Thanks Neebee for sharing your story. What a special moment for Ruth to receive that on Paul's birthday.
It is very bizarre they had the same cancer. All I can reason is that they were both outside so much when they were active, Ruth raced bikes and Paul (of course) climbed. They were both VERY fair skinned. The cancer was melanoma gone internal. A big lesson learned on wearing sunscreen. I run half marathons now, something I started doing after Paul died and something I think he would be proud of me that I started... anyways, I now try my best to wear sunscreen when I run. When I forget and get a sunburn I always kick myself and can hear Paul giving me a lecture about the importance of always wearing sunscreen, on a daily basis for every day life, not just when we are active outside.
I hope his life and Ruth's life and this message are not wasted on any of us who read it.