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S.Leeper

Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
Aug 23, 2013 - 10:20pm PT
Amen to that Bob!
S.Leeper

Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
Aug 23, 2013 - 10:23pm PT
ECIYA: Great vices to have! My mouth is watering right now.
Largo

Sport climber
The Big Wide Open Face
Aug 23, 2013 - 11:32pm PT
No matter the dificulty, it can never be lessened by John B. Not if you're an alcoholic. It just makes it more worse, so the idea that drinking is an attractive option to stress is a total illusion for us. That's the insanity of the first drink. And I'm insane in that regards (and others), so I have to go to meetings all the time. The alternative is not sustainable and horrific.

JL
Chief

climber
The NW edge of The Hudson Bay
Aug 23, 2013 - 11:36pm PT
Hey bergbryce, way to go!
Likewise to everyone else doing better for doing without.
Coming up on three years myself and can't believe how quick that happened!
I remind myself (and my friends) never's a long time and that I haven't made any promises and that seems to keep the pressure off.
It's just an extended beer sabbatical!

Thanks again Hankster for starting this important and helpful thread and all those with the courage to share and inspire.

PB
TwistedCrank

climber
Bungwater Hollow, Ida-ho
Aug 23, 2013 - 11:42pm PT
It's an awesome day to be sober.

My how time crawls on. 21 years, 2 months, 1 day, and a couple hours sober I've been now.
Norwegian

Trad climber
dancin on the tip of god's middle finger
Aug 23, 2013 - 11:59pm PT
i can wonder.
if sobriety is a destination,
or is it merely a fleeting domain
within an alcoholic's boundless and beautiful journey?

i am not to suggest that the sober few
among us will relapse,
but instead i inquire if their arrival
at the edge of the cup is an achievement
upon which he/she can idle?
or is it that the scuttling feet have
temporarily landed dry suitors
a peaceful regard that will surely be soon sedated?

S.Leeper

Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:04am PT
I think Largo summed it up nicely.
S.Leeper

Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:21am PT
beautiful photo by Bill S

l Serniuk
l Serniuk
Credit: Bill S.
bvb

Social climber
flagstaff arizona
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:38am PT
I'm all in right now. 11 meetings in the last 72 hours. If I put a fraction of the energy into staying sober that I did getting and staying loaded...
S.Leeper

Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:45am PT
Way to go Bob!

Jebus H Bomz

climber
Peavine Basecamp
Aug 24, 2013 - 01:06am PT
Wow. 11 meetings in 3 days?! You ARE an American legend!

Glad to hear it's working for you.

It's been working for me too. I'm glad we're all here to help each other out.
Plaidman

Trad climber
South Slope of Mt. Tabor, Portland, Oregon, USA
Aug 24, 2013 - 02:29am PT
Nice job guys. Go for the imersion therapy.
That's what I did.
I am all in or all out.
It's just the way I'm built.

Hang in there Bob and Jebus. You are doing great!

Plaid
happiegrrrl

Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:25pm PT
I made it through Teddy's death without picking up.

On about the third day, in desolation, a voice inside said "What in the hell - who CARES anymore. Maybe if I start drinking again, at least I will get invited to the weekend drinking parties around here and won't be alone. What DIFFERENCE does it make if I end up a drunken sot for the balance of my life?"

Luckily, I was at home, a good 2 miles away from the nearest drink(at the Brauhaus) and it didn't occur to me that I was only 2 miles away from a drink.

I succumbed to the sad, give-it-up feeling for just a few seconds before that same voice inside said "Well, you know damned well that you wouldn't feel any better if you were invited to each and every one of those parties. And you know damned well that a drunk life is going to end badly. At least you have a chance, if you don't drink."

And that was the end of that close enough call.

Still very sad about Teddy, of course. He was my constant companion for 13 years and more like a human best friend than a loyal dog. On the same night I had that "pour me" thinking, I woke up in the middle of the night to the thought of Teddy, tapping me on the shoulder(sort of) and excitedly telling me "next time, I'm going to be a BIG dog!"
Largo

Sport climber
The Big Wide Open Face
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:39pm PT
Randisi, meetings help those of us who are constitionally incapable of living a sober life ourselves. Quitting the drink/drug in often the easiest part. Staying off a dry drunk is where the meetings come in. If you can stay free of resentments/judgements, and are joyous and free on your own, great. The rest of us need help, and enjoy the fellowship as well.

