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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Jun 29, 2013 - 01:45pm PT
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Thanks eKat. Teddy is doing better today, but yesterday was bad.
Sobriety is a funny thing for me. It seems I really haven't got much of a problem staying away fro a drink, and even the DESIRE barely ever even whispers in my ear. When that does happen, I am lucky in that so far I have been able to say "Bad idea!" or similar.
I know how hard it can be for many people to stay away from that first drink, and I am REALLY lucky. because I have the feeling that if I hadn't been "one of the lucky ones" (who had the desire lifted) there is no way in hell I would have been able to string together this much time sober. I'm good at being sober but it really does seem that I'm not so good at Life 101 even with sobriety sometimes.
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Vegasclimber
Trad climber
Las Vegas, NV.
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Jun 29, 2013 - 04:11pm PT
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I know just what you mean Happie. Life 101 was the last promise that came to me as well.
My 13 year anniversary was February 14th, but it's only the last 3 years where I actually started to get my life running in a truly positive direction. Getting my life on the right track and forcing myself to not only be, but focus on dedicating myself to becoming a better person, took a lot longer then I thought it would.
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Edge
Trad climber
New Durham, NH
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Three years sober today, which is also my 52nd birthday...
I am so grateful to be where I am today, and that the obsession to drink has been completely removed. I can't rest on that though, every day I work on my spiritual growth that was the key to my sobriety. That usually begins with a visit to the chapel of the Great Outdoors. Today that happens to be waking up near the North Rum of the Grand Canyon and driving through Navajo Nation to Sedona, with plenty of walks and stops along the way. I never could have done this, or appreciated it, if I was still swillin'.
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Happy Birthday and Sober Anniversary, Edge!
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Anxious Melancholy
Mountain climber
Between the Depths of Despair & Heights of Folly
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twenty days today. looking forward to a true independence celebration in a couple more.
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bvb
Social climber
flagstaff arizona
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I, too, am well today. Had coffee with a friend this morning, hitting the noon meeting with many good people two blocks from my house, then hanging with my son for this afternoon, and dinner. So very very very much better than being sick of soul, isolated, and wasted.
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Seamstress
Trad climber
Yacolt, WA
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Every time I see this thread pop up, I need to look. Your support of each other is very comforting. I hope my son has that kind of support. I think he's been clean fo the last three years, but I worry about that devil on his shoulder.
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S.Leeper
Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
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great meeting today.
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S.Leeper
Social climber
somewhere that doesnt have anything over 90'
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way to go , Edge!!
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Edge
Trad climber
New Durham, NH
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Ha, Timid, thanks for pointing that out; totally unintentional.
Friends shouldn't let friends (with fat fingers) type on itty bitty iPhones.
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Anxious Melancholy
Mountain climber
Between the Depths of Despair & Heights of Folly
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Is it appropriate to seek a sponsor here? San Diego County? PM me.
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Plaidman
Trad climber
South Slope of Mt. Tabor, Portland, Oregon, USA
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Getting a sponsor is a tricky thing. Whatever works.
I found mine in a meeting. He was a mean old
bastard. Just what I needed.
By the way all. I had my B-day on the 5th of July.
Soberity date 7/5/1985
Plaid
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Plaidman
Trad climber
South Slope of Mt. Tabor, Portland, Oregon, USA
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Thanks eKAT! I have lost a bunch of weight too! 34 pounds so far and working out to keep the lean muscle mass. Feeling AWESOME!!!
Plaid
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Anxious Melancholy
Mountain climber
Between the Depths of Despair & Heights of Folly
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Plaidman,
Wow! Great work! Cograts to you and all the afflicted who find a way to not pick up that bottle again today!
Understand the tricky sponsor bit. About three years ago I had over a year sober (one of only a couple I've had in the last 4 decades) and a good sponsor. I didn't keep up my end of the bargain, and cancer has taken him.
I'm 27 days into my recovery and starting to look around for sponsorship. Just thought that if I could find someone that also battles that damn climbing demon there might be a bit more connection....
Sponsor? Unsure. The only thing I'm sure of right now is that I can't pick up that next bottle, and that my life has become totally unmanageable. Good enough for now.
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Went to a wedding this weekend and you know what? Even though:
 I knew only the bride by more than acquaintance
There were people 20 years younger than I, and 20 years older, but not really any within a few years of my own age
No unattached men within my age preferences
Not many other "single units" except for two young guys who sat sullenly playing computer games on their phones(meaning nobody really interested in holding a conversation with me, or bringing me into one they were having amongst friends
I had no "Teddy Escort Service"(he acts as a buffer for my discomfort in social settings)
I had a light level discomfort for the duration of the events
It didn't OCCUR to me to drink! OR feel sorry for myself!(though that did come after I got home, safely away from imposing it on others).
Not only that, when I saw one of the drink offerings was lemonade, I was smart enough to ask if there was alcohol in it, and when I found out there was, thought "Well, that's really not very bright of the one who made it. People just ADD their own if they wanted boozed lemonade!"
But, the fruit punch was clean, and so I wasn't limited to a choice between soda and plain water.
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blahblah
Gym climber
Boulder
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Well, that's really not very bright of the one who made it. People just ADD their own if they wanted boozed lemonade!"
I don't know if it's bright or not, but it's certainly deceptive to describe a booze drink as "lemonade" without noting the booze, at least in any situation I've ever been.
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happiegrrrl
Trad climber
www.climbaddictdesigns.com
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Yeah - I guess so. Hopefully the bartender thought to mention the alcohol to each person who requested the lemonade! But I think that he wasn't the one responsible for the sign. It was probably made by a friend of the wedding party(small, casual wedding - very nicely done, but not professionally organized.
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Anxious Melancholy
Mountain climber
Between the Depths of Despair & Heights of Folly
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Jul 11, 2013 - 07:32pm PT
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To echo the Hankster's original post, I hit my 30th day and its been rougher than I expected. Guess those stories of sober alcoholics falling off the wagon, and falling really hard is true. I mean, I guess on some level I understood that heavier drinking or riskier behavior or abandonment of the things we love or just the whole sh*ty place we wind up is well discussed, but I'm not sure I paid much attention to how hard it is to crawl back up out of that pit of despair, mental retardation, and physical disability.
Just AM eating the elephant......
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Jaybro
Social climber
Wolf City, Wyoming
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Jul 12, 2013 - 09:08am PT
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Hang on Anxious and go easy on yoursf. sobriety has its challenges, but its soooooo worth it!
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Stevee B
Mountain climber
Oakland, CA
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Jul 12, 2013 - 06:53pm PT
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Please hang in there. At 23 years, I can tell you it gets soooooo much better. And it does get easier.
I know some people in San Diego. In fact I might know a really good dude who climbs and is solid in the program. Want me to ping him for you?
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