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Seamstress

Trad climber
Yacolt, WA
May 2, 2013 - 01:22pm PT
Love the good stories about the good people. Love watching those random acts of kindness. This is what a true community will do.
Bad Climber

climber
May 2, 2013 - 03:28pm PT
Wow. That Muppet is a killa. Kinda lost it there. Great story--sad, true and wonderful.

BAd
LilaBiene

Trad climber
Topic Author's Reply - May 8, 2013 - 07:50pm PT
On Saturday the planets aligned, and we had beautiful weather in the Boston area...which meant we could finally go check out the bouldering and climbing walls at our Y. The muppet was beyond excited and left me in the dust running for the playground...

"I think this is as far as I'm going to go today..."
"I think this is as far as I'm going to go today..."
Credit: LilaBiene

Add a little friendly competition to the mix...
Add a little friendly competition to the mix...
Credit: LilaBiene

"I can do that, too!"
"I can do that, too!"
Credit: LilaBiene

"Yeah...I'm sending, Mom!"
"Yeah...I'm sending, Mom!"
Credit: LilaBiene

"Talk to my agent. You're messing up my floooow, Mom!"
"Talk to my agent. You're messing up my floooow, Mom!"
Credit: LilaBiene

So, needless to say, we (surprise!) wound up at REI (again), this time in search of climbing shoes and a harness for the muppet. She dug the "Rock Monkey" shoes even though they weren't pink and even wore them to bed. ")

Unfortunately, the weekend was over all too soon and we're back slogging through the weekday madness. But tonight when we got home, there was a mysterious package addressed to the muppet peeking out of our mailbox...what could it be?

A PINK &#40;woohoo!&#41; t-shirt with Mama's daddy's name on it!!! &#4...
A PINK (woohoo!) t-shirt with Mama's daddy's name on it!!! (Note Crusher's book, open to the pages with the picture from the Totem Pole that's been on the sofa since Saturday when she got her first pair of rock climbing shoes...) :D
Credit: LilaBiene

Thank you GLee!!! The muppet sends you big hugs for the t-shirt she calls "SO cool"!!!

Edit:
Ack -- trying to fix the pictures.
FRUMY

Trad climber
Bishop,CA
Jul 25, 2013 - 09:12am PT
Thanks, for one of the Taco's best threads.
Patrick Sawyer

climber
Originally California now Ireland
Jul 25, 2013 - 09:27am PT
Amazing Lila. Good on you for your "detective" work and research.

Jennie gave up her infant daughter (Rachel) for adoption in 1970 (Jen was 19, and it was Ireland after all, single mothers were not allowed). She then fled to France (Nice) not too long after. And of course, the natural parent cannot look for their offspring by law here in Ireland. The meeting must be initiated by the "child".

Years later (2006), Rachel contacted her (I met Jen in August 2007) in Dublin. Jennie met up with Rachel. She had ended up in a well-to-do family and was running her own equestrian centre in the Wicklow Mountains.

That was the only time they have met. No word since.

Her boyfriend at the time, Richard, that was the father and from a very, very wealthy family, wanted to marry Jen and keep the baby, but he was a control freak (so Jen tells me), two years older, and totally dominating. And of course Jen's father was the same way (having abused Jen since she was five).

I can understand her decision to put her infant daughter up for adoption and get the "hell out of Dodge". Provence is much nicer anyway.

Lila, I am glad that you found some closure. Good luck and best wishes.

Cheers

Patrick

And Lila, it must be comforting in a way that in the climbing community (and I am sure elsewhere) that your natural father was well-respected and a pioneer in climbing equipment. What a great legacy.
LilaBiene

Trad climber
Technically...the spawning grounds of Yosemite
Topic Author's Reply - Aug 20, 2013 - 11:34am PT
Patrick, thanks for sharing Jennie's story. The mother's point of view is not something that's captured very often, and I can only imagine how difficult and painful her experiences must have been. One of my deepest fears, which kept me from searching for my birth mom for most of my life, was that my re-appearance would have brought back many sad memories, causing my birth mom to go through experiencing loss all over again.

A few weeks ago I learned that Ann never told Bill she was pregnant, so he never knew about me. Until then, the question had remained unanswered, and given all of the unknowns, I had found a comfortable place where I could accept what I didn't know. Learning about and accepting this has been the most difficult experience on this journey so far. I can't write much more because it just hurts too much. The weight of responsibility is more than I can conceive of or bear. Had I been able to make contact with Ann, I am now certain that it would have been horrible for her.

This hurts all the way around, so I am trying with everything I've got to make something good come out of it...one way or the other.

