful.


Mountain climber
The Other Monrovia- CA
Oct 2, 2012 - 09:27pm PT
Dignity and respect:

Credit: Reilly

Credit: Reilly

Social climber
Oct 2, 2012 - 10:27pm PT
Kindness and dignity are an attitude summoned from deep in your spirit.

Thanks for this Bruce, it reminds me that it has been too long since I volunteered. It used to be a part of my weekly schedule.

Trad climber
Fumbling towards stone
Oct 6, 2012 - 12:12am PT
Appreciating all of your contributions here.

Sometimes it's the simple stuff. Last week, I'm heading in for a much needed shower at Curry Village and the attendant sez, "The guy who just went in paid for you." That was tyeary who did that, a kind and generous spirit. Wasn't necessary at all, but made my day. I think he appreciates that I can see the darkness, the light and all the shades of gray in between within him and think it's all good. Heck, without all that, Steichen, Weston, Adams and many others would be unknown.

When I lived in Asia, I spent some time in India and some in Nepal. The poverty and conditions one would see were heart wrenching on a level previously unimagined by this traveller. But the warmth, kindness and generosity I often encountered there made me realize that while economically poor, in other aspects those places were amongst wealthiest on earth. Subsequently, my eye better trained now, I've seen the same all over the world and just down the street.

It doesn't take much to give really. A welcoming smile and acknowledgment to a stranger can do wonders. And the act of giving frees up space for more "riches" to flow to you. Then you can continue passing that along and the cycle continues.

Lilabiene... take your time as you have so much to process. If and when you are ready, I look forward to your TR! You have already given so much to so many here just by telling your story. Conrad Anker made a good observation: what we do is about a shared experience. The level of skill and commitment vary widely, but we all come away with a similar set of feelings from our adventures on and around stone, snow, and ice. A connection is made and easily recognized.

I had better stop now. I fear I am becoming a yammering,rambling fool. Maybe I already am! Ha!


Mountain climber
alis volat propriis
Oct 7, 2012 - 12:35pm PT
you know, in hindsight i shouldn't have shared about being punched by a client. it probably sounds shocking to people outside of this profession. it does happen sometimes in this field. this is a level 14 facility which is one step below juvenile hall. we work with volatile clients who we sometimes have to physically restrain and they often go down swinging. we document everything carefully - we file a report with the state anytime we put hands on a client.

to be honest, someone (me) getting punched a few times is far less harm coming to a person than the harm that could befall these girls once they go back to the streets, so if i end up taking a shot here and there i'm not too worried about it. it happens - my supervisor shared a story with me yesterday about being punched in the face on her birthday. i've been there 3 months and this is the first time it's happened to me so i was in a bit of shock but minus some soreness on the side of my head i'm fine now. this work is hard and sometimes dangerous - that's just how it is and it's probably better not to discuss it with people who don't work in the field.

we got this client back, thanks to teamwork and the local sheriff. typically runaways are either stopped by staff or returned to us by LEOs, which is good because these clients have another chance to make different choices next time. i hope the client who struck me learns new skills because punching someone when you're mad is not going to get you far in the real world. and there's the piece of god in all of this - we have her back and she has access to help and the opportunity to learn those skills.
Peter Haan

Trad climber
San Francisco, CA
Oct 7, 2012 - 01:15pm PT

Even in the most literal sense, happiness IS cherishing others. The real stuff actually comes from no other place.

Oct 7, 2012 - 02:09pm PT
Renny Jane Ang 2011
Renny Jane Ang 2011
Credit: Conrad

be good ~ be kind ~ be happy

nice thread
Big Mike

Trad climber
Oct 7, 2012 - 03:08pm PT
Awesome thread Bruce,

People are giving and helping on the other side of the dam too, there's still a dugnad spirit, but they seldom tell anybody outside their own family about their kindness and dignity. Telling other people how kind and dignified you are, is seen as bragging, or as putting nice feathers in the hat to look a little better or in some cases - putting lipstick on the bulldog.

I think sometimes some people forget that posting about this stuff inspires others to follow suit, and therefore is much more valuable than just "Bragging".

I myself try to be nice to everyone, treat my employees with respect, and pay them well... I also have mentored quite a few climbers/snowboarders/sledders but I know I should do more...

Gym climber
Oct 7, 2012 - 03:25pm PT
"you know, in hindsight i shouldn't have shared about being punched by a client. it probably sounds shocking to people outside of this profession"...

You're working at the Holiday Inn compared to where and who I worked with...

Getting punch by a client/patient ain't no big thang...



and in my opinion (and that of MANY others), it's fine to discuss situations, so long as names are left out...

Federal Confidentiality and all...



and tr...

damned GOOD on you for taking on such a TOUGH career...

Big time...

"THUMBS UP!!!"...


Mountain climber
Anchorage AK, Reno NV
Oct 7, 2012 - 03:59pm PT
Tioga you picked a beautiful screen name for to me a sacred place

What can we do? DO you have a better answer than finding a way to serve? There are those in need wherever one takes the time to look.

We are them and they are us.

Only one person can make a difference


Mountain climber
alis volat propriis
Oct 7, 2012 - 11:10pm PT
thanks for the props locker. it wasn't the confidentiality issue that spurred me to consider whether to discuss with people outside the field - after all, our organization policy is basically what you expressed - but it seems like people who aren't in the mental health field get worried when they hear about it. yeah, she punched me in the head and face, and i have some bruises and it hurt, but i'm not traumatized or anything - startled yes, traumatized, no - and it's really less harm coming to a person than what could have befallen her had she completed her runaway attempt to a more familiar lifestyle. i'm fine and ready to play it off like it was nothing, because the best way that i can help this person is to treat her with human kindness and dignity! it's her choice to decide how to act - and this is what i hope she learns - she HAS choices.

Oct 8, 2012 - 12:18am PT
This is a really nice read.

I keep a pair of jumper cables under my seat & am always happy to use them.

One time when i was very young my moms & I were stuck on the side of the highway between Chase & Kamloops in August (hot). The tire on our boat trailer or truck(cant remember, doesnt matter) had blew on the way back from the lake & pops had hitched a ride into town to fix it or something. We're just roasting, waiting sitting on the shady side of the truck & this lady pulls up, gets out & walk up to us all serious. She pulls out a ice cold can of Pepsi & gives it to my mom. My mom says thanks & she tells us to have a good day. My parents never let us drink pop at all. Best fkkin pepsi in my life. That lady taught me something very special.
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