Bob, know that we're all proiud of you. Another bender can be disasterous.

JL
happiegrrrl

Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
Aug 24, 2013 - 02:28pm PT
“Quitting smoking is easy, I've done it thousands of times.” -- Mark Twain

Recall that back in his time, there was no quitting alcohol. But I think the sentiment works for many of us too.
Jebus H Bomz

climber
Peavine Basecamp
Aug 24, 2013 - 02:51pm PT
Randisi's method is mine, essentially. But any path in the right direction is the correct one, and it takes diff'rent strokes for us very diff'rent folks.

I am lucky to have the example of my multi-decade sober parents. They don't go to meetings. I doubt they know the day of their sobriety's beginnings. They just drink iced tea and don't drink alcohol. Their example lets me know what I'm capable.

Maybe I'm missing a lot by not going to meetings of some sort. If I didn't have stories and examples like I see here, I'd probably need to go just to see that the fantasies of beer guzzlin' freedom, bikini-clad women interested in drunken sots, and relief from the drudgery of life we are told are all ours in the media outlets are NOT the true to life reality. Of course, my nursing career also offers me the example of seeing daily the final product of a drunken lifestyle.

And it is not pretty. You will only find respite in your final shove off into fantasy land and away from the reality the rest of us all share. You won't mind then that your family is done with you, that you just sh#t yourself, and that you are tied to a bed because you keep taking out life supporting tubes. Ah, yes, that is true beer guzzlin' freedom. Shoot THAT in HD and advertise it!
Jaybro

Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
Aug 24, 2013 - 02:56pm PT


Eleven meetings in three days? That's a dangerous amount of bad coffee! But good on ya for doing what it takes!!
Michelle

Social climber
1187 Hunterwasser
Aug 24, 2013 - 04:13pm PT
These last few months have been on and off for me. I have been bored, etc, blah blah reason. Now that I'm finding I have other goals and an actual desire to live, drinking seems so trivial to that andtoday at least, I'm not drinking. I like coming here to this thread. I have never liked meetings though, even when I had a few years before and was involved more. I'm sure I'll be making my way there shortly since I can't find much clarity at the beer store. I never thought I'd choose sobriety vs being compelled by no-other-choice disaster mode. My life is actually pretty good. This can only bring me closer to who I want to be.
The Chief

climber
From the Land of the Mongols
Aug 24, 2013 - 06:23pm PT
if sobriety is a destination

Nope.

It is a journey. A One Day at a Time Journey.

Sometimes, especially at the beginning, it is one hour, even a one minute at a time journey.

Progress NOT Perfection.

11 Meetings in 3 days.... my first year I was doing 5-6 meetings a day. That is how bad this drunk was.

Ya gotta do what ya gotta do to fight the battle. That battle will end the day you finally die. The ultimate goal is to die, sober. Regardless the shetstorms that are whirling around you.

"My serenity is directly proportional to my level of acceptance".



13 years, 3 months, 13 days and 18 hours.

Only by the Grace of God and AA.

Sobriety for me is just like the IOM TT, you gotta stay 110% focused from start to finish.

Or else you will die.









"It Pays to be a Winner!




Staying sober JUST for today, makes me one!


150% Intensity. That is Sobriety for this drunk.

N'joy
http://vimeo.com/59816919



If I put a fraction of the energy into staying sober that I did getting and staying loaded...

I highly suggest that you best put ten times the energy staying sober as you did getting loaded. That is of course if you want to stay there. Sober that is.
tradmanclimbs

Ice climber
Pomfert VT
Aug 25, 2013 - 12:11am PT
Happie, sorry about your pooch and good job staying sober through it. As we all know drinking just makes the pain worse.. I know your BD is coming up real soon and it would suck to have to start all over...

I know how you feel about the critter. Lost a cat once to a fast moveing car. Held the dead cat in my arms and paced arround the house crying for about 8 hrs untill it got light out and the cat was cold and stiff with riamortis. My GF finally told me that it was time to put the kitty down so I dug a hole in his favorite sunny spot in the yard and burried him with a can of tuna and a squirle that he had just killed....... so sad. At least Teddy lived a full life and we all have to complete that cycle of life and death.... Stay strong!
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