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NutAgain!

Trad climber
South Pasadena, CA
Aug 13, 2014 - 12:22pm PT
I got my information from Stanford's School of Medicine page on depression, but what do they know?

When your main tool is a hammer, everything looks like a nail. I have a deep and abiding respect for science, engineering, and all things analytical. But we must also have humility to recognize how primitive we are in our development in some areas, and be careful that our guiding value of the scientific method does not transcend into a blind faith in our current level of scientific knowledge as the cure for all of our ills, or blind faith in the brand of an academic institution that is driven by a variety of agendas.

Tvash

climber
Seattle
Aug 13, 2014 - 12:48pm PT
My assertions also come from copious personal experience - friends included. I fail to see how Stanford's statistics with regards to the what is known about the fundamental causes of depression constitute an agenda, but YMMV.

My objective was a narrow one - to refute the aforementioned inaccurate assertion that depression is caused solely by trauma. Both the data and my personal experience show that it clearly is not. Like so many other afflictions, there is a strong genetic component.

I just had lunch with a friend who suffers from periodic depression yesterday. She had a wonderful childhood and no major trauma in her adult life, either.

Why this is controversial at all is beyond me.
Tobia

Social climber
Denial
Aug 13, 2014 - 06:15pm PT
I appreciate all the encouragement. Big Mike, we have a lot of common. I was treated differently at school because of being ADD; which didn't have a name back then. Too me it was all fun, at least on the surface because I kept everyone entertained and the teachers didn't have a clue as to what do with me, of course it wasn't so much when being disciplined for grades or behavior. Especially when I got home. My father was an "A" student his whole life and entered college when he was 15. He had little patience with my shenanigans.

I doubt there are 2 cases of depression that are the same. I believe I know as much from experience, self-education and the trials and error approach to medication as the psychiatrist I see now. That might not be an accurate statement nor realistic; but it is a very educated guess. He will suggest medicines and I will veto; because I have tried them in the past. I pretty much have the meds narrowed down. I know medicine simply does not work on me, other than Xanax (any medication that works by causing temporary amnesia would be effective on an elephant).

Twash, I agree about the genetics, as well as the sleep factor. As well as the trauma. I suffered social trauma as reactions to my depression; but trauma was not a cause. It is an inherent trait that I recall being or feeling different in my earliest memories. That isn't to say that trauma won't cause depressive illness.

The TMS treatment increased my nightly sleep from 1-2 hours to 4-5. After years of sleeping only a couple of hours, 4 or 5 seem like a vacation. Sleep is a wonderful thing. I do take a med to help insure sleep, Doxepin; which seems to have zero side effects. And the doc suggested that one.
Depression is very much a part of my genetic code, mostly in the Sicilian strands. It does seem that certain members of family are more susceptible than others. I happen to be the one in my immediate family that suffers from it the most. My father showed signs of it, as does my sister; but on a whole different level. I have no idea why they have inherit coping skills that I wasn't blessed with. But then again I have skills that they don't.

Endurance exercises (running, cycling and swimming) have always been the mainstays of beating back the dog. That was fine and dandy until I lost the ability to run with back problems. I thought pain meds were the greatest anti-depressants there were for a short period. It didn't take long to figure out how that works. Lucky for me, I don't have the addiction gene.

I started to run again and that was a great booster. I have had to convert to cycling now because my knees are gone; but it doesn't matter.

It is easy too write about this stuff when I am not in the doldrums, It is meaningless when I the dog is around. I write in hopes that other people will not feel alone if they suffer this affliction.

I also write to defend those who take the desperate final step and read or hear criticism from their family, spouses or friends. People don't take their lives without feeling pain for those they leave behind. It isn't as selfish act as so many people see it. In some cases the people they leave behind are the reasons they give up; not because they don't care about them, just the opposite.

I compare suicide to the actions some people take when pinned under a large and heavy machine and are all alone. They pull out a pocket life and sever the limb, believing this is the only way out the situation. And that is exactly what most suicides are, the only means of ending a very painful situation (life). They severe the limb. I can't think of any more drastic. Free soloing is one extreme; but they don't do it with the intention of dying.

That is not to say I recommend it. I hope and pray my life doesn't end that way. Or anyone I know and don't know. But for those that have come to end by their own hands, I beg you to believe they didn't do it out of selfishness or cowardliness.

So as many have said in this thread and other threads that deal with this topic, seek help, even if it is from a Labrador. Fight the good fight, until you can't. Just make sure you always can. This is easy for me to say right now because the evil dog is no where near.
Big Mike

Trad climber
BC
Aug 13, 2014 - 06:33pm PT
Tobia- I hear ya. Feel free to drop me a line whenever. Thanks for putting my problems in perspective.. Lol fight the good fight brother.
drljefe

climber
El Presidio San Augustin del Tucson
Aug 13, 2014 - 06:38pm PT
Interesting, that as long as I've had dog's of my own, they've all been black.
Something about The Black Dog.


