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bvb

Social climber
flagstaff arizona
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:38am PT
I'm all in right now. 11 meetings in the last 72 hours. If I put a fraction of the energy into staying sober that I did getting and staying loaded...
S.Leeper

Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:45am PT
Way to go Bob!

Jebus H Bomz

climber
Peavine Basecamp
Aug 24, 2013 - 01:06am PT
Wow. 11 meetings in 3 days?! You ARE an American legend!

Glad to hear it's working for you.

It's been working for me too. I'm glad we're all here to help each other out.
Plaidman

Trad climber
South Slope of Mt. Tabor, Portland, Oregon, USA
Aug 24, 2013 - 02:29am PT
Nice job guys. Go for the imersion therapy.
That's what I did.
I am all in or all out.
It's just the way I'm built.

Hang in there Bob and Jebus. You are doing great!

Plaid
happiegrrrl

Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:25pm PT
I made it through Teddy's death without picking up.

On about the third day, in desolation, a voice inside said "What in the hell - who CARES anymore. Maybe if I start drinking again, at least I will get invited to the weekend drinking parties around here and won't be alone. What DIFFERENCE does it make if I end up a drunken sot for the balance of my life?"

Luckily, I was at home, a good 2 miles away from the nearest drink(at the Brauhaus) and it didn't occur to me that I was only 2 miles away from a drink.

I succumbed to the sad, give-it-up feeling for just a few seconds before that same voice inside said "Well, you know damned well that you wouldn't feel any better if you were invited to each and every one of those parties. And you know damned well that a drunk life is going to end badly. At least you have a chance, if you don't drink."

And that was the end of that close enough call.

Still very sad about Teddy, of course. He was my constant companion for 13 years and more like a human best friend than a loyal dog. On the same night I had that "pour me" thinking, I woke up in the middle of the night to the thought of Teddy, tapping me on the shoulder(sort of) and excitedly telling me "next time, I'm going to be a BIG dog!"
Largo

Sport climber
The Big Wide Open Face
Aug 24, 2013 - 12:39pm PT
Randisi, meetings help those of us who are constitionally incapable of living a sober life ourselves. Quitting the drink/drug in often the easiest part. Staying off a dry drunk is where the meetings come in. If you can stay free of resentments/judgements, and are joyous and free on your own, great. The rest of us need help, and enjoy the fellowship as well.

Bob, know that we're all proiud of you. Another bender can be disasterous.

JL
happiegrrrl

Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
Aug 24, 2013 - 02:28pm PT
“Quitting smoking is easy, I've done it thousands of times.” -- Mark Twain

Recall that back in his time, there was no quitting alcohol. But I think the sentiment works for many of us too.
Jebus H Bomz

climber
Peavine Basecamp
Aug 24, 2013 - 02:51pm PT
Randisi's method is mine, essentially. But any path in the right direction is the correct one, and it takes diff'rent strokes for us very diff'rent folks.

I am lucky to have the example of my multi-decade sober parents. They don't go to meetings. I doubt they know the day of their sobriety's beginnings. They just drink iced tea and don't drink alcohol. Their example lets me know what I'm capable.

Maybe I'm missing a lot by not going to meetings of some sort. If I didn't have stories and examples like I see here, I'd probably need to go just to see that the fantasies of beer guzzlin' freedom, bikini-clad women interested in drunken sots, and relief from the drudgery of life we are told are all ours in the media outlets are NOT the true to life reality. Of course, my nursing career also offers me the example of seeing daily the final product of a drunken lifestyle.

And it is not pretty. You will only find respite in your final shove off into fantasy land and away from the reality the rest of us all share. You won't mind then that your family is done with you, that you just sh#t yourself, and that you are tied to a bed because you keep taking out life supporting tubes. Ah, yes, that is true beer guzzlin' freedom. Shoot THAT in HD and advertise it!
Jaybro

Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
Aug 24, 2013 - 02:56pm PT


Eleven meetings in three days? That's a dangerous amount of bad coffee! But good on ya for doing what it takes!!
Michelle

Social climber
1187 Hunterwasser
Aug 24, 2013 - 04:13pm PT
These last few months have been on and off for me. I have been bored, etc, blah blah reason. Now that I'm finding I have other goals and an actual desire to live, drinking seems so trivial to that andtoday at least, I'm not drinking. I like coming here to this thread. I have never liked meetings though, even when I had a few years before and was involved more. I'm sure I'll be making my way there shortly since I can't find much clarity at the beer store. I never thought I'd choose sobriety vs being compelled by no-other-choice disaster mode. My life is actually pretty good. This can only bring me closer to who I want to be.
tradmanclimbs

Ice climber
Pomfert VT
Aug 25, 2013 - 12:11am PT
Happie, sorry about your pooch and good job staying sober through it. As we all know drinking just makes the pain worse.. I know your BD is coming up real soon and it would suck to have to start all over...