Photo courtesy of Valerie Cooley
Photo courtesy of Valerie Cooley
Credit: LilaBiene

As has been the case throughout the past year and a half, whenever things get to be too much, the invisible forces at work reconnect me to Ann or Bill. In this case, it is Valerie Cooley, who knew Bill through her good friend Laurel. (The photo above is of her pack, which she still carries today.) Makes me smile.

Valerie wrote to me of her own accord and shared some things about Bill that really touched my heart. I have a better idea now of who he was and how he related to the world.

A surprise in the mailbox
A surprise in the mailbox
Credit: LilaBiene

Sat and held this gingerly for a while...
Sat and held this gingerly for a while...
Credit: LilaBiene

Reminds me of one of those 007 movies...can't remember which one "&#41;
Reminds me of one of those 007 movies...can't remember which one ")
Credit: LilaBiene

Was very excited to read this for the first time!!!
Was very excited to read this for the first time!!!
Credit: LilaBiene

By the time I finished reading, I really needed these! &#40;I grabbed ...
By the time I finished reading, I really needed these! (I grabbed a tissue instead.)
Credit: LilaBiene

Valerie mentioned that she had recently found some poems of Bill's, and said that she wanted to send them along to me. I was looking forward to photocopies...I never imagined she would send the original. (I'll post the poems in a separate TR.) She also included a couple of the most beautiful, handmade handkerchiefs I have ever seen -- the needlework is exquisite. Bill gave these to her "just because"...and she gave them to me...

Valerie, thank you, more than I can say in words.

My birth parents' friends are their reflection...and what a beautiful image they have made for me.

No room for sadness in my heart; it's filled with love.
Tami

Social climber
Canada
Aug 20, 2013 - 11:46am PT
This thread keeps getting better. Awesome.
neebee

Social climber
calif/texas
Feb 4, 2014 - 08:47pm PT
hey there say, audry... bump...

for 'little girls' everywhere, that may be thinking of their beloved daddy's, tonight...

they help make us who we are, even if we don't get that time with them, that we wish we had, and in the case of miracles, like yours:

the time comes when you DO get to retrieve that lost time, in
remarkable ways that you'd never EVER dreamed of...

wow and amen, :O
LilaBiene

Trad climber
Technically...the spawning grounds of Yosemite
Topic Author's Reply - Feb 7, 2014 - 08:17am PT
Thanks, Neebs...just found this. <3

Thinking of YOU especially now, with thoughts and prayers.
LilaBiene

Trad climber
Technically...the spawning grounds of Yosemite
Topic Author's Reply - Feb 22, 2014 - 03:41pm PT
I just looked at the dates when I first posted pictures of the below, and turned beet red in the face -- it's been a rough year, but I didn't realize so much time had passed. Well, I finally got it together to put some things in frames, and so I thought I'd post a handful of pictures just to say a humble thank you, again, for the generosity of heart shown to just a couple of Dolts. <3

Lovely handmade handkerchiefs once given to Valerie Cooley by Dolt
Lovely handmade handkerchiefs once given to Valerie Cooley by Dolt
Credit: LilaBiene

Autographed, matted photo sent along by GLee after I missed Facelift 2...
Autographed, matted photo sent along by GLee after I missed Facelift 2013 (apologies for the reflections in the glass)
Credit: LilaBiene

Shadow box with hardware shared by BooDawg and LostinShanghai, and a D...
Shadow box with hardware shared by BooDawg and LostinShanghai, and a Dolt business card from Mike and Natalie Sherrick
Credit: LilaBiene

Also shown in the last photo are a beautiful original painting by Neebs, a water color of El Cap from Mouse, a mounted piton from Mastadon, the photo of Bill taken by Tom Frost @ the base of El Cap with a beautiful butterfly from Frank Hoover and a lovely white ceramic owl, representing Ann's spirit, ever present.

~

It's hard to believe that it's been just two weeks shy of two years since I first read the Alaska State Police report about Ann's passing and the rather outlandish revelations that followed. And yet it feels as if I've spent an eternity in that same, brief space in time...reeling from the initial shock, returning to face fact after fact with as much grace and strength of character as I can muster...relentlessly wondering, searching, assimilating...stumbling (howl!)...being raised up again and again by this incredible Community, experiencing outrageous coincidences making me question my most fundamental beliefs about what is real and possible...living this amorphous and persistent reworking of...well.............Everything.

But then, it hardly seems possible that all of this could have been shoehorned into just two short years.

It is with my deepest gratitude and whole heart that I thank all of you for giving me life as I never could have imagined it.

Don Lauria, you gave me my World. If there's a greater gift, I don't know of one.


LilaBiene aka Odd aka Dolt's kid

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