Solace to you all.
Tobia

Social climber
Denial
Aug 13, 2014 - 06:42pm PT
Mr. Jefe, I have had a lifetime of black labs (the loving, swimming kind).
BLUEBLOCR

Social climber
joshua tree
Aug 13, 2014 - 07:19pm PT
Ken M, you seem like a good person to ask, how much of depression is caused by genetics? Has science(doctors) taken samples from newborns and found that some are born with a genetic make up to have depression?

It could be obvious to conclude that after a baby was born, if it didn't receive love and attention it would grow depressed within months.

But how would an unborn build up this chemical imbalance(which are we sure of, that the chemical imbalance causes depression, OR depression causes the imbalance?) that shows depression before it is able to breathe?
neebee

Social climber
calif/texas
Aug 13, 2014 - 09:42pm PT
hey there say, tobia... nice to hear from you...

say, to those suffering through depression...

hang on to this thought:

you are precious... we are all precious in our unique ways, no matter how 'not fit to any mold' we may feel that we are...

if you are 'boxed up' now... try to think of this:

you are a special gift in the world, your TIME for use,
being opened and out in the world, may
be 'sporadic' seeming, to you... but like all precious gifts,
when not in use--

you are just on the shelf, hard, dark, and lonely, yes,
or for some, a struggle-in-the-tissue, to rest and re-gather stamina,
until you are brought forth,
for the good days that you DO get--

days, when you are thus
OPENED and out there to make others feel loved, wanted, happy, cared for,
to teach them, to share your journey, or your pains, so you-and-them might grow, sort things out,or, for whatever reasons
MAY UNFOLD, at these such times...


you may slip back, into the box, and be hidden on the shelf, for who
knows how long--as you strive to recover, or hunker down, to wait it out,
or work with docs, or therapist, BUT KNOW THIS:

HANG IN THERE--your time WILL COME, little by little to be
OPENED and be a gift that is USED more often...

a gift, that lets itself fall and be broken and gone, will
never shine and be what it was MADE for...do not fall and break,
you are soooo so so very unique and special!!!!

we all know how folks LOVE gifts of all kinds and when special surprise
gifts APPEAR, even if for a bit, they are treasured as such!!!!
and for you, this gift, to be free to always be among 'those that love you'
this is a wonderful, though perhaps LONG term goal, but life
moves to goals, surely as TIME moves on... season DO change...

john's story, can encourage you that it is possible...
same as big mike...
and many of the others that posted here...
edit: say, sewellymon, too, thank you for sharing your story...

yes:
you are on the shelf, but NOT unwanted ...
you ARE a gift, but your time of use-and-shining, comes in seasonal spurts... hang on to that thought...


and, also, as to long range hope:
there is always 'movement-of-time' , flowing onward, for being unboxed, and being a constant gift, and who knows:

YOU JUST MAY BE the very GIFT to get other 'precious boxed gifts'
off their shelf, more often, or even for the long haul...



we are all rooting, cheering, or praying for you all!

my small story:
without god's help, i would have stayed on a shelf for a long time,
at one bad point, in my marriage, when i lived with a
'near impossible' situation...
i understood the shelf, though praying, and with god's strength
in my heart, thus, i 'waited for the special days'...

mine came... may yours come, too...
god bless, love, and prayers to you all...
Ken M

Mountain climber
Los Angeles, Ca
Aug 13, 2014 - 11:27pm PT
Ken M, you seem like a good person to ask, how much of depression is caused by genetics? Has science(doctors) taken samples from newborns and found that some are born with a genetic make up to have depression?

**It could be obvious to conclude that after a baby was born, if it didn't receive love and attention it would grow depressed within months.
**
But how would an unborn build up this chemical imbalance(which are we sure of, that the chemical imbalance causes depression, OR depression causes the imbalance?) that shows depression before it is able to breathe?

My background in genetics is probably more helpful than being a doctor, in terms of answering your question. I will say that there seems to be a strong genetic ASSOCIATION. But it is not simple. I don't believe that specific gene sites have yet been identified, and it is very likely that there a quite a few involved.

What may be the case is that if there are the right genetic switches thrown, one has the POTENTIAL to develop depression.....but it may or may not happen. This appears to be the case with Adult-Onset Diabetes. We all know that obesity is associated with that development---but not all obese people get it, you have to have the genetic potential, apparently.

None of this has any practical application at present, because we do not have the ability to alter the genetics at present.

