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Trad climber
washington indiana
Jun 2, 2012 - 02:10pm PT
What a beautiful tribute.

Trad climber
New Durham, NH
Jun 2, 2012 - 02:20pm PT
What a beautiful life, Anastasia.

My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family.

Topic Author's Reply - Jun 4, 2012 - 01:43am PT
I don't need to know a family to be aware of how great the love is. It's always there beyond any b.s. etc. It exist even beyond a person's life. That is the all powerful bond between children and parents. Sometimes it is not well expressed, it sure is always felt.

Now I am still waiting for my Dad to walk through the door, make me haul in the groceries, clean up, etc. I can still smell him in the house. Yet I know he is gone and with it (since my mother died two years ago,) my ability to come back to the family that raised me. I am going to take a while to adjust. Even though I've known loss, this one isn't easier. All I know is it will take time and some weird reactions.

Here's to my Daddy and Mom.

Mom and Dad. :&#41;
Mom and Dad. :)
Credit: Anastasia

Dad playing with us in the mountains.
Dad playing with us in the mountains.
Credit: Anastasia

Tripping in Zion. :&#41;
Tripping in Zion. :)
Credit: Anastasia

Trad climber
Elk Creek, Idaho
Jun 4, 2012 - 02:01am PT
Very handsome and kindly looking couple.

Social climber
flagstaff arizona
Jun 4, 2012 - 02:18am PT
Damn, Anastasia. Ths is a guy I would have really, really loved to meet.

Jun 4, 2012 - 05:58am PT
I was going to say the same as bvb, you don't meet people like that every day.
Patrick Sawyer

Originally California now Ireland
Jun 4, 2012 - 06:33am PT
Anastasia, great photos. Warm memories for you, I know you will keep them in your heart. Best Wishes


Trad climber
June Lake, California....via the Damascus Road
Jun 4, 2012 - 10:05am PT
"It was a good end, despite my feelings of great loss... Dad left this life with dignity and grace."

Anastasia, first of all, my condolences on the loss of your father....may he rest in peace, and may you and your family find solace in his memory.

Your description of him in your OP had me in tears, as I believe your Dad lived the ultimate 'man's man' kinda life. He rose up against adversity, faced it with dignity, and did not shirk responsibility despite much difficulty.

To me, that is the epitome of what it is to be a man, and your words that I posted above sum it up perfectly.....something I call "finishing strong".

It sounds as if your Dad did that in every sense of the word, and for that, he has my deepest respect. I aspire to follow in that form.

With apologies to Mark Hudon and his live reporting from El Cap, this thread is now the best thing going here at ST.

Thanks for sharing your heart with us, Anastasia....and the very best to you and your family.


Tony Bird

Northridge, CA
Jun 4, 2012 - 12:09pm PT
ah, i see--your parents were both greek movie stars.

wonderful thread, anastasia. my parents came out of the same conflict, but i'm afraid they weren't quite as "together". a well-lived life is the best we can ask for, to look back at, to leave as memories for those we've touched.

somehow, i think i was greek in a previous life. always loved greek music, and recently developed much interest in the great song opus of mikis theodorakis, reviving enough of my knowledge of the language to appreciate the songwriting and greek poetry which he set to song. such a struggle the greeks have had, but so often they've done well with it. gia sou for your dad.

and neebee's portrait--wow!

Trad climber
Fumbling towards stone
Jun 4, 2012 - 12:22pm PT
Love the new photos. They speak much.

Now I am still waiting for my Dad to walk through the door, make me haul in the groceries, clean up, etc. I can still smell him in the house.

Know this feeling well. My father-in-law passed on six years ago and there are times when I do certain things, or see my kids, his family or my wife doing stuff and it makes me stop and think, "Damn, Hank's here!" That presence can make us feel sad still at times, since we really miss him and I don't think that will ever end. But more and more, I find these little moments uplifting; they put a smile on my face.

Big hugs,

Topic Author's Reply - May 18, 2013 - 04:45pm PT
Here is to a year of missing you a whole lot Dad.

I think it's a bit worse since after losing my Mom, I at least still had him. Now that he is gone, yeah... It's a very different world without one's parents.

I know many of you understand, have been through it too. It's weird, eh?

Social climber
the Wastelands
May 18, 2013 - 05:34pm PT
I think I know how you feel

I lost my father 16 years ago and my mother at 97 this past September

you and I are orphans now!

every single day I think of my mom and dad, what they said and how they lived

like your folks they were from the Greatest Generation

we honor them by living as they lived, with empathy and compassion for all living things

I can tell from your words that they were very proud of you!


Social climber
1187 Hunterwasser
May 18, 2013 - 06:20pm PT
Mom's goodbye date is challenging for me, after several years. I am a lot closer to my dad now and I wonder what it will be like when he goes. I'm glad you share what you're going through as it helps me to know other people are in the same boat. Take care!
Off White

Tenino, WA
May 18, 2013 - 06:34pm PT
Thanks for sharing those stories, I guess we know where you got some of your character, eh? Here's to a life lived well, a reminder of what we all should strive for.

Topic Author's Reply - May 18, 2013 - 06:43pm PT
Thanks Michelle,

It's a weird day, Aris is sick too so it's been a little rough. I don't know the answers about death. All I know is time just keeps going, the trash gets picked up, the bills pile up, and even when there is a great loss... Everyone keeps moving... Sometimes I want to yell out, make people notice each other, take a second to value their own time, their own lives since it's passing so fast. I want to yell at them, make them not waste it. Tell folks who you love that you LOVE THEM. Now is the time to experience your big dream, tomorrow might not be there. What annoys some folks, angers them, makes them feel righteous... Does it really matter? Really? On their death bed, will they really be caring about it? Most of it is so stupid. A big waste of time. Instead do what makes you feel good, what makes you feel free. Instead go love and be loved, enjoy this life.

It is what one really should be focusing on.

Trad climber
The great state of advaita
May 18, 2013 - 08:19pm PT
There is great power in the way you conduct yourself, in your words, in your insights. No doubt that your parents played a great role in that. And you have shown us a small glimpse into how that came about. Their gifts to you are vast... not just to you, not just to your family, but to all of us. I believe we can affect people we barely know in profound ways, sometimes, we don't even know that we've done it. Such is the case your wonderful family makes.

Peace and love to you today. Yes, kids still have their needs and wants calling to us. Know that well. In spite of it all, life carries on. That you can reflect will eventually, if not already, be picked up by them as well. And the wheel continues to spin.


Trad climber
Millbrae, CA
May 19, 2013 - 12:18pm PT
It's a very different world without one's parents.

May 18th was my Dad's birthday. He's been gone since 2004. Mom's been gone for 25 years. But on certain days, it still feels like yesterday. Yesterday that they held you, laughed with you, yelled at you, loved you, made you crazy, filled your heart and made you feel safe. Yesterday that they passed from here, in this moment - tangible, audible - to there.

If you had good parents (not everyone has, and I'm sorry for that), what you remember the most was the feeling of being loved, and of being taken care of, of being held in that way that a parent holds a child.

Best wishes, Phyl


Social climber
May 19, 2013 - 01:25pm PT
What a bad ass!! He rubbed off quite a bit o' that on you :) stop by nomad idyllwild some time and pick up your hug.

Topic Author's Reply - May 20, 2013 - 12:53am PT
Thanks folks,

I simply miss them tons.
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