I know how you feel about the critter. Lost a cat once to a fast moveing car. Held the dead cat in my arms and paced arround the house crying for about 8 hrs untill it got light out and the cat was cold and stiff with riamortis. My GF finally told me that it was time to put the kitty down so I dug a hole in his favorite sunny spot in the yard and burried him with a can of tuna and a squirle that he had just killed....... so sad. At least Teddy lived a full life and we all have to complete that cycle of life and death.... Stay strong!
happiegrrrl

Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
Aug 25, 2013 - 05:06pm PT
OH MY GOD! I totally forgot....My sober anniversary is TOMORROW, August 26th.

Ho man....thanks for reminding me. Wouldn't it have been terrible to completely have forgotten? I can't believe I WOULD have, had it not been for your post. So....today is the 17th anniversary of my last hangover, and tomorrow is 17 years from first day sober.



Thank you for the condolences for Teddy. I put a dog biscuit on the stone at his grave's head, and the next morning it was gone. Maybe there's something about the Chinese tradition of leaving food offerings.... Or maybe a squirrel got it. Either way, it was nice to go visit and have it gone.

Brandon-

climber
The Granite State.
Aug 25, 2013 - 05:14pm PT
Sobriety is an elusive goal for me.

It works for a while, then I get a weekend and I'm all 'Well, I'm going to the liquor store.'

Addiction is a cruel thing. Maybe some of you will say that I should just man up and send it. Well, it's not as easy as that. I hate it, yet I support it.

One of these days I'm going to make it work. I promise.

Props to those of you who have defeated the beast, my battle continues.
S.Leeper

Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
Aug 25, 2013 - 07:37pm PT
I could not have done it without meetings and a great loving sponsor.It's not about toughing it out.Belief in a higher power(whatever that means to you), has made all the difference to me.

my meeting is tomorrow; can't wait! :-)
Stevee B

Trad climber
Oakland, CA
Aug 25, 2013 - 08:18pm PT
My favorite sponsor said two things to me every time we talked on the phone:
"Steve, I just need to remember where I came from and that I can't do it alone. That's all I need to do."
Michelle

Social climber
1187 Hunterwasser
Aug 25, 2013 - 08:26pm PT
Surrender, ARGH!

Jaybro

Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
Aug 25, 2013 - 09:43pm PT
I'm not big on surrender, or the higher being, either. I just don't drink because my world runs better that way.

Oh and happy 'birthday' Terrie, and that other person too!!
bvb

Social climber
flagstaff arizona
Aug 25, 2013 - 10:30pm PT
Way to go Terrie! Only three meetings today, I'm slackin'.
tradmanclimbs

Ice climber
Pomfert VT
Aug 25, 2013 - 10:43pm PT
Reason i remember happies BD is about now is because today is my 7th. My best drinking bud from Silverton has been in VT all summer and we have done a bunch of great climbs (and a few stinkers) Alex still hits it pretty good. I do the driveing and he does the drinking. i hit my seltzer pretty hard and and the ice cream but managed to stay clean though there were a few rough spots. Alex leaves for CO tomorrow and we had a pretty big day @ Poko yesterday. Lot of multi pitch climbing and a lot of driveing. Looong day but I pulled through. should be easy sailing for a spell;)
Jebus H Bomz

climber
Peavine Basecamp
Aug 25, 2013 - 11:08pm PT
I'm on the seltzer too. I find I need a beverage that gives me "pause", even if that's only some stiff carbonation. I have a drinking, as in "chugging" problem too, used to throwing down the drinks. Big time coffee drinker all the way through everything too. Maybe a wee bit of a moderation problem. Ya think?

I hope everybody is hanging in there using whatever powers work for them. For those really questioning the use thing, that's a huge clue. Pretty hard to argue against it all though, it is an insidious beast that lives inside you. I guess you honestly ask yourself if things are getting better or do you feel like you are getting away with something every day you get high or drunk.
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