The issue of lack of love/attention for babies is fascinating. It seems true that what happens is not what we might describe as depression (although how do you interview an infant?), but rather a whole variety of mental disorders that have lasting impacts.
BLUEBLOCR

Social climber
joshua tree
Aug 14, 2014 - 12:22am PT
That's Great Ken , Thanks

i was mostly wondering how deep into our boldly functioning does depression go. All the way to DNA, or is it in the cells?
Can it be handed down from our parents, is what i'm really asking?

Locker's link was very informative on the mechanics, but i didn't see anything about Genetics.




Nice Neebee!
Ken M

Mountain climber
Los Angeles, Ca
Aug 14, 2014 - 10:38am PT
Can it be handed down from our parents, is what i'm really asking?

It very commonly runs in families which strongly suggests that it can be genetic. However, clearly not always.
Big Mike

Trad climber
BC
Aug 15, 2014 - 04:35pm PT
Bump because this thread deserves to be seen.
skitch

climber
East of Heaven
Sep 17, 2014 - 04:42pm PT
So my wife convinced me to see a therapist, the therapist thinks that I need to try drugs, recommended Welbutrin.

I've never tried antidepressants, but my dad started taking celexa a few years ago and says that it helped him. My cousin tried taking something a few years back, said it made him even more suicidal.

Anyone tried welbutrin? the side effects don't sound horrible. . .
Gary

Social climber
Desolation Basin, Calif.
Sep 17, 2014 - 04:56pm PT
I think of Jeff Batten often as well. I never called him friend, though I should have.

I didn't see it coming. I didn't understand.

There was nothing I could have done, likely. Not that kind of relationship. He was a troll after all and like all trolls when he tried to be serious, when he tried to drop the veil and be himself?

He was rejected. Because of his own past.

Dingus, it still bothers me, too. I was lucky enough to climb with Jeff on a couple of occasions. He didn't seem depressed, he was happy-go-lucky. We talked about usenet agents and UCLA coeds.

When he started posting about depression, I figured it was just another troll, same as you. Even saw him at Stony Point about that time. We just exchanged some pleasantries that day, but he was smiling and cruising around to boulders.

I even thought the suicide was a troll, until I asked a fellow I know who taught at CSUN.

Not sure what any of us could have done, but I wished I'd reached out to him a bit more.

He was a good man to rope up with.
survival

Big Wall climber
Terrapin Station
Sep 17, 2014 - 05:03pm PT
Tough thread.

I have two really good friends who struggle with the blackness at all times.

What should I suggest?? Sh#t,....
John M

climber
Sep 17, 2014 - 05:32pm PT
Anyone tried welbutrin? the side effects don't sound horrible. . .

I have.. I'm probably not the best person to ask as I have difficulties taking anti depressants.
(understatement)

My background

lifetime dealing with depression

tried anti depressants for over 8 years. Tried over 30 different anti depressants. only a couple helped me for a short period of time. Most gave me debilitating side effects.

On the other hand, it appears many people have success with them. JohnE on this forum has told his success story a number of times here.

My point is that everyone is different and reacts differently to these kinds of meds. If I were you and I didn't have a history of difficulties taking prescription meds, then I would probably try it, though I would want a good doc overseeing things. Not just a family doc seeing you every 6 weeks. But someone seeing you at least once a week until you determine if its going to work for you. If you have decent medical insurance, then I would see a psychiatrist, though let me warn you, they can be some of the weirdest people on the planet. Many of them have their own social/psychosis. But then to study in depth the interplay of meds on the brain and the mind, you have to be something of a nerd.

I hope that helps.
the albatross

Gym climber
Flagstaff
Sep 17, 2014 - 08:35pm PT
Tough thread.

I have two really good friends who struggle with the blackness at all times.

What should I suggest?? Sh#t,....


Be a friend.

Listen.

Tell your friends that you love them. That them many people love them.

survival

Big Wall climber
Terrapin Station
Sep 17, 2014 - 08:39pm PT
Thanks man, that's what I shoot for.
the albatross

Gym climber
Flagstaff
Sep 17, 2014 - 08:51pm PT
Sometimes the darkness is too strong for some people.

That's a tough thing for most to accept.

I always try to remember that we are all going to die some day. Every single one of us. Dead.


That is why we should enjoy life as long as we are able.
Ghost

climber
A long way from where I started
Sep 17, 2014 - 08:59pm PT
I have two really good friends who struggle with the blackness at all times. What should I suggest?? Sh#t,....

There is no answer to that question Bruce. Or maybe there are as many answers as there are depressed friends. What helps one might make things worse for another.

Albertross pretty much summed it up -- make sure they know you love them.
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