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bvb

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flagstaff arizona

Jun 4, 2012 - 02:18am PT

Damn, Anastasia. Ths is a guy I would have really, really loved to meet.

mcreel

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Barcelona

Jun 4, 2012 - 05:58am PT

I was going to say the same as bvb, you don't meet people like that every day.

Patrick Sawyer

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Originally California now Ireland

Jun 4, 2012 - 06:33am PT

Anastasia, great photos. Warm memories for you, I know you will keep them in your heart. Best Wishes

Patrick

Tony Bird

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Northridge, CA

Jun 4, 2012 - 12:09pm PT

ah, i see--your parents were both greek movie stars.

wonderful thread, anastasia. my parents came out of the same conflict, but i'm afraid they weren't quite as "together". a well-lived life is the best we can ask for, to look back at, to leave as memories for those we've touched.

somehow, i think i was greek in a previous life. always loved greek music, and recently developed much interest in the great song opus of mikis theodorakis, reviving enough of my knowledge of the language to appreciate the songwriting and greek poetry which he set to song. such a struggle the greeks have had, but so often they've done well with it. gia sou for your dad.

and neebee's portrait--wow!

Fletcher

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Fumbling towards stone

Jun 4, 2012 - 12:22pm PT

Love the new photos. They speak much.

Now I am still waiting for my Dad to walk through the door, make me haul in the groceries, clean up, etc. I can still smell him in the house.

Know this feeling well. My father-in-law passed on six years ago and there are times when I do certain things, or see my kids, his family or my wife doing stuff and it makes me stop and think, "Damn, Hank's here!" That presence can make us feel sad still at times, since we really miss him and I don't think that will ever end. But more and more, I find these little moments uplifting; they put a smile on my face.

Big hugs,
Eric

Anastasia

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Topic Author's Reply - May 18, 2013 - 04:45pm PT

Here is to a year of missing you a whole lot Dad.

I think it's a bit worse since after losing my Mom, I at least still had him. Now that he is gone, yeah... It's a very different world without one's parents.

I know many of you understand, have been through it too. It's weird, eh?

Norton

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the Wastelands

May 18, 2013 - 05:34pm PT

I think I know how you feel

I lost my father 16 years ago and my mother at 97 this past September

you and I are orphans now!

every single day I think of my mom and dad, what they said and how they lived

like your folks they were from the Greatest Generation

we honor them by living as they lived, with empathy and compassion for all living things

I can tell from your words that they were very proud of you!

Michelle

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1187 Hunterwasser

May 18, 2013 - 06:20pm PT

Mom's goodbye date is challenging for me, after several years. I am a lot closer to my dad now and I wonder what it will be like when he goes. I'm glad you share what you're going through as it helps me to know other people are in the same boat. Take care!

Off White

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Tenino, WA

May 18, 2013 - 06:34pm PT

Thanks for sharing those stories, I guess we know where you got some of your character, eh? Here's to a life lived well, a reminder of what we all should strive for.

Anastasia

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Topic Author's Reply - May 18, 2013 - 06:43pm PT

Thanks Michelle,

It's a weird day, Aris is sick too so it's been a little rough. I don't know the answers about death. All I know is time just keeps going, the trash gets picked up, the bills pile up, and even when there is a great loss... Everyone keeps moving... Sometimes I want to yell out, make people notice each other, take a second to value their own time, their own lives since it's passing so fast. I want to yell at them, make them not waste it. Tell folks who you love that you LOVE THEM. Now is the time to experience your big dream, tomorrow might not be there. What annoys some folks, angers them, makes them feel righteous... Does it really matter? Really? On their death bed, will they really be caring about it? Most of it is so stupid. A big waste of time. Instead do what makes you feel good, what makes you feel free. Instead go love and be loved, enjoy this life.

It is what one really should be focusing on.

Fletcher

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The great state of advaita

May 18, 2013 - 08:19pm PT

There is great power in the way you conduct yourself, in your words, in your insights. No doubt that your parents played a great role in that. And you have shown us a small glimpse into how that came about. Their gifts to you are vast... not just to you, not just to your family, but to all of us. I believe we can affect people we barely know in profound ways, sometimes, we don't even know that we've done it. Such is the case your wonderful family makes.

Peace and love to you today. Yes, kids still have their needs and wants calling to us. Know that well. In spite of it all, life carries on. That you can reflect will eventually, if not already, be picked up by them as well. And the wheel continues to spin.

Eric

phylp

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Millbrae, CA

May 19, 2013 - 12:18pm PT

It's a very different world without one's parents.

May 18th was my Dad's birthday. He's been gone since 2004. Mom's been gone for 25 years. But on certain days, it still feels like yesterday. Yesterday that they held you, laughed with you, yelled at you, loved you, made you crazy, filled your heart and made you feel safe. Yesterday that they passed from here, in this moment - tangible, audible - to there.

If you had good parents (not everyone has, and I'm sorry for that), what you remember the most was the feeling of being loved, and of being taken care of, of being held in that way that a parent holds a child.

Best wishes, Phyl